Life is full or sorrows.....
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i could understand if it was becoz she was with that guy for 3 years...but wat the heck is 3 years when the guy cheats you and lies to you to be his standby while he try out other gals. and he "so claims" to love her very much,
If u are sure u are right about her ex-bf, then surely time will tell the truth. It's just a matter of time that she will know the truth, whether or not he is cheating on her. But if she knows the truth, however it may be, and accepts it, then why not let her be? She may just be happier if she's not torn apart between 2 men.As months passed...i felt she was juz right, it never mattered if she wasnt pretty or wat. She was wat i wanted...someone caring and loving. All my previous ex...were selfish bastards...never seem to find the right gals. So i sort of fallen for her over time.
Loving someone and finding the right person is not exactly about how u said it is (above). It's not about finding someone who is right and good for u, rather it's about being the right and good one for the girl. If she chooses her ex-bf, then she probably knows what is best for herself. And if u persist despite her expressing her intentions to return to him, then who's the selfish one? I am not provoking u in anyway. I hope u see this the right way.
i feel that bastard is so lucky... how could such bastards get so lucky... a gal who is willing to love him no matter wat he did..
I am 100% sure there will be a girl who will appreciate u as much as ur friend appreciates her ex-bf. I am sure of it. It's just a matter of time. Learn to be patient and persevere, its reward is the crown of life. (James 1:12) Perhaps God is making you learn to appreciate ur wife-to-be-whoever-she-is more when u finally meet her. Many people learn to appreciate their companions that way. So go through it the hard way, that's all. Ever had a friend who lost their parents and only learned to cherish them then? Be glad it hasnt happened to u or ur wife-to-be. This way, u probably won't get a divorce in the future. I am so depressed and upset. i keep thinking of the things me and GAL did together. bus rides home, the chats, the nights out, the movies when we were so close, the nights when she had to wait for me finish my cs games at egames to go home together...
Something I learn is this, people say "time heals all wounds". But i realise that time does nothing but hides ur wounds, Jesus heals all wounds, and i mean it. I am a witness to this myself.
how she wanted me to drink less, etcetc etc. it juz hurts me so much. i cant stop thinking of all that. though so many ppl say juz forget it...ignore her and get on with my life...its nver that simple...when u live through something like this...i have not been even going to service nowadays....so many xtians simply do nonsense that upset u. fucking hell. totally disappointing... hypocrites...been jumping church eversince... hypocrites everywhere...rarely see truely devoted xtians nowadays.
"For all have sinned and fall short of the Glory of God". Sounds familiar? Well, Christians, all Christians for that matter are sinners. Can't blame, we are all like that. It takes the grace of God to overlook all this, something that we can't possibly possess unless we receive peace and grace from Him in the first place. That's why some people are so frustrated and upset, because there's no peace inside. For that matter, i strongly encourage u to return to Church for service. Renew urself with God, feel the difference. "A broken spirit, He will not despise". Anyway, one more thing about Christianity is that it's about ur personal relationship with God. The bible says in Hebrews 12:2-3=>"Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, scorning it's shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart." My brother the reason why u lose heart is because u set ur eyes on the wrong things... in this case, sinful men.
Now it says in the verse that Jesus is the author and finisher of our faith, that's why we need to set our eyes on Him. In 1 Corinthians 13:13, it says "but these 3 remain, faith, hope and love". You must have faith to have hope. Then hope to give rise to love. If u have no faith, because u set ur eyes on sinful men, who make u lose heart and weary, then how on earth are u going to have hope and love? To have a hope for the future, u should set ur eyes on Jesus, who is the author and finisher of ur faith.
Return back to church and hear more of God's words in the service as well. Because in Romans 10:17 it talks about "faith coming from hearing the word of God" as well. Take care of urself and God loves you.
Anything to say, just email me.
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i know how you feel
its the same for me as sophie..
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i only wish that the story changes to suit us
for me..itz exactly the same case as Tarepanda's
no difference at all except that we are schooling and we don't go out that often
now .. i guess itz over..-sigh-
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Andrew, don't mind me for saying this though. Sometimes, in life, the person we love most might not be the person we marry but we still want her to be the happiest she can be. True love is always full of scarifices and sometimes things aren't what we think it is.
Wish ya the best in all you do. -
/me pats panda..
comon andrew get off the gal,forget abt her.She doesnt deserve you. =) I'll see where we go chiong after the match k? -
relax andrew.....i may not know all of your problems and i may be younger than u, but i have been through lots too. I understand how u feel.
Remember how we consoled each other the other time? Remember wat u told me? Maybe u should try them out for yourself too =)
I know its hard. Matters concerning love were never easy to solve and forget. Time will heal the deepest wound i believe.
She cannot own 2 guys at once, its selfish and irresponsible. U did the right thing by leaving her 1st, since she feels more for the other guy. Its her happiness that counts most right? Maybe one day she would realise that the guy was never right for her and come to know who really cares for her and who she really loves.
Just cheer up and get on with your life. I know its hard, but what can u do? Don't commit suicide or do anything silly. Remember to jio me if u do. Remember what I told u before?
Sometimes facts are hard to accept, but u just have to try and swallow them, no matter how hard it hurts u.
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Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud. It is not rude. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrong doing. It does not delight in evil, but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes, perseveres -
Andrew relax lar..
tomorrow about 3-5 i will be at e-games
if u want..look for me dere..
then hor after ur match call me hor..come WinDz Bdae party..got vodka..woopee~ !!
that's about it
-sigh- life suXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXx
oh ya hor..euro is gonna chiong with u after the match right?
call him come windz Bdae also lor..i think should be can lar..if he doesn't mind mixing with Icy_
hehehe
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Panda dont think so much lar....try tO forget her..i know it is not easy but i know there is still alot of innocent n sweets girls outside...she just say a few good n sweets talks only..maybe she is being good to u as a very good fren...If u need someone to talk n help u..u can give me a caLL..AnytimE..96684887-DisfunK aka Gary..
OK~~RELAX onLY..Take things easY...
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Si bei Song Tio BO
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All say want to chiong then never chiong...if u all want to chiong...i would had....wanted to drink,....
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PANDA SUX
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tare...though i dun noe u well..just wanna say some comforting words lor..dun think tat much lor..i believe u can find another better girl..it takes time..love cant be rush..i too got kena hurt..i guess most ppl does..dun rush love..cos even if u rush and got tat love,u wun be loved..take ur time and feel ur true love..someone whom u really love and she really love u much and truly..better to find someone whom she love u more than u love her..at least u will be loved..better than to put in effort to love someone tat hard..cheer up ok!!tarepanda originally very cheerful on leh!!!i even got the logo on my hp!so dun let me down!cheer up!!!
hehe..by the way..u wan go drink find me la!!dun see me quiet quiet one..i can tok a lot one..if u dun mind me as a ger go drink wif ya guys..jio me la!i any drink also onz u!we play daidee!!who lose drink whole jug and pay for the drinks!!hahahahaa. -
Actually i dun quite believe in below sentences but in the end i believe and it is quite true....
What yours is yours. What ain't yours no matter how hard u do it still do not belongs to you.
Life is like that.
I too got a very sad relationship with my ex.
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[This message has been edited by kukubird (edited 15 October 2000).]