Why are some guys so insensitive?

• rlsh07

  2 Dec 08, 22:23

  why are some guys just so sensitive? argh.. my brother really want my mum to spell out everything that she want. first thing his voice is already so loud. then he do the wrong thing at the wrong time without knowing that what he does is wrong. when i tell him not to raise his voice n the wrong thing that he does, he insist that he did not do anything wrong and instead blame my mum for losing her temper.

  really blockhead u knoe he! . he say my mum is a very difficult woman to deal with. i do admit my mum is quite difficult at times but i do understand my mum do show her concern the wrong way sometimes but she loves us a lot.

  my brother just do not get it at all, he thinks that my mum looks down on him.

  i just do not understand why he can be so insensitive sometimes

  argh. i dun get it why he dun get it.

• gunner77

  2 Dec 08, 23:10

  guys are like tat one

• rlsh07

  2 Dec 08, 23:11

  i think so too. some la. sigh....,.

• gunner77

  2 Dec 08, 23:14

  i also like tat.

  sometimes i don understand what the hell my mother is doing

• youyayu

  3 Dec 08, 00:38

  u girls ar.. same for my gf also

  want me buy things for her just say la..

  have to go one big round.. =.=

  of cos piss off la

• rlsh07

  3 Dec 08, 00:39

  Originally posted by youyayu:

  u girls ar.. same for my gf also

  want me buy things for her just say la..

  have to go one big round.. =.=

  of cos piss off la

  but i think my bro is the ultimate liao

• youyayu

  3 Dec 08, 00:43

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  but i think my bro is the ultimate liao

  i think your bro is pissed off cos everything your mum want she want to hint

  and do wrongly kena scold

  not like guys

  we want it we will say it..

• purpledragon84

  3 Dec 08, 00:43

  ur brother how old?

   

• QX179R

  3 Dec 08, 00:43

  OT: kindly check ur topic title for error..

• rlsh07

  3 Dec 08, 00:45

  Originally posted by youyayu:

  i think your bro is pissed off cos everything your mum want she want to hint

  and do wrongly kena scold

  not like guys

  we want it we will say it..

  actually the main trigger is that my brother is doing the wrong thing at the wrong time but he do not want to admit his mistake and furthermore even when my mum tell him le, he will get defensive and when my mum nag, then he will say why mum never say this in the first place.

  so i dun  knoe. oh well.. but my bro  is really bai mu sometimes.

• rlsh07

  3 Dec 08, 00:46

  Originally posted by QX179R:

  OT: kindly check ur topic title for error..

  you can edit for mi ba. i think i so angry at him le

• youyayu

  3 Dec 08, 00:48

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  actually the main trigger is that my brother is doing the wrong thing at the wrong time but he do not want to admit his mistake and furthermore even when my mum tell him le, he will get defensive and when my mum nag, then he will say why mum never say this in the first place.

  so i dun  knoe. oh well.. but my bro  is really bai mu sometimes.

  see what i mean by turning one big round?

• rlsh07

  3 Dec 08, 00:49

  Originally posted by purpledragon84:

  ur brother how old?

   

  he ar? 26 liao lo

• QX179R

  3 Dec 08, 00:49

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  he ar? 26 liao lo

  i'm 3 yrs younger..

• rlsh07

  3 Dec 08, 00:51

  Originally posted by youyayu:

  see what i mean by turning one big round?

  first thing my brother did wrong, he did not admit. i have clearly told him wat is his mistake, he still think that he is in no wrong. so wat do you think then?

• QX179R

  3 Dec 08, 00:52

  some pple must learn it the hard way..

• rlsh07

  3 Dec 08, 00:53

  i have clearly told him how to behave in front of my mum because i knoe my bro would not observe. so i clearly told him not to raise his voice, just be obedient for once n just go to bath. but my bro did not do all these things and still want to make my mum so angry. sometimes i think that a peace maker in the house is really hard to become

• purpledragon84

  3 Dec 08, 00:53

  wah sai.. hmm.. can give one solid example?

  i think youyayu has a point in that if some things need to be done, just say it out.. sometimes, not the guy see and dunwan do.. but just that he missed it altogether..

  but the tone and voice part, i think someone better knock some sense into him.. if at 26yrs old one stil does not know how to respect their own parents and find them naggy, self-reflection is really short in supply..

• youyayu

  3 Dec 08, 00:55

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  first thing my brother did wrong, he did not admit. i have clearly told him wat is his mistake, he still think that he is in no wrong. so wat do you think then?

  like you already said.. your mum nv get straight to the point.. and your bro intend to do the wrong things so your mum is at wrong in the first place..

  don't think guys speak the same language as you women okay..

  girl : wow that dress is very nice
  real msg : buy for me that dress
  
  girl : i not hungry
  real msg: I on diet
  
  girl: i nv bring enough money
  real msg: Treat me

• youyayu

  3 Dec 08, 01:00

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  i have clearly told him how to behave in front of my mum because i knoe my bro would not observe. so i clearly told him not to raise his voice, just be obedient for once n just go to bath. but my bro did not do all these things and still want to make my mum so angry. sometimes i think that a peace maker in the house is really hard to become

  well for my house..

  if i am unhappy about something i just shout back at the person i not happy with sound like i am childish but belive or not this meathod is taught by my dad he say no matter who him or mum not happy just express it out..

  what for? make your self sick by keeping everything by yourself.. instead of expressing out..

  but maybe your brother get a little overbroad.. but then again hey.. maybe he got a real bad day and get nagged any guy will lose his temper..

• rlsh07

  3 Dec 08, 01:01

  Originally posted by purpledragon84:

  wah sai.. hmm.. can give one solid example?

  i think youyayu has a point in that if some things need to be done, just say it out.. sometimes, not the guy see and dunwan do.. but just that he missed it altogether..

  but the tone and voice part, i think someone better knock some sense into him.. if at 26yrs old one stil does not know how to respect their own parents and find them naggy, self-reflection is really short in supply..

  my mother already told him that if he wants to be certified accountant, he just have to finish his studies first then he can get higher pay and at least have some certification.

  but he refuse and he blame my mum for nagging at him all the time. actually i agree with my mum because my brother only have a levels. so having a certification is also not a bad idea. but my brother just want to go on his way then wrk in a accounting firm and come home keep complaining how tough it is, there is so many things that he have not learn, then my mum just sort of nag him asking him to go n study for the certification then he raise his voice at my mum again. but my brother still insist on his way.

  i think sooner or later he have to take that certifcation, he have to take one because he already have the experience le ma but then he is not certified after all.

  actually my brother do not have any wrong. he make his own decision. just do not like him keep complaining abt this and that then always raise his voice at my mum

  frankly speaking, i also cannot tahan my mum's nagging but over the years, i just let her yank finished and be sensitive to get out of her way, and try not to make her more angry. but my brother just dun care i think.

• rlsh07

  3 Dec 08, 01:03

  Originally posted by youyayu:

  well for my house..

  if i am unhappy about something i just shout back at the person i not happy with sound like i am childish but belive or not this meathod is taught by my dad he say no matter who him or mum not happy just express it out..

  what for? make your self sick by keeping everything by yourself.. instead of expressing out..

  but maybe your brother get a little overbroad.. but then again hey.. maybe he got a real bad day and get nagged any guy will lose his temper..

  yeah lo. but i hope that he learn self-control ba because he quite implusive sometimes

• purpledragon84

  3 Dec 08, 01:11

  hmm.. he chose this path on his own and he comes home to complain and grumble abt it?

  i think he's frustrated things are not going the way he wants it to be.. when he finally understands that relevant higher education will aid him in his current job he'll take it.. but i believe this has to come intrinsically..

  tell ur mum to save her breath and forget abt talking sense into him la.. i mean, if he doesn't buy the idea now, whatever she says will only be of pressure to him.. let him whine and complain.. tell ur mum to tell him "u chose this path urself, now u r responsible for it"..

  for the child to grow, the parent has to let go..

• rlsh07

  3 Dec 08, 01:14

  Originally posted by purpledragon84:

  hmm.. he chose this path on his own and he comes home to complain and grumble abt it?

  i think he's frustrated things are not going the way he wants it to be.. when he finally understands that relevant higher education will aid him in his current job he'll take it.. but i believe this has to come intrinsically..

  tell ur mum to save her breath and forget abt talking sense into him la.. i mean, if he doesn't buy the idea now, whatever she says will only be of pressure to him.. let him whine and complain.. tell ur mum to tell him "u chose this path urself, now u r responsible for it"..

  for the child to grow, the parent has to let go..

  i guess so but i think he is doing better now at his wrk, my mum did not talk abt it anymore actually.

  oh well...

• youyayu

  3 Dec 08, 01:52

  lol untill now i still think paper are useless

  my dad nv even got a psle