16. Chandragomin: Not correcting others despite their kleshas [defilements, e.g. greed, hate, delusion]: The sixteenth secondary misdeed [of the Bodhisattva vows] emphasizes our responsibility for the behaviour of others. When we have the opportunity to favourably influence people who are behaving badly and can see that treating them harshly [or gently, with good intentions] would put an end to their negative conduct, we must not hesitate to do so. If we remain silent simply because we are afraid of irritating them, it is a misdeed associated with kleshas.
This refers to situations where we see that by dealing with people severely we could help them correct themselves but we do not want to get involved. We say nothing because we fear that they might take offence. An exception is when the people’s misbehaviour is insignificant and concerns mainly affairs of this life alone, and interfering would pain them and distress them greatly. When they would benefit only very briefly from our intervention or when it could at best bring about a short-lived change in them, it is better to remain silent. The same is true when our efforts would create great obstacles for them.
In short, this misdeed consists of letting others make serious mistakes when we could do something to prevent it. The present secondary misdeed is well as the previous one [of not appropriately rejecting misplaced disrepute] are both contrary to an aspect of the Bodhisattva ethic of helping others, which is eliminating the harmful activities of others.
Shen Shi'an
Wisdom and experience are needed to know what course of action would actually help another overcome their mistakes. Understanding the person's temperament may be an important first step... There's no one-size-fits-all.
I was talking to a friend the other day, and he told me he believes in giving the erring person space to breathe. Pushing righteousness down another's throat is probably the fastest way to alienate the very person you are trying to reach.
have to balance lor, that also say,
慈悲多�害,方便出下�
unwise compassion can also lead to disaster, over convenience can also be an low-class act. (roughtly translated)
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Originally posted by sinweiy:have to balance lor, that also say,
慈悲多�害,方便出下�
unwise compassion can also lead to disaster, over convenience can also be an low-class act. (roughtly translated)
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Indeed, over-indulgence can breed depravity.
Originally posted by realization:Wisdom and experience are needed to know what course of action would actually help another overcome their mistakes. Understanding the person's temperament may be an important first step... There's no one-size-fits-all.
I was talking to a friend the other day, and he told me he believes in giving the erring person space to breathe. Pushing righteousness down another's throat is probably the fastest way to alienate the very person you are trying to reach.
So true...
though this statement
"Not Rectifying Evil Is Evil "
is ultimately undeniably true, when u see it from a inner personal (Mahayana) standpoint.
Not Rectifying our Inner "evil" defilement Is utmost "Evil".
evil defilement as in attachement, dualism and wandering thoughts.
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