Sex is no prob.Originally posted by FireIce:oh, i 4got to ask.........
hows the s3x?
the wife receptive or not?Originally posted by LazerLordz:Have you tried marraige counselling or perhaps if you go to church, try to get a pastor to mediate...
THis is the big mistake everyone have. i am not suspecting her adultery or having extra marital affairs.Originally posted by FireIce:u suspicious of her until like that but when comes to s3x u ok she ok???
She has kinda moved on, from a husband that has no time for her to finding her own company and friends. I think both of you have drifted, and thus the problems. It is not easy to maintain a relationship. If both of you are willing to work hard to work it well, it will take effort. She needs attention and lots of it. She is still young too, can tell. Do not make her pregnant just to tie her down. It may lead to resentment. But sometimes, woman react to mother instincts. If she is ready and if you can afford to, can consider starting a family. A relationship must always move up one level. From courtship to marriage to having kids. Progression is the word. If it remains stagnant, there is really nothing to look forward to. But, you must solve your dissatisfaction fast, or you will start strangling her and the relationship. Or she may rebel. So, talk it out. If words go on deaf ears and still cannot work out, maybe its time to move on. Don't give up on working your marriage. Vows already taken. But if insufferable, do not torture yourself please.Originally posted by Troy437:THis is the big mistake everyone have. i am not suspecting her adultery or having extra marital affairs.
I am just angry that she touches men and allow men to touch her in an intimate manner while clubbing. We are not talking about jokingly push while chit chatting.
I am talking about locking of arms while walking together...resting her hand on his arms or his hand on her thighs while seated...hugging or holding on to waist while talking...
It is correct to be doing so with me...but with other men??? This is no way to behave as friends!!
What's this? Flirt ah? Flirt for what? Get attention and prasies from other men? Or get free drinks?
I work hard and bring the bread home and pay all the bills, car and house, while she doesn't pay a single thing and spents all her salary on cigarettes, drinks and 4D.
Kek sim ah....![]()
My two cents...Originally posted by Troy437:THis is the big mistake everyone have. i am not suspecting her adultery or having extra marital affairs.
I am just angry that she touches men and allow men to touch her in an intimate manner while clubbing. We are not talking about jokingly push while chit chatting.
I am talking about locking of arms while walking together...resting her hand on his arms or his hand on her thighs while seated...hugging or holding on to waist while talking...
It is correct to be doing so with me...but with other men??? This is no way to behave as friends!!
What's this? Flirt ah? Flirt for what? Get attention and prasies from other men? Or get free drinks?
I work hard and bring the bread home and pay all the bills, car and house, while she doesn't pay a single thing and spents all her salary on cigarettes, drinks and 4D.
Kek sim ah....![]()
Nope...better not try that pregnancy thing without her consent. It might just make things worse.Originally posted by Troy437:I chat with one of her very close friend and she knows some of the non-sense my wife did. But she knew my wife is not someone whom you can always talk sense into.
She propose making my wife pregnant, as the absolute freedom she enjoy is what making her get out of hand.
Can be done...but I have considerations...is it wrong as I have not get her consent to prepare herself for pregnancy...
But then again, she got no considerations for my feelings...why shd I think that far?![]()
Can you share the other aspect of your marriage? for example, do you guys do things together?Originally posted by Troy437:I chat with one of her very close friend and she knows some of the non-sense my wife did. But she knew my wife is not someone whom you can always talk sense into.
She propose making my wife pregnant, as the absolute freedom she enjoy is what making her get out of hand.
Can be done...but I have considerations...is it wrong as I have not get her consent to prepare herself for pregnancy...
But then again, she got no considerations for my feelings...why shd I think that far?![]()
We were together for 4 years plus before we got married in 2002.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:pls dont use a child as a weapon against your partner.
It doesn't seem your wife has changed much from before to after marriage. HOw long were u dating before you decided to settle down?
That what she thought and told me when we quarrelled...Originally posted by bladez87:...
from the above i think your wife needs a lot of attention. i think she is not unfaithful...yet(touch wood)... but attention is 1 of her needs. thats why she when she needed attention and you were working, she went out. and now that she found a stable source of attention, she doesnt "need" you for attention liao.
if u nid help, call me.. my night stick aka collapsing baton is coming soon.. arriving in 2 more weeks..Originally posted by Troy437:Lawyer...maybe when I hurt one of her friends really bad.![]()
wahaha no expect my analysis so accurate. o well. glad i could be of help. lol.Originally posted by Troy437:That what she thought and told me when we quarrelled...
Do not bug her for answers, bcoz if she wants to tell you she would have done so. Pressing her for answers will only irritate her and detest.Originally posted by bladez87:what method is it? share leh.