What would you do if you saw your wife...(Part 1)
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This is the scenario.
You found your wife having not return home after you finish work late about 11 plus pm. You called her and she says she went to meet other colleagues after work, saying it was a last minute decision. You would believe it was female colleagues, as she nv mention anything about any male colleagues.
You call her aft midnight, and found that she is drinking at a pub. As she drove there in your car, you got worried that she'll get stop for drink driving.
So you went to look for this place, thinking to pick her up and drive her home.
Just as you saw the place from a distance, you saw your wife coming out of the place.
Then you saw three other male subjects with her...AND YOU SAW HER holding the hands or arms of one of the male subjects walking behind, while the other two walked in front. You do not think you wife is drunk.Thre are no other females with them.
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i will wake up from my dream and get breakfast.
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slap her.
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Bring her home.
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Ever thought that she will turn the table around and accused you of not trusting her and spying on her?
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Bring her home, pack my bags and leave home . Send my lawyer in to divorce her.
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First find out if she is drunk.
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Is drunk an excuse? I really dunno.Originally posted by MooKu:First find out if she is drunk.
If I accept drunk as excuse, next time she might use the same excuse for worst actions. -
But in the first place she didn't mention if it were males or females she was going to meet. So you cannot say that the wife has lied.Originally posted by Troy437:Is drunk an excuse? I really dunno.
If I accept drunk as excuse, next time she might use the same excuse for worst actions.
Assuming she deliberately chose not to reveal she was going drinking with male colleagues... ermm... then it's time to sit down for chit chat with wifey.
And that no female colleagues were seen with her does not mean she did not meet up with any - they could still be inside.
Actually whether she is drunk or not is quite a determining factor. The males could've been trying to help her hail a cab home, being the stronger of the sexes.
In short, communicate communicate communicate! Always find out what happened first, and why they happened. Don't let your mind wander too much ah.
Gosh. I'm thankful I didn't study law on its own. I can't quite switch off my law-ly-law-soh law mode after doing my assignment.
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I find the lies worst then the hand holding.....Originally posted by Troy437:This is the scenario.
You found your wife having not return home after you finish work late about 11 plus pm. You called her and she says she went to meet other colleagues after work, saying it was a last minute decision. You would believe it was female colleagues, as she nv mention anything about any male colleagues.
You call her aft midnight, and found that she is drinking at a pub. As she drove there in your car, you got worried that she'll get stop for drink driving.
So you went to look for this place, thinking to pick her up and drive her home.
Just as you saw the place from a distance, you saw your wife coming out of the place.
Then you saw three other male subjects with her...AND YOU SAW HER holding the hands or arms of one of the male subjects walking behind, while the other two walked in front. You do not think you wife is drunk.Thre are no other females with them.
What would you do?
But maybe there were female frends just now and then she meet with other guys... and so on.. i will still give the benefit of a doubt....
as for the holding hands, that really sound fishy... but again will give benefit of a doubt...
it could be she feel giddy and need some support...... or the guy is depressed and need some consolation or something and is a good friend....
Also, if she is really want to cheat, will she bother to tell u the exact pub she will be in so that u can drop in and check on her?
So i wll probably just walk up and say that i am driving her home... later on wife will prob explain... if not, the next day then i will ask.....
don't over react....
Also, come on... most ppl, even when they are married will still "flirt" a bit... u know, harmless conversations... and so on... it is something they do and don't tell their spouse... but u know it happens....
so just forget it.... esp when they didn't cross the line and make it like an affair or ONS. -
True.Originally posted by spencer99:I find the lies worst then the hand holding.....
But maybe there were female frends just now and then she meet with other guys... and so on.. i will still give the benefit of a doubt....
as for the holding hands, that really sound fishy... but again will give benefit of a doubt...
it could be she feel giddy and need some support...... or the guy is depressed and need some consolation or something and is a good friend....
Also, if she is really want to cheat, will she bother to tell u the exact pub she will be in so that u can drop in and check on her?
So i wll probably just walk up and say that i am driving her home... later on wife will prob explain... if not, the next day then i will ask.....
don't over react....
Also, come on... most ppl, even when they are married will still "flirt" a bit... u know, harmless conversations... and so on... it is something they do and don't tell their spouse... but u know it happens....
so just forget it.... esp when they didn't cross the line and make it like an affair or ONS.
Man is a fickle-minded creature, after all!
Though couples may have said their vows and gotten married, I think there should always be a little margin for error. After all, the two have chosen each other to spend their lives until the day they die, so a mistake (as long as it's not enormous) should not be allowed to cause the ruin of the marriage. -
aiyah... walk up n say "thanks for taking care of her. wanna go supper together?" be generous lah... even if ur wife wanna cheat on dat night, n saw ur actions so good, she'll drop dat idea totally.... trust her lah...
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You are very correct! Communication really clear a lot of doubts. It is horrible how far you mind can wander and horrible tots come in...Originally posted by MooKu:...In short, communicate communicate communicate! Always find out what happened first, and why they happened. Don't let your mind wander too much ah. -
Hmm...very good point there!Originally posted by spencer99:...Also, if she is really want to cheat, will she bother to tell u the exact pub she will be in so that u can drop in and check on her?... -
But I was too stunned to think to do next then..Originally posted by aHGer^83:aiyah... walk up n say "thanks for taking care of her. wanna go supper together?" be generous lah...
I was not prepared to see such a thing...so didn't think of that... -
the pt im driving at is dat, dun be suspicious n any how guess anything. after supper n make sure she's fine den ask her wad happen. is her fren drunk? did she sprain her ankle? is she hurt? n such caaring things.. trust me... sometimes women r afraid dat their men wld anyhow think n anyhow suspect so women wun tell men everything.. n vice-versa. perhaps in ur situation, she met up if the female colleagues 1st, den ltr in the pub, the male cols. came along.. n such lei.. she juz happen to leave wif the male ones she trust most in the office. n when u ask or in future such thing happens, always care for her 1st b4 jumping into conclusions n such... show her dat u're worried abt her. dun show her the mistrust.Originally posted by Troy437:But I was too stunned to think to do next then.. I was not prepared to see such a thing...so didn't think of that... -
i will just observe from a distance....follow them and find out whether its a one-off thing or something deeper....then appear at the appropriate time..
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Wasn't in the right frame of mind to have tot so then...Originally posted by Hellraiza:i will just observe from a distance....follow them and find out whether its a one-off thing or something deeper....then appear at the appropriate time.. -
so wat did u do? just let them go?Originally posted by Troy437:Wasn't in the right frame of mind to have tot so then... -
Yes I let them go that time..telling myself dun enbarass anyone...dun jump to conclusion...Originally posted by UandMe:so wat did u do? just let them go?
then it was (Part 2) that continued immediately and made me lost it!! 
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kill them including her then....
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Take pictures of her actions!!
Then divorce with those evidence!!
That way no need to pay alimony. -
I also thought about it..but I won't ask for divorce.Originally posted by mhcampboy:Take pictures of her actions!!
Then divorce with those evidence!!
That way no need to pay alimony.
I will develope the pics, then show it to the wife of the that guy...and also mail to his suprevisor at his office. Then get that guy's marriage into trouble...since he try to screw up mine
When the guy confront me, I will say my wife ask me to do so...