Feeling so alone in this world...
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I really had it with my wife. Throw in the towel. Give up liao.
I decided that I shd get back my life.
Then I realise that I have no one to turn to.
My father had not been coming back home. He went to Thailand to look for his friends often as he felt lonely after my mother pass away. I think he is bewitched by a Thai women, but then I understand he needs company.
My mother pass away liao.
My brothers have their own life and I dun wan to trouble them.
My fds, same age as me, are all family man who have children. Only I am childless, as my wife still wants to go disco and enjoy herself.
I have no money to start any hobby, as I had a lot of bills to pay, including the car my wife is driving.
Suddenly I felt so lonely....as much that I want to shed tears. But there is not even a shoulder to turn to...
In the end I dunno why I went to talk to my sister-in-law, and aft listening she say I may have depression.
I think I shd sell my car, put everything behind and go to a Nepal for 2 weeks. I had always wanted to go to Nepal to enjoy some peace on the mountains. -
wats the prob with your wife? mind telling us abt itOriginally posted by Troy437:I really had it with my wife. Throw in the towel. Give up liao.
I decided that I shd get back my life.
Then I realise that I have no one to turn to.
My father had not been coming back home. He went to Thailand to look for his friends often as he felt lonely after my mother pass away. I think he is bewitched by a Thai women, but then I understand he needs company.
My mother pass away liao.
My brothers have their own life and I dun wan to trouble them.
My fds, same age as me, are all family man who have children. Only I am childless, as my wife still wants to go disco and enjoy herself.
I have no money to start any hobby, as I had a lot of bills to pay, including the car my wife is driving.
Suddenly I felt so lonely....as much that I want to shed tears. But there is not even a shoulder to turn to...
In the end I dunno why I went to talk to my sister-in-law, and aft listening she say I may have depression.
I think I shd sell my car, put everything behind and go to a Nepal for 2 weeks. I had always wanted to go to Nepal to enjoy some peace on the mountains. -
She is very lazy person. She is a good cook, and she thinks with that skill, she is exempted from all respondsibilities in the house.Originally posted by FBI:wats the prob with your wife? mind telling us abt it
She goes to disco on Wed, Friday or Sat everyweek. She even steal from my wallet to go clubbing. But I tot, husband and wife shd not be calculative over money.
But then she is not paying for anything in the house. I pay ALL the bills. I bought a car I like. she goes for her licence and takes over the car. Refused to pay for anything for the car except she pump $20 petrol when the car is low on fuel. Refuse to wash the car either, no matter how dirty. She bangs other ppl backside and rams into pillar with my car.
She wanted dogs and I brought her two dogs on her persuasion. It became a nightmare for me since 2 years ago when she neglects the dogs. I have to quarrel with her to make her bathe the dogs and clear the badly soiled cage. She likes to let the dogs out when I am not around. She hides in the bedroom with aircon on watching TV. The dogs roam & caused a lot of damage with their biting and chewing. They pass motion as they wish. Everyday my house smells like a public toilet.
I have sponsored her for studies but she gave up on the final year aft I spent $12K on her studies. Now she wants to go for studies again and she want me to sponsor her.
She is a great cook, but she will nv wash. She likes to keep left overs till the food rots in the fridge and pots. Roaches, ants and flies become a common sight after she cooks.
And she think she is very beautiful and popular, as she knows a lot of ppl when clubbing. But other than that, she got no manners when meeting ppl.
I have another 10 over list to say about her, but I dunno wan to bore u guys. In short, I tot I could change her when we got married and have out own house. But I now know I have just screw up my life.
Thanks for listening.
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ok b4 u 2 get married, do u know that she has such kind of personality?Originally posted by Troy437:She is very lazy person. She is a good cook, and she thinks with that skill, she is exempted from all respondsibilities in the house.
She goes to disco on Wed, Friday or Sat everyweek. She even steal from my wallet to go clubbing. But I tot, husband and wife shd not be calculative over money.
But then she is not paying for anything in the house. I pay ALL the bills. I bought a car I like. she goes for her licence and takes over the car. Refused to pay for anything for the car except she pump $20 petrol when the car is low on fuel. Refuse to wash the car either, no matter how dirty. She bangs other ppl backside and rams into pillar with my car.
She wanted dogs and I brought her two dogs on her persuasion. It became a nightmare for me since 2 years ago when she neglects the dogs. I have to quarrel with her to make her bathe the dogs and clear the badly soiled cage. She likes to let the dogs out when I am not around. She hides in the bedroom with aircon on watching TV. The dogs roam & caused a lot of damage with their biting and chewing. They pass motion as they wish. Everyday my house smells like a public toilet.
I have sponsored her for studies but she gave up on the final year aft I spent $12K on her studies. Now she wants to go for studies again and she want me to sponsor her.
She is a great cook, but she will nv wash. She likes to keep left overs till the food rots in the fridge and pots. Roaches, ants and flies become a common sight after she cooks.
And she think she is very beautiful and popular, as she knows a lot of ppl when clubbing. But other than that, she got no manners when meeting ppl.
I have another 10 over list to say about her, but I dunno wan to bore u guys. In short, I tot I could change her when we got married and have out own house. But I now know I have just screw up my life.
Thanks for listening.
IF yes why do u still do u still propose to her?
So wat do u fall for her? -
u deserve a break
go nepal 2 weeks
recharge yr battery
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It was mainly out of respondsibility, really.Originally posted by FBI:ok b4 u 2 get married, do u know that she has such kind of personality?
IF yes why do u still do u still propose to her?
So wat do u fall for her?
I love her of course, despite her short coming.
We were together for 4 years, then I felt marriage was the next course of action. A family shd follow next.
I thought having a house will cultivate a sense of respondsibility in her. But I am so wrong..really so wrong.
But now I did not make her a better person at all, in fact worst.
Everyone tell me that she is still young, give her sometime. But its been 3 years since we got married, and I can say I have never been more miserable in my life...
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you really need a break and your wife is one problematic personOriginally posted by Troy437:It was mainly out of respondsibility, really.
I love her of course, despite her short coming.
We were together for 4 years, then I felt marriage was the next course of action. A family shd follow next.
I thought having a house will cultivate a sense of respondsibility in her. But I am so wrong..really so wrong.
But now I did not make her a better person at all, in fact worst.
Everyone tell me that she is still young, give her sometime. But its been 3 years since we got married, and I can say I have never been more miserable in my life... -
Really a million thanks for understandingOriginally posted by FBI:you really need a break and your wife is one problematic person
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np man. may i know how old is sheOriginally posted by Troy437:Really a million thanks for understanding -
She is 26.Originally posted by FBI:np man. may i know how old is she -
Eh cheers man, u need a break for urself.. take it easy..
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get her a job.
she too relak liao.
then in return you must also help wif housework -
you mean she has never worked her? How can she be so irresponsible?Originally posted by Troy437:She is 26. -
she has an office hour job. I dunno where is the money she earned. She can't give me a breakdown either.Originally posted by boy in blues:get her a job.
she too relak liao.
then in return you must also help wif housework
Housework? she does take charge of washing the clothes. because we have a dam thing called washing machine.
I just find that it you got money, you come up with money. If you have strength, you come up with labour.
It is stupid that you come up with money and you still have to use labour.
so I am stupid if I pay for everything and I do everything, isn't it so? -
I have been referred to a specialist at TTSH after I am found with mild high blood pressure during a check up.
The doctor also dunno why becoz I am so young and I exercise often. But he says my condition is not threatning within the next 10 years if the pressure dun go up any higher. Now I got to weekly appointment for the whole month to run a series of test on blood, urine and ECG heart scan to find out why.
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Sorry to tat. You really need to have a good chat wif her. You are really suffering from depression.....no joke.
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Seems like you biggest problem is your relationship with your wife.. Why don't try going for marriage counselling.. running away won;t solve the problem.. even you may be high up in the nepal mountains you still have to worry and fret abt coming back to face all these troubles.. after all don't think you want to stay there all your life? Do you?
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cheer up pal...
all i can say u r not alone in this world feeling lost n lonely..
take some time to think things thru alone, in a clear state of mind ba, b4 u make any major decisions.. going nepal is a great idea..
to end, juz wanna share this phase w/ ya...
'I wept because I had no shoes, until I saw a man who had no feet..' -
yeah..
tell her you need to sell the car or something...
then take a break, maybe go somewhere (not to nepal because the place is going through throes of a major revolution, madness, murder and unrest right now)
see that doc...
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does she know you are going through all this? if this marriage is causing you so much misery? why dun u just end it? a sin get a divorce. but of course, i do hope you try out the marriage counselling first.. dun want to cause you to become another statistic in the rising divorce rates here..Originally posted by Troy437:I have been referred to a specialist at TTSH after I am found with mild high blood pressure during a check up.
The doctor also dunno why becoz I am so young and I exercise often. But he says my condition is not threatning within the next 10 years if the pressure dun go up any higher. Now I got to weekly appointment for the whole month to run a series of test on blood, urine and ECG heart scan to find out why.
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haiz...Originally posted by Ecxentrique:does she know you are going through all this? if this marriage is causing you so much misery? why dun u just end it? a sin get a divorce. but of course, i do hope you try out the marriage counselling first.. dun want to cause you to become another statistic in the rising divorce rates here..
y isit tt pple always ends up w/ the wrong match leh? -
i don't think we can be the judge of that..Originally posted by hopy:haiz...
y isit tt pple always ends up w/ the wrong match leh?
i was thinking that maybe she is still young and settled down too fast while her heart still yearns for all that fun.. its more of one party not ready for the marriage and the commitment. -
no lah.. juz a thout..Originally posted by Ecxentrique:i don't think we can be the judge of that..
i was thinking that maybe she is still young and settled down too fast while her heart still yearns for all that fun.. its more of one party not ready for the marriage and the commitment.
coz seen too many of my frds who r ready for committment but can't seems to meet the rite guys while i keep hearing guys complain abt gals not committed.. -
Most ppl tell me that...what do I have to do to make her wake up?Originally posted by Ecxentrique:i don't think we can be the judge of that..
i was thinking that maybe she is still young and settled down too fast while her heart still yearns for all that fun.. its more of one party not ready for the marriage and the commitment.
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like i said.. maybe go for marriage counselling if you feel that you are not getting thru to her.. perhaps through the sessions, you will find out if she is still committed in this or not.. hopefully you can decide what to do from there..Originally posted by Troy437:Most ppl tell me that...what do I have to do to make her wake up?