Dilemma over work and settling down
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I have been working for some years since graduating. I don't earn a big salary but recently I have been given a better opportunity to be in the field with better remuneration and this position needs me to drive a decent car to meet clients for work.
Buying a car is so expensive nowadays and on top of it all, my gf and her family for many years are pressuring me to settle down. If I buy the car even a second hand decent 1.6 Sedan car i will have to delay the settling down for 1-2 yrs and upsetting my gf (we debate over it for sometimes).
It is really frustrating...cost of car for work and settling down is so expensive.
Anyond got better ideas?
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your gf cost as much as a car ?
I don't think you are ready to settle down , just using the new job requirement as an excuse to delay the wedding , yes?
Be honest with her. If she is in a rush , don't string her along waste her time lah.
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I know I am stupid
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You can always choose an company who provided their own vehicles for staff to use, otherwise just rent an car for now.
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I was thinking the same. Wouldn't the company supply you with a car if they want you to drive around? If they don't, it is clearly not a serious company and you shouldn't waste your time with them.
Settling down wise, I think you are just scared to do it. I can understand that. So just take a time out by yourself and think about what keeps you from settling down, besides money, which isn't an excuse anyway.
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Simple - buy the car & ask your car to marry you - then you can have sex with your car !!!
as for your girlfriend - i hope she will dump you !!!
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Originally posted by limkopio:
I have been working for some years since graduating. I don't earn a big salary but recently I have been given a better opportunity to be in the field with better remuneration and this position needs me to drive a decent car to meet clients for work.
Buying a car is so expensive nowadays and on top of it all, my gf and her family for many years are pressuring me to settle down. If I buy the car even a second hand decent 1.6 Sedan car i will have to delay the settling down for 1-2 yrs and upsetting my gf (we debate over it for sometimes).
It is really frustrating...cost of car for work and settling down is so expensive.
Anyond got better ideas?
I understand your frustration.
The gal wants to get fat,oops, I mean get married and make you liable for her financial and emotional needs. Don't be pressured by any gal or anyone for that matter to do things you are not. Even if you do sacrifice what you want to do and 'give in' she will continue to blame you after saying 'you really didn't want to,so you lied to her and this makes her life difficult knowing she cannot trust you anymore'. Thats b1tch logic,blaming the guy anyways while they stand to loose nothing and gain part of your finance if they stay with you or take part of it if they divorce.
My 0.02$, be the man you want to be and your life belongs to you only. Be free and follow your passion, a better gal will find way to your life.
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Originally posted by limkopio:
I have been working for some years since graduating. I don't earn a big salary but recently I have been given a better opportunity to be in the field with better remuneration and this position needs me to drive a decent car to meet clients for work.
Buying a car is so expensive nowadays and on top of it all, my gf and her family for many years are pressuring me to settle down. If I buy the car even a second hand decent 1.6 Sedan car i will have to delay the settling down for 1-2 yrs and upsetting my gf (we debate over it for sometimes).
It is really frustrating...cost of car for work and settling down is so expensive.
Anyond got better ideas?
If you can't decide between a car and your wife, you are not ready to drive a car nor marry a wife. My boss from America used to describe such person as one who can't make up his mind with a thousand dollars in the whorehouse.
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Honestly, go with what you feel is right. If your girlfriend can't wait for you, then maybe she might not be the one. If she truly loves you, she'll be patient while you progess your career. At the end of the day, being able to progress in your career is more important as it's hard to come by nowadays.
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Ts, Mull over this, When your car is a means to your ends, it is fine, it is material ( a dead thing) but if a person or ... is a means to ends, beware the folly cos human beings evolve and changes are inherent in anyone. many marry, ''die'' at thirty and are buried at sixty = catch the drift?
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Originally posted by Fugazzi:
Ts,
Mull over this,
When your car is a means to your ends, it is fine, it is material ( a dead thing) but if a person or … is a means to ends, beware the folly cos human beings evolve and changes are inherent in anyone. many marry, ’’die’’ at thirty and are buried at sixty = catch the drift?I am sure a car will be of less maintenance and reliable than a gal who wants to tie you down.
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They say $1000 can buy hdb flat .
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Originally posted by charlize:
They say $1000 can buy hdb flat .
do you believe?
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If you don't believe that, what else can you believe?
Unicorns ?
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buy car is liablity not an asset think carefully, you need to set at least 2 k aside just to feed your car
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Originally posted by Solid_JIM:
buy car is liablity not an asset think carefully, you need to set at least 2 k aside just to feed your car
As if wife is an asset. Cost of maintaining her,lot. Psychological cost of nagging,enormous. All the payments to other family event,costly. Looking after inlaws,costly. Cost of engagement,marriage ring etc,costly. Her medical bills,costly. Mental torture,costly.
Car anyday is cheaper and easier to manage.
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Originally posted by Bio-Hawk:
As if wife is an asset. Cost of maintaining her,lot. Psychological cost of nagging,enormous. All the payments to other family event,costly. Looking after inlaws,costly. Cost of engagement,marriage ring etc,costly. Her medical bills,costly. Mental torture,costly.
Car anyday is cheaper and easier to manage.
where is jojo?
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best is shave your head, stay in the mountains and become a recluse.