Financially helping a friend who once rejected me
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I just need some opinions. Lately ive been helping a best gal friend of mine with money. Ive started giving her some small sum every month as an allowance for her as she is financially drained.
She knows i love her but she rejected cuz she told me she didnt wanna risk losing the friendship. That was 5 years ago. And recently, she did told me she likes me more than a friend but not to the level of bf. she even call me her special guy friend as im her only guy friend she trust with all her heart.
Im helping without asking anything in return. I did so because i love her is one thing. Secondly, she needs help and she is a best friend so i cant bear to leave her behind with problem. And she is single again so she cant ask her ex bf for help.
Ive never hated her or hold grudges against her for rejecting me. She knows that ive always respected her decision even if it hurt my feelings. I know im not gaining anything by doing this for her. But i love her and im ready to sacrifice things for her. -
if u so willing then ok loh
so whats the problem?
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hi friend,
i'm in a similar situation... so maybe we can help each other out....
i love this girl as well but she is only happy to be my friend...but im only happy if she loves me...but i love her....should i make her happy? or make myself happy?
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Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:
I just need some opinions. Lately ive been helping a best gal friend of mine with money. Ive started giving her some small sum every month as an allowance for her as she is financially drained.
She knows i love her but she rejected cuz she told me she didnt wanna risk losing the friendship. That was 5 years ago. And recently, she did told me she likes me more than a friend but not to the level of bf. she even call me her special guy friend as im her only guy friend she trust with all her heart.
Im helping without asking anything in return. I did so because i love her is one thing. Secondly, she needs help and she is a best friend so i cant bear to leave her behind with problem. And she is single again so she cant ask her ex bf for help.
Ive never hated her or hold grudges against her for rejecting me. She knows that ive always respected her decision even if it hurt my feelings. I know im not gaining anything by doing this for her. But i love her and im ready to sacrifice things for her.Mannn.... Are you so stupid?She's just using you.I know many of my gf's 'best friends' loaned her money and helped her move stuff.Dump the ass and move on.You will never get the mney back and she id going to hump around other guys.
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
hi friend,
i'm in a similar situation... so maybe we can help each other out....
i love this girl as well but she is only happy to be my friend...but im only happy if she loves me...but i love her....should i make her happy? or make myself happy?
Make a gal happy?It's easier to know what happened before Big bang than that. Don't waste your time and happiness for a bitch's. You will regret it later. What is a friend for her?No sex and ask your help when needed.And you are threaded along while she fcuks others for any needs that might arise.
http://jduvalseries.blogspot.de/2014/05/class-is-in-session-timeout-get-your.html
http://jduvalseries.blogspot.de/2014/05/class-is-in-session-my-life-is.html
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Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:
I just need some opinions. Lately ive been helping a best gal friend of mine with money. Ive started giving her some small sum every month as an allowance for her as she is financially drained.
She knows i love her but she rejected cuz she told me she didnt wanna risk losing the friendship. That was 5 years ago. And recently, she did told me she likes me more than a friend but not to the level of bf. she even call me her special guy friend as im her only guy friend she trust with all her heart.
Im helping without asking anything in return. I did so because i love her is one thing. Secondly, she needs help and she is a best friend so i cant bear to leave her behind with problem. And she is single again so she cant ask her ex bf for help.
Ive never hated her or hold grudges against her for rejecting me. She knows that ive always respected her decision even if it hurt my feelings. I know im not gaining anything by doing this for her. But i love her and im ready to sacrifice things for her.if you leave $$$ out, is there any relationship left between you two?
You really love her ?
Love is the most abused word in life.
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Nobody can live on love and fresh air alone.
Really.
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Honestly speaking, she is just not that into you and is using you.She is just treating you as a 'small money tree' good friend, but you are not her ideal boyfriend criteria. To her, you are just a good guy, but not up to her boyfriend standard.
In a girl's point of view, if an ordinary male friend gives a platonic female friend money allowance every month to spend without expecting anything in return, who will not make good and full use of this male friend?
Just to think that when every month have money take from a male, then no need to account for what she spend on or even can splurge on her wants instead of her basic needs, to maintain the girl's 'high maintenance' lifestyle instead of a simple, no-frills 'low maintenance' lifestyle, why not?
Also, this male also don't expect anything in return, not even the least minimum basic of having sex in exchange. To her, this is even better than to get 'bao' by a sugar daddy who wants the girl as a mistress for sex.
Save the money for yourself, for your own future or even use this money to pay the bills.
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Originally posted by Bio-Hawk:
Make a gal happy?It's easier to know what happened before Big bang than that. Don't waste your time and happiness for a bitch's. You will regret it later. What is a friend for her?No sex and ask your help when needed.And you are threaded along while she fcuks others for any needs that might arise.
http://jduvalseries.blogspot.de/2014/05/class-is-in-session-timeout-get-your.html
http://jduvalseries.blogspot.de/2014/05/class-is-in-session-my-life-is.html
I will keep that it mind thanks.
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
I will keep that it mind thanks.
Good for you and the wise better spelled words of eac above this post too would help you(quoted below).All the best.
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Honestly speaking, she is just not that into you and is using you.
She is just treating you as a 'small money tree' good friend, but you are not her ideal boyfriend criteria. To her, you are just a good guy, but not up to her boyfriend standard.
In a girl's point of view, if an ordinary male friend gives a platonic female friend money allowance every month to spend without expecting anything in return, who will not make good and full use of this male friend?
Just to think that when every month have money take from a male, then no need to account for what she spend on or even can splurge on her wants instead of her basic needs, to maintain the girl's 'high maintenance' lifestyle instead of a simple, no-frills 'low maintenance' lifestyle, why not?
Also, this male also don't expect anything in return, not even the least minimum basic of having sex in exchange. To her, this is even better than to get 'bao' by a sugar daddy who wants the girl as a mistress for sex.
Save the money for yourself, for your own future or even use this money to pay the bills.
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Originally posted by charlize:
Nobody can live on love and fresh air alone.
Really.
This is different from saying that Toast Box is providing love.
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Originally posted by sgdiehard:
This is different from saying that Toast Box is providing love.
Hur?
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How is it that she can't earn her own keep? If it's a one time off sum to tie her over a period I certainly can understand, but monthly sum? Hmm...
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I think she treats you like an ATM machine.Wake up bro.
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Hey bro,your predicament is really worse off than mine.. At least I have this crush of mine does not do such a thing, sometimes wondering why love has caused so many pain and sorrow to us nice guys.Nice guy really always finish last is indeed true
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Do what you think is right. But make you sure don't regret as money issues are sensitive and it doesn't affect you financially.
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So obvious the girl is using you.
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She is just taking advantage of you.
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Change your mobile phone number and forget about her.
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Originally posted by FireIce:
if u so willing then ok loh
so whats the problem?
He's asking if he should help her by givng the money...
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Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:
I just need some opinions. Lately ive been helping a best gal friend of mine with money. Ive started giving her some small sum every month as an allowance for her as she is financially drained.
She knows i love her but she rejected cuz she told me she didnt wanna risk losing the friendship. That was 5 years ago. And recently, she did told me she likes me more than a friend but not to the level of bf. she even call me her special guy friend as im her only guy friend she trust with all her heart.
Im helping without asking anything in return. I did so because i love her is one thing. Secondly, she needs help and she is a best friend so i cant bear to leave her behind with problem. And she is single again so she cant ask her ex bf for help.
Ive never hated her or hold grudges against her for rejecting me. She knows that ive always respected her decision even if it hurt my feelings. I know im not gaining anything by doing this for her. But i love her and im ready to sacrifice things for her.This is the power of love.
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Originally posted by 23ispolo:
This is the power of love.
Love is the most abused word in life.