No, its hard but its time to let go.
If somebody truly loves you, they will accept you for whatever you are
Your kids are more impt
Honestly speaking, i feel that your kids are important than her. The years you spent with them and the months you know the girl. nothing can compare to that.
On the other hand, if there's a woman who is married, not diovrced, have 2 young kids both less than 5 years old each, she's sleeping with another man who is 2 to 3 years younger than her behind her husband's back. Is it right of her? Worst, that young bf of her's also knows about her family. they even went on a holiday together. Goodness. The bf's family doesn't even know that their son's wrecking another person's family!
Should the husband of this woman be told? Or should he just be in the shadows?
I pity the kids.