Why ppl no want to talk to me ?
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My husband regularly has meet up with his friends and wives. Everytime, their wives or gfs will look at me and I look at them. Only when I find something to talk in attempt to start conversation, then they answer me. After that they quiet again. The cycle is the same everytime got meet up. Those can click, they stick to each other and chat comfortably but then, other time, they just look at me. Even when got one time, I sit right infront of one of the wife, she will play with her hp. Seems like I everytime have to find topics to say. Got one time go bbq. I tried not to sit one corner and act anti social, so I walk around, trying to find anyone to sit and chat. Then end up I no choice, tired from walking around, sit down and start playing my hp. My husband busy entertaining his friends. Why like that ???? Should I give up going out with them anymore ?
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Ask jojobeach. She is the expert on this.
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Fus ro dah.
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Originally posted by charlize:
Fus ro dah.
Go eat your caipng and do stock taking and reports. You so free waste time here.
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Originally posted by Earthcosmic2:
My husband regularly has meet up with his friends and wives. Everytime, their wives or gfs will look at me and I look at them. Only when I find something to talk in attempt to start conversation, then they answer me. After that they quiet again. The cycle is the same everytime got meet up. Those can click, they stick to each other and chat comfortably but then, other time, they just look at me. Even when got one time, I sit right infront of one of the wife, she will play with her hp. Seems like I everytime have to find topics to say.
Got one time go bbq. I tried not to sit one corner and act anti social, so I walk around, trying to find anyone to sit and chat. Then end up I no choice, tired from walking around, sit down and start playing my hp. My husband busy entertaining his friends.
Why like that ???? Should I give up going out with them anymore ?
Because you take it upon yourself to play the part of the good partner. I do not think it's neccessary to go out of your way to please others. If you cannot click with someone...just accept it.
You can choose not to attend. Your partner should understand.
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Originally posted by SJS6638:
Go eat your caipng and do stock taking and reports. You so free waste time here.
He too boliao typing all sorts of nonsense here...so stress-free -
Hanor hanor
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You are with a group and it is widely known group chat is a little of an intimidation.
You articulated your views and while your view is voiced, one other person is one sided on your part of your conversation on her hp. Have you shared your views with others, what interests the others you say of 'the flock'? Are others connected on an interesting common cause, or, do they just work the same area and are lucky to found lunchmates of one another?
Others have met you a little more than one or, twice, let alone strike luck with the few engaging and discerning topics of husband's friends.
You are very open hearted. The very thoughts on your lack of open engagement with others gave you due uneasy attention. Yet the few thoughts are a mark of your open mindedness, and your willingness on engaging others.
You are reaching out willingly with others, and with approaches of reaching out to others, others will in time view you on another angle.
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Just try your best to be friendly, but don't overdo it. If it is to the extent where you really are so uncomfortable, then you should not go out on such outings anymore!
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Find out who his friends wives are, what they do (finance sector, teaching), what they like (eating, hobbies), do they have kids (childrens' stuff, school), religion (church/temple activities), travel, etc. Talk about these topics. Alternatively you can talk about yourself or some other topic that you think will interest them. Or maybe you can suggest to go for morning walks on sundays together. It does take a continuous effort over a period of time to get to know someone to gain their acceptance.
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Even I dun click with all my colleagues. It's the topic which interest me then I can see talk to pple freely. U are with a group who may not share same interest as u.
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Dun worry.. I can be your friend...
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