Too Gentle and Obedient ... Is this a bad thing?
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As far as feeling sad when she gets conned easily....
It is encouraging to see that you have the virtue of "fairness" and also the willingness to sacrifice your time and effort to help your fren.
We cannot stop the issues happening as u said...bcos ultimately only one person can stop it......and that is yer fren herself.
You can assist by offering her support....that she is not alone ......but she will ultimately be the one that can save herself.
When she says ....enough is enough....be it reporting it to the relevant authority.....or telling the person that it is ......hurts although it may seem funny to them or whatever.
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you got to learn to bite back when someone takes advantage of you i just recently did it and she never bothered me anymore
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Originally posted by charlize:
I am not very smart.
smart enough to make ppl
uve even started yer own fanclub...more and more ppl look like yer clone these days
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
smart enough to make ppl
uve even started yer own fanclub...more and more ppl look like yer clone these days
:lol: cai png damn expensive :lol: -
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
:lol: cai png damn expensive :lol:hanor hanor
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all i wanted was a packet of cai png, no luncheon meat nevermind
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im sure seveneleven will agree
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life is surreal :lol:
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Originally posted by ChocoMint:
Yea brought up that way so for me to change now, it's actually quite hard ... I do agree though being bullied is better than bullying others. Don't know about others but I will feel very bad when I hurt other people.
that might be because you understand the hurt to be a victim of bullying better than most.
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
that might be because you understand the hurt to be a victim of bullying better than most.
yea probably. That feeling is not nice for sure and I definitely don't wish to see other people experiencing it if there's a choice. Even though I did not experience bullying other people in my life but I still feel it's not a good thing to do even when I'm not bullied since I don't see why the need to bully others just to make yourself looks stronger or something. All these satisfaction are just temporary in my opinion. At the end of the day, these temporary images will still fade away but the poor victim will suffer longer than the bully. Truth.
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
I am happy that is was of some benefit.. I wasn't correcting u however but sharing my point of view....it just so happens u feel it makes sense and thus u improved yer point of view.
Yea, my phrasing can be a bit weird... But yes, you're right about that point...
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Originally posted by ChocoMint:
yea probably. That feeling is not nice for sure and I definitely don't wish to see other people experiencing it if there's a choice. Even though I did not experience bullying other people in my life but I still feel it's not a good thing to do even when I'm not bullied since I don't see why the need to bully others just to make yourself looks stronger or something. All these satisfaction are just temporary in my opinion. At the end of the day, these temporary images will still fade away but the poor victim will suffer longer than the bully. Truth.
The bullies don't see the hurt that they inflict and caught up in the moment of "fun", they forget about the victims feelings.
There will always be shallow people. Hopefully they will mature given more time.
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Originally posted by 23ispolo:
Yea, my phrasing can be a bit weird...
You are a fine specimen. I'm sure you will find an intelligent partner if not already. Cheers
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I think it's alright to be obedient and gentle. But some people will take advantage of you. Just be alert .
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
You are a fine specimen.
What do you mean?
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Originally posted by 23ispolo:
What do you mean?
It takes a special kind of individual to be able to take criticism positively. Especially so in Singapore.
You also show empathy, kindness & the willingness to help people.
Whether it will be eroded through time as you enter the working world remains to be seen.
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
It takes a special kind of individual to be able to take criticism positively. Especially so in Singapore.
You also show empathy, kindness & the willingness to help people.
Whether it will be eroded through time as you enter the working world remains to be seen.
LOL, I have a classmate, who is my table neighbour (right beside me)... She's not SV, but she's a nice girl! I wouldn't really say she is quite intelligent, just the average girl in class...
I am a secondary school student, so I have gotten many school talks on cyber wellness. That's why even when I see annoying posts by spammers in this forum, I tell myself to not fight back, by replying with profanties and other related stuff (although I admit I still am a bit kaypoh at times)... Anyway, I haven't talked to SV much since the start of school, so I'm not too sure about her status currently... She's busy with her student counsceller duties (BTW, I'm not one myself)...
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Originally posted by 23ispolo:
LOL, I have a classmate, who is my table neighbour (right beside me)... She's not SV, but she's a nice girl! I wouldn't really say she is quite intelligent, just the average girl in class...
I am a secondary school student, so I have gotten many school talks on cyber wellness. That's why even when I see annoying posts by spammers in this forum, I tell myself to not fight back, by replying with profanties and other related stuff (although I admit I still am a bit kaypoh at times)... Anyway, I haven't talked to SV much since the start of school, so I'm not too sure about her status currently... She's busy with her student counsceller duties (BTW, I'm not one myself)...
They teach cyber wellness in school? ...amazing... i really suagu le haiz...
What is SV?
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
What is SV?
SV is my classmate (not my table neighbour, that's another girl). I have a crush on her...
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she probably the type who like to be punished
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Originally posted by 23ispolo:
SV is my classmate (not my table neighbour, that's another girl). I have a crush on her...
That is great. Best of luck. I suppose SV cud mean sweet valentine?
As Gai Sensei from Naruto wud say.....................�春
p.s. gib me back mah �春
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Originally posted by Craptalkone:
she probably the type who like to be punished
Um, she's the opposite of what you described... She's quite responsible in her school duties (she was my class' Literaure rep last year), just that I realised how gullible she is, when I started to have a crush on her last year...
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
That is great. Best of luck. I suppose SV cud mean sweet valentine?
As Gai Sensei from Naruto wud say.....................�春
p.s. gib me back mah �春
You are also wrong! Actually, I'm using my initials for her (my own is AS'14) , SV, to conceal her identity here...
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
As far as feeling sad when she gets conned easily....
It is encouraging to see that you have the virtue of "fairness" and also the willingness to sacrifice your time and effort to help your fren.
We cannot stop the issues happening as u said...bcos ultimately only one person can stop it......and that is yer fren herself.
You can assist by offering her support....that she is not alone ......but she will ultimately be the one that can save herself.
When she says ....enough is enough....be it reporting it to the relevant authority.....or telling the person that it is ......hurts although it may seem funny to them or whatever.
Well, she has many friends (of course all female classmates), so I can't say she is unhappy at times... So, I actually do not really offer her help often... She doesn't get conned a lot at all, I just only realised that she can be easily conned, by someone else (like me)...
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Originally posted by 23ispolo:
You are also wrong! Actually, I'm using my initials for her (my own is AS'14) , SV, to conceal her identity here...
Guess mah....bo pao tio lol