This girl I like...
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Recently I changed job...to a new place...
At my working place, I am suppose to work closely with girl A. So the new company sent us both to Germany for a job assignment for a month. After work, she would ask me out to accompany her for dinner, shopping, theatres, walk around, coffee. Weekends, we would both plan trips to Venice, Paris and Switzerland like a couple. At that time, I began to fall for her. I develop feelings for her because I rarely have the chance to be one to one with a girl...as pretty as she is.
However, moment we landed spore, her whole attitude changed. I ask her out for a drink, she declined. And then she began to distance herself from me. We both had a small quarrel over work. THen I began to distance myself from Girl A. Girl A even told my other colleagues about me trying to court her. Some of the co workers began to kepo and ask me about my ties to her.
Then came girl B. As a result of my struggle with my new job and my new boss's disatisfaction with my performance, i had to worked hard till late night to earn my boss's favor. During that time, girl B also worked late at office. So she began to text and use the company messenger to talk to me. We both at times conversate until 11pm at office. Girl B is sort of sweet and nice girl. She's a Ipoh so her personality is a bit different from those typical princess singaporean girls like girl A. I didn't want to ask girl B out because of the trouble caused by girl A, I didn;t want to sully my reputation anymore. But I did double check girl B's status, ask one colleague in her team whether she is single or not, the reply was that she's single.
Then after some weeks, girl B got some buquet of flowers from the florists. I became disappointed because I thought it was from her boyfriend.
Then it came to the end of my confirmation, my cruel boss decided not to confirm me. My boss wanted to do all sorts of things, like accuse me of things I didn't do to kick me out from office. So in order not to have a bad record to tarnish my reputation, I made a deal with my boss and the company HR...that they would not sully my records if I offer to resign peacefully. This is to ensure when new employers do reference check, there would not be any so-called performance improvemnet program or non-confirmation sacking letters in my HR record (i refuse to sign them anyway)....
In exchange for the deal...I help them to clear my work. So during that time..i worked late to help girl A to finish up the work. girl A was very stressful, from there, she saw my honesty and hard work. So she apologised to me for her rude behaviour and gave me a dinner treat at an expensive restaurant. We both parted ways in good manner. I never pursue A, because I knew we both are not compatible.
Then on the day of my resignation (i kept low key, never tell anybody at office), somehow rumor spread..girl B, message me to tell me how shocked she was to hear that i was resigning. She say that she will miss me. I told her that we could still keep in touch.
Fast forward...2 months later, at my new office. I suddenly got a text from girl B, asking me where am I working and how am I. Me not wanting to give infor for free...ask her if she could organise a gathering within our ex-colleagues..then I can tell her. I wanted to have an opportunity or excuse to meet her in a group so as not to make her think i am a despo. She said she could not do so because everyone else was busy and was taking leave.
So I wanted for another week, i was taking things slowly...not wanting to put too much pressure on her. I ask her if she was free or not. She said she is not free until next year 2014. But she told me, I can ask her out...near her place...because she doesn;t like to travel far, as long as we can have lunch, or dinner or tea time during the weekends. During the week days, she work late, as usual. So she doesn;t have time to come out.
I ask her about thsoe flowers she receive last time at office. She told me that it was from her girl friends who gave her those flowers for her birthday.
Then we both made some jokes...she joke and ask me why I so secretive never tell where I work..then i said...you come out with me for dinner then i tell you. Her answer is "haha...ok".
So now, my question is...should I ask her out? How should I approach this? Take it slowly? Its just that i am a bit concern of our big age gap..you see, i am 36, she's 27. You think it will work?
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That is not too far age gap there buddy. Go ahead and just ask her out...nothing to lose...unless you can't withstand her rejection. BMW...best man wins...that if she has another admirer.
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Wtf, wall of text just to ask to ask her out? Really?
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Originally posted by ditzy:
Wtf, wall of text just to ask to ask her out? Really?
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You will need.
bring her to
and then you ask if she wants to stead.
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Maybe she wants to see if there is a vancany in your new office.
Good to network.
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She is single but does not mean she has no suitors.
Go ahead and ask her out , since she picky about where to meet just let her decide where and when.
It's just a friendly meet up. Don't over think it.
10 years is alright. Some girls prefer mature guys.
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if you were 27 and she 17, then you may want to wait a while. now you are 36 and she 27, actually to me that is a nice gap.
never mind about the flower she received from others, ask if she likes the flower you sent, have you sent?
she already said ""haha...ok", you still want to take it slowly, ask the general public on the net what you should do?
Hello....wake up and start up.
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I say again.
Good to network.
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Lost words about TS. If local girls are princesses then I suppose you are the local problematic "prince"
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Oldkam is a peasant boy. I think the Ipoh girl will be just fine.( Provided she is not from a wealthy Ipoh family).
A peasant boy will not dream of marrying a princess. He will seek a peasant girl to marry.
A prince wants to be treated like a king, but does not want to treat a princess like a queen.
A peasant girl wants to marry a prince, so she can live like a princess. That's why third world girls like marrying SG men, because they want to live like a SG princess too.
The peasant girl who becomes a princess will eventually wants to become a queen, thats just natural progression.
A man who seeks a girl with low expectations, low demands, low maintenance can only find in such girl with a lack of self-esteem and self-worth.
A girl with high self-esteem and self-worth will naturally expect more from her man.
Old kam is looking for that peasant girl with no desire to become a princess. She lives in fairy tale land.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Oldkam is a peasant boy. I think the Ipoh girl will be just fine.( Provided she is not from a wealthy Ipoh family).
A peasant boy will not dream of marrying a princess. He will seek a peasant girl to marry.
A prince wants to be treated like a king, but does not want to treat a princess like a queen.
A peasant girl wants to marry a prince, so she can live like a princess. That's why third world girls like marrying SG men, because they want to live like a SG princess too.
The peasant girl who becomes a princess will eventually wants to become a queen, thats just natural progression.
A man who seeks a girl with low expectations, low demands, low maintenance can only find in such girl with a lack of self-esteem and self-worth.
A girl with high self-esteem and self-worth will naturally expect more from her man.
Old kam is looking for that peasant girl with no desire to become a princess. She lives in fairy tale land.
i laugh at your comments. princess become a queen. Who the hell you think you are? Queen of the bitches is more like it. Princess girls are those girls who don't give a damn about their man, they mistreat their men because they are spoiled. Only capable and successful men, seek women who can accompany and support them for success. But i can easily read from your comments that your husbandis a loser and you raise your kid to be spoiled and breast fed till he is 6. He is so spoiled that he most likely didn't learn to walk till he is 10. What a retard son you have. -
Haiz.. Aunt agony
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This simple thread, only ask one simple thing. Whether he should ask the girl out based on the given conditions.
What's the big hoo hah?
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Settling down is easy. You just have to lower your expectations and get married.
Finding a person you truly love is hard. If you are rich, you wonder if she's after your money. If you are poor, you wonder if she's going to look down on you.
I think we should stop this prince-princess argument. Ya, problematic princes and princesses everywhere, but I want to tell everyone that finding love is hard so pls stop complaining
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Originally posted by Summer hill:
Settling down is easy. You just have to lower your expectations and get married.
Finding a person you truly love is hard. If you are rich, you wonder if she's after your money. If you are poor, you wonder if she's going to look down on you.
I think we should stop this prince-princess argument. Ya, problematic princes and princesses everywhere, but I want to tell everyone that finding love is hard so pls stop complaining
Romantic love is, more often than not, conditional love.
It's a pity that we are often in agony over such petty illusions.
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Yes lah. But he got the guts boh?
Even if she go out for a cup of kopi doesn't mean she is interested in him leh.
The question is HOW can he turn a platonic into romantic lah.
But old kam is old kiam siup...very difficult lah.
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Aiya.. people... just ignore that psycho speakoutfor lah. He is not the first nor the last crazy person I encounter here.
Let him rant bah..that's what crazy people do anyway.
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Originally posted by Summer hill:
Settling down is easy. You just have to lower your expectations and get married.
Finding a person you truly love is hard. If you are rich, you wonder if she's after your money. If you are poor, you wonder if she's going to look down on you.
I think we should stop this prince-princess argument. Ya, problematic princes and princesses everywhere, but I want to tell everyone that finding love is hard so pls stop complaining
No summer. You do not settle, unless you are desperate for love.Even when you settle, you may not find love either. So why short change yourself?
Love is not hard to find. We fall in love easily. The hard part is staying in love.
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jojo bitch talking to itself is it? Nobody bothers la...about ur stupid advice. Yeah jojo knows a lot of crazy people like her family. Talk stupid one...TS talking about marrying his soul mate not marry a Queen. Hey marry girl who behave like princess, at least if she is royalty got benefits because she is rich. But marry poor princess who behave like wretched princess for what leh? Both suffer poverty and also suffer arguments. I can understand if a guy marry into the British royalty at least, got glamor, got $$$$ and got royal blood. Marry bitch princess like Jojo Bitch for what? Waste of time...talking to this witch bitch mother. Poor, pauper, attitude problem, retarded, blood of shit (no royalty)...jojo.... From princess bitch blossom to bulldog bitch. Then get pregnant also give birth to bulldog pup kid, bark like a mad dog. Just like its mother.
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Despo lol
u see every gal as your potential target.
regardless of race religion young old pregnant.
Do us and every Singaporean a favor.
better be single then marry those foreigners as if sg is not already crowded with ft.
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Originally posted by Oldkamhouse:
Recently I changed job...to a new place...
At my working place, I am suppose to work closely with girl A. So the new company sent us both to Germany for a job assignment for a month. After work, she would ask me out to accompany her for dinner, shopping, theatres, walk around, coffee. Weekends, we would both plan trips to Venice, Paris and Switzerland like a couple. At that time, I began to fall for her. I develop feelings for her because I rarely have the chance to be one to one with a girl...as pretty as she is.
However, moment we landed spore, her whole attitude changed. I ask her out for a drink, she declined. And then she began to distance herself from me. We both had a small quarrel over work. THen I began to distance myself from Girl A. Girl A even told my other colleagues about me trying to court her. Some of the co workers began to kepo and ask me about my ties to her.
Then came girl B. As a result of my struggle with my new job and my new boss's disatisfaction with my performance, i had to worked hard till late night to earn my boss's favor. During that time, girl B also worked late at office. So she began to text and use the company messenger to talk to me. We both at times conversate until 11pm at office. Girl B is sort of sweet and nice girl. She's a Ipoh so her personality is a bit different from those typical princess singaporean girls like girl A. I didn't want to ask girl B out because of the trouble caused by girl A, I didn;t want to sully my reputation anymore. But I did double check girl B's status, ask one colleague in her team whether she is single or not, the reply was that she's single.
Then after some weeks, girl B got some buquet of flowers from the florists. I became disappointed because I thought it was from her boyfriend.
Then it came to the end of my confirmation, my cruel boss decided not to confirm me. My boss wanted to do all sorts of things, like accuse me of things I didn't do to kick me out from office. So in order not to have a bad record to tarnish my reputation, I made a deal with my boss and the company HR...that they would not sully my records if I offer to resign peacefully. This is to ensure when new employers do reference check, there would not be any so-called performance improvemnet program or non-confirmation sacking letters in my HR record (i refuse to sign them anyway)....
In exchange for the deal...I help them to clear my work. So during that time..i worked late to help girl A to finish up the work. girl A was very stressful, from there, she saw my honesty and hard work. So she apologised to me for her rude behaviour and gave me a dinner treat at an expensive restaurant. We both parted ways in good manner. I never pursue A, because I knew we both are not compatible.
Then on the day of my resignation (i kept low key, never tell anybody at office), somehow rumor spread..girl B, message me to tell me how shocked she was to hear that i was resigning. She say that she will miss me. I told her that we could still keep in touch.
Fast forward...2 months later, at my new office. I suddenly got a text from girl B, asking me where am I working and how am I. Me not wanting to give infor for free...ask her if she could organise a gathering within our ex-colleagues..then I can tell her. I wanted to have an opportunity or excuse to meet her in a group so as not to make her think i am a despo. She said she could not do so because everyone else was busy and was taking leave.
So I wanted for another week, i was taking things slowly...not wanting to put too much pressure on her. I ask her if she was free or not. She said she is not free until next year 2014. But she told me, I can ask her out...near her place...because she doesn;t like to travel far, as long as we can have lunch, or dinner or tea time during the weekends. During the week days, she work late, as usual. So she doesn;t have time to come out.
I ask her about thsoe flowers she receive last time at office. She told me that it was from her girl friends who gave her those flowers for her birthday.
Then we both made some jokes...she joke and ask me why I so secretive never tell where I work..then i said...you come out with me for dinner then i tell you. Her answer is "haha...ok".
So now, my question is...should I ask her out? How should I approach this? Take it slowly? Its just that i am a bit concern of our big age gap..you see, i am 36, she's 27. You think it will work?
I am actually curious on what is it about the age gap that is stopping you from advancing. Specifically, I am wondering how much of the experience you had with Girl A actually negatively affected the way you are going to proceed with Girl B. Presently, both of you are employed in different companies. Hence, office politics from your previous workplace shouldn't technically harm either one of you professionally; after all, even if you are indeed dating Girl B - it's truly your own private life.
You might want to gain some degree of self acceptance to the above thought processing first as I sensed some form of inner resistance from you as somehow, you kept referencing 'unimportant' people in your life (my hypothesis) to make significant decision (namely your love affairs).
So how should you proceed? Well, since you don't really know her as a person beyond mundane description of nice and sweet - you can start getting to know her better? And you can help yourself by being genuine in wanting to know her and be less bothered by immaterial details such as age for now. If age is an issue, the process of knowing her will reveal to you mystically.
Cheers
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Originally posted by Jamie Zawinski:
breast squeeze out one, not shaped to my likeing, face cmi.
next
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