HTB and PRC woman
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Originally posted by Bio-Hawk:
Finally something sensible from you after:
1) I have 3 friends and all of our husbands were taken by PRC woman,so they are evil: Is it that you and your friends are of same class/group? And a great work on generalising 1.6 billion people.
2) I have been dating the same guy for almost a decade. He was a divorcee with a beautiful daughter, whom I love and I adore.: The guy dated you for 10 years?Holy! And still you couldn't figure out he was keeping you as backup?
3)He was earning more than he ever had. The now and then drinking session becomes frequent. He began picking on my faults, and eventually he didn't even come home.: So you admit your faults.
4)Local girls are not materialistic. In fact they are very simple women, who just want to build a simple happy family of their own. Yes I do enjoy buying designer goods, but I was a faithful caring woman who knows how to love a man and love his family.: I am not materialistic apart from the fact that I make him buy all designer stuff.
5) Why? Anybody knows why?: OMG really? You stil don't know?You need a bunch of people from internet to tell you that you were pious and great how bad the guy is and how bad his new wife is?
6) And I had spent my time, and money, on that piece of "garbage" whom I was ready to be married to.--> Yes you did,now admit it and move on.
7)Everything I built for the last decade, now belongs to a PRC woman who did nothing but spread her legs --> Since you know the secret, why not try it out yourself? It's not that easy obviously.
8) Beside every hot chick is a very bored man as far as physical beauty is concerned. --> And beside a rich guy there is a bored gal as well emptying his stuff and staying around only for his money,as u know!
9)She had spent 10 years with the guy prior. It would not have been a level playing field as you suggest.--> So she too supported him in many ways and you didn't know about it.
10)As far as physical appearance is concerned, that prc sht is no way better looking than me. Nice people would say she is average. Straight forward people probably would say "ah tiong bin".I say cb ah tiong bin. --> Obviously she knew how to use it.
11)But Genie was right, she was "new", she was "different", but impossibly better.-->New after 10 years?Are u serious?
I understand all this is not easy, you supported a guy for a time and he left you when things became better.Where have I seen this?Yes in movies, drama and hell yeah in life. Poor guy sells his house to fund his gf for studies who meets a richer guy and leaves, poor guy works hard supports her and her family and she goes with a rich guy,poor guy supports a gal and she marries a rich guy thanking her brother.
So stop whining and live with your branded stuff. It happens to many, that is way life is. If you are over these meaningless sympathy from strangers,use this to forge a new life and kick the guy in his ass.Else wallow in self pity with bottles and ur gf(I am sure they are in a worse way than you)
Bro....case closed already.... she probably moved on with life.You should too.
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She just need time to detox and let go of toxic from her life.
Writing about it is one of them.
Cheers !
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Thanks ! :D
Genie and Medicated Oil are awesome !
Whether there are people better off or worse off, it does not and will not make my bitterness any lesser.
But I realised, thank you to the kind souls here, I have been holding on too much to the anger and hatred.
And maybe was too soft hearted.
When I was abandoned, and lost everything, who from that place care? Who from that place worry about me? Nobody.
Only my own family, and my own circle of friends.
Even strangers from here.. Hahah..
So what business is mine that he is having a tough time now. Why should I even feel sorry for him and his family. I was not the cause of all these shit. He himself created all those mess.
I think i have been idling and drowning myself in self pity for abit too long..
I tried, waking up every morning with a positive thought, and going to sleep with another one.
Tried to find things to do, hit the gym, find people to eat dinner with, to drink with. Go KTV. Sing songs all night long.
And I will be clearing the rest of my annual leave with a holiday somewhere away from here. :D
And most importantly, blocking everyone from that place on my whatsapp and phone.
The only thing that should concern me right now, I know. Is Myself !
Cheers everyone !
Have a great weekend !!
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You too have a relaxing weekend Kayrene :)
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Girl do yourself a favor.
If the man don't proposed to marry by 2 years. MOVE ON.
After 2 years and you stick around like a homeless puppy.. you only become his "convenience".
A man knows what he wants, they aren't as stupid as you think. if he is holding back.. you should get the hint if you're smart enough and get the hell out of there.
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2 years is already stretching it for low self esteem girls like you.
Enlightened people 1 year or less.
By 2 years and based on a average dating process.
You'd have gotten to know each other's ins n outs of routines, families, friends, perks and quirks.
By 2 years..if he hasn't turned into the prince charming you've wanted, he ain't gonna become one after that.
If you haven't transform into his ideal girl in his wet dream by then , you're not gonna be anyway.
If both had to wait and see ... chances are you're just settling..hoping a better option will come along... if not.. oh well... resign to lousy fate and accept the hand you been dealt. Thats just pathetic.
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Incidentally after I got married my wife realised I was not the "prince charming" i was initially haha. Reality sets in fast rofl.
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
Incidentally after I got married my wife realised I was not the "prince charming" i was initially haha. Reality sets in fast rofl.
Of course, now that you've got yourself a queen , you've turned into a pot bellied smelly king of your dom. It's natural progression.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Of course, now that you've got yourself a queen , you've turned into a pot bellied smelly king of your dom. It's natural progression.
I rest my case lol.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Of course, now that you've got yourself a queen , you've turned into a pot bellied smelly king of your dom. It's natural progression.
Incidentally Jojo.....yer not single, old, grumpy and hate men right? My spider sense is tingling.
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
Incidentally Jojo.....yer not single, old, grumpy and hate men right? My spider sense is tingling.
Wat..you can't handle the truth?
Well sorry to disappoint you. I love men and is happily married to a man whom is not afraid of women with brain. He finds women who are not very smart too boring for him.
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Ok Jojo. Now I know. And learnt.
I was silly and naive the last time. We were living together, and I didnt think marriage was important, and thought we were just like a married couple without a certificate. Plus I had a good relationship with his girl, his mom and his siblings( yeah i give, they take i know. Actually they are merely users)and didn't thought of having another kid.
But now I really, really realised the importance of that god damn certifcate.
It was so easy for that idiot to do that to me, leaving me with nothing in the end, because he was not bound by the law to be responsible for me.
I was not hoping for a better option. Just naive and guillable. Sigh
And the prime of my youth gone justlike that. @#$*$*÷!!
But I am still generally lucky. My friend has got two kids. Its gonna be so much tougher for her.
Anyway life goes on for us. Just have to control that anger and not let it eat me. Who knows I may really end up with someone better !!
EVen if I don't I believe im still better off without someone like that
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Just to learn to love the most important person in your life - YOU.
Learn and find out more about yourself and you will realised you do not need another one cos you already have yourself.
Can sensed that you are still slightly angry and it will take time to heal.
There is no someone better in life cos people changes.
The lesson that we learn in life is getting and letting go.
If you can find some one that share the common life vision with you, good.
If not, you still got your family and you to love.
All is not lost as I can see you have a lot of love to give :)
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Wat..you can't handle the truth?
Well sorry to disappoint you. I love men and is happily married to a man whom is not afraid of women with brain. He finds women who are not very smart too boring for him.
Interesting ... you're happily married yet you hate men... why?
And your husband hates women who are not very smart eh... my curiosity is piqued lol.
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Originally posted by SumOne:
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Dear jojo,
I've seen enough of your posts to know I'm not jumping to conclusions. You perhaps will defend yourself by stating otherwise, no comments on that. I don't wish to let you carry this conversation in a different direction and meaning again, but I'll just leave you with the following.
If you cannot look at things from different angles, you are not a very effective thinker.
The world is not flat, neither should your thoughts be. -
Originally posted by jojobeach:showI know you understand the logic. Good night jojo.
-A feminist gone too far is as bad as an MCP-
Hi Jojo,Above was taken from the thread titled below. My aim was to basically find out why you hate men which was the reason why "my spider sense tingled". So I decided to do a quick check of your early posts.So point is do you think you are a feminist?As for you stating that "I love men and is happily married to a man whom is not afraid of women with brain. He finds women who are not very smart too boring for him."Is this bcos you are angered when you see posts in Aunt Agony whereby women have suffered. You then get angry at said women becos in yer perception they "have no brain" and have failed your "feminist" cause. Women must prove they are better than men?A v.gd friend held back by her persistent ex-bf
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Dear Mr Genie99,
I repeat again.. I am not a feminist.. far from it. Perhaps you may want to find out exactly what a feminist is.. before you mislabel me, just as many other male forumers here had been doing all too often.
I enjoy the female role.. my husband do his best to provide, protect , make me happy and feel secure. I want to feel like a woman, not like a man.
I do not hate good men.. I do not like men who treats women badly.
I do not agree with men who insist that exploiting and oppressing women is OK because it's our "culture", or that's our role to be submissive and be subjugated by men.
There are many women out there who are victims to men's oppression and manipulations. Laden with confusion and guilt , a woman cannot be happy. To be happy we need to stop being a victim.
The Ying Yang is balanced and complementary to make one whole circle. That's how relationship should be too.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Dear Mr Genie99,
I repeat again.. I am not a feminist.. far from it. Perhaps you may want to find out exactly what a feminist is.. before you mislabel me, just as many other male forumers here had been doing all too often.
I enjoy the female role.. my husband do his best to provide, protect , make me happy and feel secure. I want to feel like a woman, not like a man.
I do not hate good men.. I do not like men who treats women badly.
I do not agree with men who insist that exploiting and oppressing women is OK because it's our "culture", or that's our role to be submissive and be subjugated by men.
There are many women out there who are victims to men's oppression and manipulations. Laden with confusion and guilt , a woman cannot be happy. To be happy we need to stop being a victim.
The Ying Yang is balanced and complementary to make one whole circle. That's how relationship should be too.
Thank Jojo,
I think its a very noble cause. However I feel that I am in deep water and do not know enuff to comment and as such I cede the point in your favor.
However I do suggest that perhaps you could try abit of tolerance when responding to fellow forumners when airing your views. They might feel that you are force feeding your opinion onto them.
I think for some, when they come into Aunt Agony their main aim is to "detox and release toxins" as Medicated Oil has suggested. And thus the best relief is to try and understand the pain and show some understanding.
The why's and how's can be saved for later when they have healed from the wound.
All the best and take care,
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
Thank Jojo,
I think its a very noble cause. However I feel that I am in deep water and do not know enuff to comment and as such I cede the point in your favor.
However I do suggest that perhaps you could try abit of tolerance when responding to fellow forumners when airing your views. They might feel that you are force feeding your opinion onto them.
I think for some, when they come into Aunt Agony their main aim is to "detox and release toxins" as Medicated Oil has suggested. And thus the best relief is to try and understand the pain and show some understanding.
The why's and how's can be saved for later when they have healed from the wound.
All the best and take care,
GenieMr Genie, thank you for your unsolicited advise. Your feeble attempt to control my online behavior is actually quite laughable.
When a woman comes online to "rant".. she is not looking for a pityfest.
If a woman wants to look for patronising, hypocritical, pretentious, and self-serving interest, she go talk to her family and friends.. who will tell her, things are not as bad as it seems, everything is going to be ok,.. the moral support.. yes.. all the fakeries to make her FEEL better. Worst are the ones who attempts to manipulate her for their self-interest. That's the job of her friends and family.
I don't partake in pityfests.. doing so only enables self-pity, increase denials and slows healing.
I cut the BS. I give the raw truth.. most of the time.. that's all a woman needs to see beyond the fairy tale fog and get back on her two feet.
A woman need to take care of her self first.. before she can take care of others. She cannot give what she doesn't have.
But I highly recomend you do not attempt this with your wife.. your job is to cry with her when she is sad, and laugh with her when she is happy, and pretend you understand her, because you are her family.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
There's no honor among thieves.
For the past 10 years, you were "the other woman", now that PRC is the new " other woman".
That man has no problem divorcing his wife and mother of his child, what makes you think he can't leave you for another woman ?
You think love conquers all... unfortunately, of all the men out there, you had to go conquer a piece of garbage.
But like all foolish women out there... regardless of nationality, you think you must be so special... that you can make an unfaithful , irresponsible man... become faithful and responsible to you... the great delusion.
Your 'ex" boyfriend is a user.. the past 10 years.. you had been his rebound, his free care giver, free nanny and free fuck buddy. Perfect boyfriend ? No, you've been blinded.. by your own severe lack of self-esteem.
Your self-esteem is ZERO.. that you've allowed yourself to think that piece of garbage is actually "perfect" for the past 10 years.
10 years.. and he never marry you ? 10 years and he never got you pregnant ? And all of a sudden.. he got a pRC pregnant within a few months ? Wow... he must really NOT want you to be part of his family.
Stop wallowing in self pity , and start growing some self-esteem. Else you will only end up "falling in love" with another piece of garbage again and again. All the while thinking you found something worth holding on to.
walao jojo lai liao.. power anti climax
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Tell me yourself!!! : http://92gag.com/most-viewed/tell-me-yourself-169
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this jojo chracter probably like to punish men
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she brought men back to earth, tought some to behave like husband, told some the hard truth about women, to some men, these can be punishing.
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Originally posted by sgdiehard:
she brought men back to earth, tought some to behave like husband, told some the hard truth about women, to some men, these can be punishing.
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
Do u think she wud b able to handle it if i gave her my truth?You should be telling the truth to those posting their problems here, seeking answers.
No point targeting me for your personal vindication.
"Honesty is a very expensive gift, do not expect it from cheap people -Warren Buffet.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Dear Mr Genie99,
I repeat again.. I am not a feminist.. far from it. Perhaps you may want to find out exactly what a feminist is.. before you mislabel me, just as many other male forumers here had been doing all too often.
very well. The world does not revolve around your reality, if he world's reality differs from yours sadly you r the problem. I do agree wif u that this time what i said is uncalled for