unfaithfull husband and i am closing 2 eyes now .
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i just got married one year and found out my husband is having emotional cheating with vietnams girls working in the nightlife ..he loves vietnam nightlife,and,.my baby is only one month plus too...i am devastated but i act as if nothing has happen ... it is almost i am closing 2 eyes..
is it true all guys cannot be faithfull and get tired physically with their wife no matter how good i treat me i dont nag also.. although he still communicates with me but he is not wanting sex from me anymore i also found out those xxx social escort pages bookmarks and dating apps recently..
i am not a naggy n obsessive wife and always shower him with love , affection,n gives my 100 % to him..allowing him to drink with his friends. too,.. what should i do? should i carry on to act blur i love him alot... i would like to hear some advice from you guys ,,,thank u ,,,
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hi daylight, sorry to hear yr predicament. as an outsider, i shouldn't assume anything, i m trying to answer your questions based on my own opinion. some guys stray, some not. unfortunately yours stray. but that doesn't mean he doesn't love u. he doesn't want sex could be he was too tired when he reached home. it will be better to talk to him, moreover, it is extremely dangerous to have multiple sex partners, more so with social sex workers, who are expose to unprotected sex. you should try to ask him to stop or seek a certified counsellor. if u still do not know how to approach him abt this, talk to your closest relative/friend to seek help. hope your issues could be resolved.
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One cannot change another with words and it never happens. One changes one's own behaviour and therein lies the resolution to the .... Stating preferences (one's own) is wiser as opposed to making another wrong. What he was and is now, is not circumstantial, rather the person he is, is manifesting itself. Circumstances do not create a person, it reveals and the sooner one gets used to it and acknowledges that, the better it is for one. As for love, is it really love or something esle pretending (masquerading) as love? Many confuse needs/expectations as love. All these matters and to feign ignorance is unconsciously sowing seeds of discord/disharmony for oneself and another or ..... The latter cannot be sustained for much too long. It is an accident waiting to happen!
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wtf if i was you i will hire a PI and divorce him! I wouldn't waste my energy on him that bastard. i understand you, you love him but if he's not there, he's not.
learnt to let go.
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I would start a frank discussion to see if its a short coming/perceived from your side.
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U lose yr way if u closed yr eyes for too long u know
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i tried to hint him and talk to him nicely ...but he lies and say it in a convincing way he is faithfull and no time for anything ....i dunno what to do now...i wanna have alife with him ....dunno if slowly waiting and treating him nicely will make him realise his wife is the best anot ?
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Is this so-called man's need? To frequent night club ,drinking. Looking for prostitution.
Nowadays Audltery is less taboo?
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ya .....nowadays its getting more common ...i heard alot of failed marriages and divorces from my own friends and other people too .....just now the vietnam woman call but my husband dont dare to answer her call...i think he knows i knew it ....because i started hinting but in a really nice talking manner .....dunno what i should do.... dunno is its really true once men cheat once they will always cheat again and again ... i would really like to maintain the marriage...think alot of women will say i am stupid
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audltery ximisaiyo?
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Originally posted by daylight004sg:
ya .....nowadays its getting more common ...i heard alot of failed marriages and divorces from my own friends and other people too .....just now the vietnam woman call but my husband dont dare to answer her call...i think he knows i knew it ....because i started hinting but in a really nice talking manner .....dunno what i should do.... dunno is its really true once men cheat once they will always cheat again and again ... i would really like to maintain the marriage...think alot of women will say i am stupid
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Originally posted by daylight004sg:
ya .....nowadays its getting more common ...i heard alot of failed marriages and divorces from my own friends and other people too .....just now the vietnam woman call but my husband dont dare to answer her call...i think he knows i knew it ....because i started hinting but in a really nice talking manner .....dunno what i should do.... dunno is its really true once men cheat once they will always cheat again and again ... i would really like to maintain the marriage...think alot of women will say i am stupid
Your husband will continue the betrayal as long as he thinks he is getting away with it. And yes, many men lies to get out of trouble. Thanks to you.. He obviously thinks his lies are working.
A man is never sorry for what he did, he is only sorry because he got caught.
The next time his phone ring and he is not picking it up. YOU go ahead and pick it up.
The other woman may not be aware that she is dealing with a cheater, she may not even know he's already a married man and a father.
So do yourself and that ignorant woman a favor. Let her know you are his wife, and if she persist, let her know she can have that piece of garbage you no longer wants.
Let your husband know you are well aware of what he is doing, there is no need to stand on ceremony here. What are you afraid of , hurting his feelings ? Don't worry, he's a big boy.. he can handle it.
He needs to know he can't have his cake and eat it too.
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Not every man will cheat....I'm sorry to hear your story...what happens if he doesn't stop? How long and how far will you tolerate his unfaithful actions before you decide its enough....?
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yesterday i had a calm clarification with my husband ...i told him i knew he is unfaithfull and having a emotinal affair with this vietnam woman....i actually told him i cannot control how he feels and what he plan to do ....i gave him a pat on his shoulder and said i want him to know and remember that i love him lots and dont want the family to break ....and just simply walk away ..i .even encourage him to go out n do whatever he thinks is right.... he denies calmly kept quiet and said i think too much ... wondering if what i do will make him wake up and realise i am a woman who is always loyal behind him....or simply i am a stupid girl ;(
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Originally posted by daylight004sg:
yesterday i had a calm clarification with my husband ...i told him i knew he is unfaithfull and having a emotinal affair with this vietnam woman....i actually told him i cannot control how he feels and what he plan to do ....i gave him a pat on his shoulder and said i want him to know and remember that i love him lots and dont want the family to break ....and just simply walk away ..i .even encourage him to go out n do whatever he thinks is right.... he denies calmly kept quiet and said i think too much ... wondering if what i do will make him wake up and realise i am a woman who is always loyal behind him....or simply i am a stupid girl ;(
Actually I would agree with what you did with a clause.
- If he changes ....because you and I both know that at the end of the day if he doesn't your life is ruined.
- There is no such thing as "the only one for you". Love is a matter of time.
- If he doesn't change you will need to seperate. You should fight for alimony sighting that he has been unfaithful.
- If he is earning more the child should be left with him.
You only live once ... do the right thing... for your child and more importantly for yourself.
- If he changes ....because you and I both know that at the end of the day if he doesn't your life is ruined.
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
Actually I would agree with what you did with a clause.
- If he changes ....because you and I both know that at the end
of the day if he doesn't your life is ruined.
- There is no such thing as "the only one for you". Love is a matter of time.
- If he doesn't change you will need to seperate. You should fight for alimony sighting that he has been unfaithful.
- If he is earning more the child should be left with
him.
You only live once ... do the right thing... for your child and more importantly for yourself.
"If he is earning more the child should be left with him."
Custody is awarded based on the best interest of the child, not how much money the parent earn.
If the father had not been much involved with the care taking of the child, he really shouldn't be given sole custody of the young child.
Obviously, TS's husband is more interested in servicing his own dick.. than be a good husband and a good father. So, why would you want her husband to have custody ?
- If he changes ....because you and I both know that at the end
of the day if he doesn't your life is ruined.
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All too often, a man will justify his action by drawing a line and convince himself that as long as that line is not crossed, his action is not considered a betrayal or damaging.
Example. Look but don't touch.
Your husband probably thinks that as long as he is not caught with his pants down he's not betraying you.
You need to be the person to draw the line, and tell him emotional betrayal is just as disrespectful and hurtful and you will not tolerate that kind of betrayal either.
The most painful part of a betrayal is not about him putting his dick in another woman's vagina. It's really the DECEIT that cut the deepest.
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Mutual benefit scheming does not and rarely lasts long. Being self-honest and acknowleding this lacunae in oneself may stand one in good stead to come to terms with one's cirumstances.. Otherwise, it is being incarcerated in one's predicament and suffering immensely cos extraneous agents (whatever comes to mind) may not elicit fulfilment. It is merely a house of cards, an accident waiting to happen.
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@jojo bcos if custody is awarded based on the best interest of the child $ is a major concern and is not mutually excl. to her situation.
whilst it is true that he has done wrong there remains the possibilty that he still luvs his famili and only wanted physical gratification.
it is a fact that most men are attracted by physical stimuli hence "see dun touch" came around
she has a real problem which is best solved logically and to let emotions get involved might be detrimental to the outcome
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single mothers dun hav it easy
they are married 1year implies both r relatively young
all these must b factored
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did he forget to put on condom last time ? poor child
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
@jojo bcos if custody is awarded based on the best interest of the child $ is a major concern and is not mutually excl. to her situation.
whilst it is true that he has done wrong there remains the possibilty that he still luvs his famili and only wanted physical gratification.
it is a fact that most men are attracted by physical stimuli hence "see dun touch" came around
she has a real problem which is best solved logically and to let emotions get involved might be detrimental to the outcome
Genie, that's why there's such a thing call child support. The father can still financially support the child while the mother take care of the young one.
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Originally posted by Genie99b:
single mothers dun hav it easy
they are married 1year implies both r relatively young
all these must b factored
Life is no different for a woman between being a single mother vs one married to a deadbeat father.
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