Inability to have r/s with woman

• HashKeth

  22 Sep 13, 05:01

  Dear all,

  I am a 26 yo Chinese male. I have never had a girlfriend in my life and have been feeling very down as of late because of this fact. Even more so is the mindset that hinders me from making any sort of meaningful contact with the opposite sex. Whenever I feel attracted to someone I feel that it is manipulative of me to talk and get to know that person just so that I can eventually have sex with her. I have never seem to get over this and I wonder if anyone can help me with my problem.

  Desperately Lonely, Thanks

• HashKeth

  22 Sep 13, 05:07

  Something that I really want to get offa my chest is that I have been seeing someone that I have met through a dating website. She is a nice person, but I am not attracted to her at all and I don't see her as a person I can be comfortable with in a r/s. What should I do? Pls help

   

  Thanks

• jojobeach

  22 Sep 13, 09:51

  Originally posted by HashKeth:

  Dear all,

  I am a 26 yo Chinese male. I have never had a girlfriend in my life and have been feeling very down as of late because of this fact. Even more so is the mindset that hinders me from making any sort of meaningful contact with the opposite sex. Whenever I feel attracted to someone I feel that it is manipulative of me to talk and get to know that person just so that I can eventually have sex with her. I have never seem to get over this and I wonder if anyone can help me with my problem.

  Desperately Lonely, Thanks

  Let me guess.

  Your don't have a close relationship with your mother, and you have no sisters, yes ?

   Perhaps if you stop looking at females as just a sex object, you may actually be able to start having a non-sexually motivated connection with a female being.

   

• Craptalkone

  22 Sep 13, 10:56

  jojo dont bother to help this one.

  he probably reading all the comments that he can get so to fish girls online for 1nitestand

• Fugazzi

  22 Sep 13, 13:40

  Ts, The truth of the matter to ur predicament is this - u are not lonely as u imply, rather ur mind is lust-ridden and the wanting to be in a relationship or know a ... are excuses and merely excuses to play out what is latent in u. Considering ur age (assume it is true) it is a phase all go thru. However, to not acknowledge or to deny that aspect of .... in oneself is unhealthy and unwise. It is disrespectful of oneself and how can it be possible to respect another. Sex is not love, and lust is not love. Sex of the body is healthy, sex of the mind is neurosis.
• Bamboo Ocean Army021

  22 Sep 13, 14:39

  ?????anyone ever thought of keeping a cat and just watching porn?

• shirt_less

  25 Sep 13, 15:58

  a meaningful relationship is not just about sex alone... you have very wrong attitude towards relationship. if sex is what you are looking for, you can just buy sex without commiting to a relationship...
• Craptalkone

  25 Sep 13, 20:22

  sex is an important part of relationship. but if sex not good relationshio can be spoilt. if other stuff not good - also no mood for sex

• CN

  1 Oct 13, 10:56

  Want sex?? Go to Geylang..

  Want relationship?? Go meet girls and build friendship.. or dating clubs..

  Want sex and relationship?? Once you meet girls, and they like you.. become your gf, you will get sex..and it's a real loving one.. not the kind of horny type you are thinking of.. in fact it is so loving that most man who is in a relationship for years are not interested to have sex with their partners and it's the woman who wants it more..

   

• Craptalkone

  1 Oct 13, 21:06

  woman, you cal lthat a woman?

• Genie99b

  1 Oct 13, 21:16

  Originally posted by HashKeth:

  Dear all,

  I am a 26 yo Chinese male. I have never had a girlfriend in my life and have been feeling very down as of late because of this fact. Even more so is the mindset that hinders me from making any sort of meaningful contact with the opposite sex. Whenever I feel attracted to someone I feel that it is manipulative of me to talk and get to know that person just so that I can eventually have sex with her. I have never seem to get over this and I wonder if anyone can help me with my problem.

  Desperately Lonely, Thanks

  Lol.... you are a rare breed.

  Lets put it this way. Whilst it is manipulative to "yada yada" for the sole reason of sex....

  I personally do not find it manipulative if you "yada yada" with someone you do like and can't stop thinking of sex haha......hope i make sense.

   

  edit: when i was dating my current partner i was thinking about sex all the time lol

   

• Craptalkone

  1 Oct 13, 21:26

  no mood, must see if really a woman or not.