My father is the one who mention about divorce first and a few days later, he wanted to talk to my mum in a fk tone. Ended up they start to quarrel and of course i walk towards and join the quarrel. For many years, they have been quarrel n quarrel non stop mostly about gambling and sex and probably bcuz my father is really one of a kind who is hard to deal with. Years by years, my mum n i bear this n that to forgive him.
I really had enough of all these. I tried to convince my mum, if u want a happy, better life, time to make a divorce decision, if not u and me is goin to suffer. She made a choice, DIVORCE.
We alrdy told him about the divorce, and tonite will be the crucial moment which either we will quarrel again or he might even beat us. I really duno wht will he do?
So here is the qns. Should we stay put or leave the huz but go to where. We hav so many things in this huz, i m really lost. Wht to do now? My mum is @ work now n i m all alone in this huz. Thinking about tonite makes me chill.
i dun want to die under his hands. OMG.
zulkifli mahmood
How old are you and what is your parents' age? Try go for a family counselling tribunal first and see how it goes.
KINGYO
We went to counselling before. A few months ago bcuz of him again. No point going for counselling anymore, the problem is always there if we stay tgt. I am in my 20s and my parents are 50s.
His character is untolerable, u will know if u live with him.
zulkifli mahmood
Ok I understand now...I've read your other postings. Ok. Have you got grandparents from your mother side to live with? If you have then suggest to your mother to live with them and leave your father....until such time he is change I hope. You mother need to separate herself from him for now.
jlowbog
I think the outcome is not impt now...being 2gether with such dad only increase yr sufferings, its time to brace yrself to be a real man...if divorce, use the money fr selling the flat to get a 2 rm flat n yr dad can use to settle his debt, take gd care of yr mum, support her mentally...if u r still studying, u might need to work part time...life would tough for the 1st few yrs but it would be ok after u graduated...
Demon Bane
Get out of the house....rent a room with your mum temporarily....at least its cheap...while you wait for the sale of the house...or the divorce....out of sight, out of mind, I guess....