What happen if you find out that your wife is seeing another guy? And has asked for a divorce a few months before you found out that she actually seeing another guy?
Should you give her a chance? Should you find out who that guy is and confront him?
divorce. full.stop.
should i find out who the guy is? he has to be someone in her company..
does it help the situation?
hire PI, divorce.
if i am not wrong, their relationship started since Feb this year. What if she regretted?
wats her attitude towards u now?
Originally posted by Dr_Jekyll:if i am not wrong, their relationship started since Feb this year. What if she regretted?
Your logic is the same as: I killed someone, I regreted it, can I not get life imprisonment?
shake the yoke off the women charter, here's your chance. you just need a PI will do.
It's normal these days, wife have bf, husband have gf...
just open or close one eye.. Ignorance is bliss...dun get too sad.. You have the freedom to find a gf too.
She is moving out to stay with a guy colleague. My heart hurts. Nothing I can do to change her mind.
Originally posted by Dr_Jekyll:She is moving out to stay with a guy colleague. My heart hurts. Nothing I can do to change her mind.
good. take advantage of this, hire PI and don't let her get your money.
Originally posted by JerryJanice:just try to get on with yr life,
though it hurts but nothing u can do abt it.
just hope that she find that guy not as good as u & return to yr side !
Thanks, I hope this will happen. I am willing to forgive what she has done, if she should return to me.
Originally posted by Dr_Jekyll:Thanks, I hope this will happen. I am willing to forgive what she has done, if she should return to me.
Really ?
Is this really about you hoping she leaves that guy.. comes back.. so you can dump her instead to soothe your wounded ego and get revenge with that guy ?
Has her straying really has nothing to do with YOU ? Are you going to be the same old boring , unattractive , self-absorbed husband in denial anyway ?
If nothing change... there's no win... both you and your wife are gonna be losers.. both ends. Sooner or later.
Originally posted by Dr_Jekyll:Thanks, I hope this will happen. I am willing to forgive what she has done, if she should return to me.
can forgive but can forget?
Move on with your life..your own life..
If you wife comes back, consider it a bonus..Give her a chance..but make sure you don't give in to her so easily..have her earn it back.
However you should nonetheless hire a PI to get proof of her affair..so in case in future she decides to have another affair (touchwood) you can proof of her past offence..so she can't have the rights to touch your money.
"Man can forget but cannnot forgive, Woman can forgive but cannot forget"
Just to prepare yourself for the worst case scenerio..its better to be prepared than to be caught unprepared.
Try to be of close friends with her sister friends as well, so at least they can flag certain tell-tale signs to you if it is still happening or another new affair pops up in future.
Originally posted by Dr_Jekyll:She is moving out to stay with a guy colleague. My heart hurts. Nothing I can do to change her mind.
Grounds for divorce, in this case adultery, has minimal impact on the division of matrimonial assets. The only thing is to hope for sympathy from the judge but they are seeing so many cases a day, I believe they have stopped caring long ago, to them it is just a routine job. So it doesn't matter if u hire a PI and prove your wife's adultery, it will not give you any financial edge upon divorce.
TS, my advice is to let her go no matter how painful it is now and the path you have to take. People imagine that if they don't give up, they can get back to as before. It's seldom true, the innocence is lost and things will never be the same. How can you heal if you refuse to pull out the thorn? So my advice it to pull the thorn out and take a step at a time. As long as you don't stop walking, you will emerge from this nightmare eventually. And when all this is over, you'll be glad you made the choice.
Good luck.