Indeed.. in a man's dictionary of love.. forever means about 7 to 8 years.
Anything more is a bonus.
Forever exists in movie Twilight lar..
actualy if can sell house so clear cut...jus sell n arange with lawyer to divorce n no need hav anyting to do wit him..lead ur own life..
like u say ...u spend time cooking learn tings...study or wat ever...
time will rely heal...
now u sure alot emotions and canot decide and canot do anyting but keep thinking n sad...
u need to get over it yourself
no one can help u
maybe sudenly u can cry, sudenly u can laugh..morning u think of dump him, hate him, afternoon u think of salvaging relationship, at nite tink of begging him..come back..
but all thes keep going round n round...need to be decisive and then tell urself u make this decision u feel better..
It rely takes time lar..
take sometime to think about it
dun keep to urself too much
tell your close friends ...tok to them...can go drink abit but dun drink too much...at first when u tell friends, friends will sympathise wit u...then tell u dump him..but they r not in ur shoes...then u will keep repeating same ting, n they gt tired ...they will not tok to u...if closed ones will stil talk to u but end up scolding you....and u just try to think over it yourself...wat u should do....don let others afect u...cos u are the one in this relationship 7yrs ...not others...so whatever decision make, most important is dun regret ..if fail just move on.....if go through is a bonus...dun pin high hopes...
in life, anyting can hapen tat is out of your control....able to accept it and move on is the hardest thing to do...but after that u be stronger..
can go bowling and slam the ball and pins to FA XIE..u sure get strike n high sccore ...treat the pins as ur husband n the woman..
by the way u got no kids and if u wan alimony u mus aso justify why u need it ...since all along 7yrs u no need (this is if ur husband dun agree n contested u) ..judget will review on this..
so ask for lawyer first
Best u got pictures of them very close then show the laywer ask what u can get MAXIMUM claim from it...
if not beneficial then consider tok to ur husband n physco him giv u ahigher percentage of the house...since all along u been payin for the house...remmeber to tell ur lawyer that aso..that u have been paying for alot tings when he is jobless these yrs..
for me now, i still also very sad...but life stil goes on...only just tell myself i mus lead my own life, be independent...and need to keep acept reality...n try to tink of best option to solve...
i tell myself i wana make myself better ...i went gym training and exericse to slim down n look better so that more confident aso good...and it makes me feel better..
just do the tings that i like to do...
go shoping buy prada& LV..
haha
Live for myself and not live for him....
all along i tout wana set up family wit him..now realy changes everyting...big shift to my life lor..haiz...but still life goes on...
hope u can let time heal your wounds also..
now is toughest period...after this you will be fine...
ohhh by the way i will visit guanyin temple when i free sometimes to pray..
its realy zun..i qiu qian rely damn zun lor..haha but of cos canot keep believe too much lar..
our life is in our hands...i jus pai pai for safety n jus hope no more bad tings hapen only...
everything u do is karma....i now only wait for retribution to befall on them..
and hope good things hapen to me...no do harmful things hurt people...conscience clear...
...
if can save go for short trip holiday aso good..
see groupon or where go bali or resorts to relax n calm down lor..
Ehh after everyting over u get wat u deserve liao hor,
u wana make that woman xia suay , u should post their pic hug together or whatever that is legally right out ..say this woman SO cheap snatch your husband..haha put in FB Tag them...lor
Make them ji tao no Face..see still open simi Face book..
hi devoted girl :) u better already?
Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:hi devoted girl :) u better already?
been in sgf for yrs and never post in this forum before... but after reading your post I decided to pen my first post in AA... pls leave him no matter what it takes.. sorry I can't accept a guy to scold his wife in public. ... its just like hitting a guy beating a girl ...
The Starter Wife.
A man's first wife that (usually) marries out of love and helps him achieve wealth, power, etc., but is then promptly discarded upon reaching said goal for a younger more attractive woman. Can sometimes result in the starter wife getting half.
Example..As soon as he made his first million, Donald (Trump) left his starter wife for a young Slavic model named Melania, which cost him half.
Originally posted by Jadiry:
I may be dumb, but still; I still got feeling for him. He told me he will be filing the divorce papers - and I don't know on what grounds he can file against me. Neither of us are getting high salary. I just wonder if I should get a lawyer now or when he files. Any idea?
what you see in him for you to love? trust me as per desccirption of yourself, imagine if you are someone better looking you wil probably have many guys checking you out even if they know you are married and your hubby will cherish and wont let you go sure1.
i am not been harsh here but its reality you have to face it.
i am suer iof another guy comes alone and really can click with you,a s in a relationship with minimum or not lust for sex, then it will be a ture new life for you.
Jadiry,
You are a victim of Psychological Manipulation.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation
Your husband has exploited your weaknesses for many years.
Originally posted by isntitobviousstoptokinrot:
what you see in him for you to love? trust me as per desccirption of yourself, imagine if you are someone better looking you wil probably have many guys checking you out even if they know you are married and your hubby will cherish and wont let you go sure1.i am not been harsh here but its reality you have to face it.
i am suer iof another guy comes alone and really can click with you,a s in a relationship with minimum or not lust for sex, then it will be a ture new life for you.
Originally posted by jojobeach:Jadiry,
You are a victim of Psychological Manipulation.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation
Your husband has exploited your weaknesses for many years.
Originally posted by Jadiry:
jojobeach, I guess that is true, maybe he is insecure about himself to do this to me. I honestly never felt secure whilst I was with me, even now I also don't know what he is going to do to me even though he already moved out of the flat :(
What he will do to you is not much of a problem..
The question is.. what will YOU allow him to do to you?
With low self-esteem.. you will likely believe you don't deserve to be treated better. And will continue to let him manipulate and hurt you.
As Devotedgal mentioned... you need to raise your self-esteem.
When you allow a man to treat you badly, chances are.. he will.
When you detach from him emotionally , he will no longer be able to hurt you.
" You can't hurt someone who don't give a shit about you"....
"To be or not to be"
glad u have had a breakthrough with yourself
and made some critical decisions
very happy for u
erm, but i can't help but wanna say this, whao u all deaf ppl very happening wor kekeke
jkjk...........
wish u all the best and God's richest blessings on you
TS, Try to settle your emotion using logic. What kind of a husband is this? Instead of supporting you financially he is a burden to you, Instead of loving you, he is hurting you , there is no sex etc. This is a guy that is all minus and no plus at all. When you finally walk out of this mess, you will be glad you did so.
Regarding the flat, if you really don't want to sell, you can let him file using separation. After 3 years, when he file for divorce using separation, you contest, this will give you another year. By then, you would reach the age of 35 and qualify to own the HDB flat by yourself. But be prepared to buy out his share though, so start saving.