Is It Possible For A Married Woman To Have A Male Best Fren?
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Please don't misunderstand my intentions.
I also hope that couples can be happy together, the feeling is so wonderful.
But when one of the partner err, most of the time, there is no salvage.
This is not Channel 8, This is the real world.
I always believe that whatever we do, we have to ask ourselves,
"The action that we do, will it make my partner look like a fool?"
Put this question to your wife's activities.........
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Ya la agree it's a "gone case" liao,best part she can just leave everything n go,even the kids...so sad to hear this.
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Another case, what is the world coming to. At first, this blog really look like a marketing gig. But then, the things written there, only someone who has gone through(or going through) such experience knows what it feels like.
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After i read the content in http://iwantrevange.wordpress.com/
I strongly encourage TS to conduct a DNA.
This is to ease your fresh and blood issue.
Times have changed, some women no longer hold to the core virtues anymore.
Sign...
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ts
when your kid did something wrong i think u will forgive them no matter how big is the mistake
home is a place we talk about love
as for your wife i think u know her more then anyone of us here
in marriage nobody can tell you that thing wont go wrong
when problem arise fix it and move on and u still have a family
well, i'm not saying that the other opinions here are wrong
as the end of the day u have to ask yourself what u want in life
if u want your ego more then go ahead and chase away your wife
if your face is more important then go ahead and file for a divorce even your wife is willing to come home and accepting to your term.
u have to decide what u want and dont let all the opinions here affect u
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Went to Japan with my wife and kids during the school holiday for a one week tour. Had quite an enjoyable time. The kid's were really happy. It's been quite sometime since we have such a good family time. That one week was probably the happiest time I have for quite a while. My wife seems happy too.
She started work with new company yesterday. In fact she joined that guy friends company. So now they're colleagues. I'm not that comfortable with this coz it means that they will spend more time together.
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e last time we quarell, she stormed off and didn't come home for 5days. We had a good talk after that and things were quite fine since. That's probably one of the reasons we had an enjoyable time in Japan. Things were looking fine until she told me she's joining his company.
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Sorry but it sounds really fishy.
You might want to consider PI services if you think there is more. However, is divorce an option for you or if things are really awry, do you want to still save the marriage?
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TS, if u still persist at present situtation, so be it.
If u feel happiness, so be it.
If u don't mind to share, so be it.
If you pride can take it, so be it.
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I think it's normal for your wife I have a male best friend.
But of course, the way you describe it, sounds a bit crossing over the line. Probably, she should spend her weekends with you instead of going out with her male best friend? A married couple needs to spend some alone time together too!
You should talk to her about it? Tell your how you feel about this matter?
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she stomped off for 5 days? where did she go?
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She stayed at his place for those couple of days
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did u wonder what they DID during those 5 days?
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discuss about work and wait for hubby to call her back?
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Originally posted by Wtongzl78:
She stayed at his place for those couple of days
Speaking from a woman's point of view. This is totally crossing the line.
I doubt she will accept it if you did the same thing.
Have you considered going for marriage counseuling? Maybe a professional 3rd party telling her that her actions has crossed the line be easier to accept.
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I think you need to consider whether you can live with her for the rest of your life the trust is already gone, not many men can live it down and you really really need to do a paternity test
for a lady to stay at a guy's house or even spend so much time with a guy
not likely unless they both share a unique hobby
it's all glaring in your face lol I'm not sure why you're still here?
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maybe they are just working partner
i see a lot of big boss in the corporate world
when they transfer to a new dept or join a new company
they will at least bring along their PA
if possible bring one or two of his teammate along
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aiya no person is perfect ma
even without this guy u still can find fault to a person everyday if u want to
the relationship will also go bad
b4 this marriage u already know they are like that
then why after marriage u are not comfortable leh
the saying after marriage close one eye
maybe u want to consider 该装傻时装傻
those are just my opinion up to u to decide
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Before marriage they were already best friends and often go out together. I know that was ok with it because I trusted her and knew her character anf lifestyle. After marriage, she carried on like that for many years and I was still ok until these 1-2
years when they go out more often and spent much more time together, especially those overseas trips. she started to pay less attention to my feelings and get angry easily when I asked her more about what she did and where she went. I sstill love her and I still want this marriage to work anf last., not only for the children but also because we were very happy together and it's not easy to forget those good times. I just hope she will come to her senses and realize what hurts she has caused me. I am willing to change to start again with her...
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go counseling
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oh gosh. when women get angry easily, it means they will start to think about someone else. anyway, women are simple. just stop doing things that will piss her off. like stop being insecure. marriage is about trust. give her the care and concern when she needs it. when she starts getting irritated, move back a little and give her space. just need to find the perfect balance. once you balance the scales, everything will go smoothly.
also, women are very typical. whenever they have quarrels or disagreements with their partners, they always find someone to confide in. obviously when you and her have arguements, she will find that best friend of hers. it is from there that women will start to develop mixed feelings for another person. even if this is so, do not mention it to her at all. no human likes to be accused be it real or fake. just behave normally. there goes a saying, where when u try to grip sand, the tighter you grip the sand, the more it falls away, vice versa. everything is about balance. the real problem you should be focusing on is searching for her balance. every woman has a different equilibrium. some prefer to be gripped more tightly than others. what type of woman is she?
ultimate rule of thumb, no assumptions. give her the respect of trust.
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also when women begin to confide in you more, you know you are on the right track. be a good listener. a damn good husband is a damn good listener. most women also prefer men to simply just listen. giving advice is not recommended. although some may prefer more advice than others.
the logic is because, when women confide in you, they begin to see you as someone they can rely on, someone who can comfort them. if they confide in someone else, it means that they see that person as someone they can rely on and comfort them. women often confuse that with love. thats where the nasty things begin. so reduce that and make it so that she confides lesser in her best friend, and confide more in you. and to do so is to prove to her you are a better listener than that best friend of hers.
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Male and female can never be best friends, unless the male is a gay. Tested and proven, now scared liao.
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scared what, she one more year 21 yo i already 50yo... the end is go Registry of marriage ROM then find one date get married only mah.