army "boyfriend" doesn't want me.

• Sweetangeloves

  4 Jan 13, 01:08

  not officially together, we confessed the day before he enlisted and he asks me to wait for 2 years because he won't have the time for me etc.

  it's been 2 months, we met up in groups every weekend and went out on dates twice.

  recently, he said he's confused about how he feels towards me. his mind is in a mess, worrying about his grandma's health and stressed out about his upcoming 24km route march and pop.

  we havent been in contact for 2 days already ever since I asked if he still likes me

  what should i do? guys.... if you were to be in his shoes, will you feel the same way as him too?

• troublemaker2005

  4 Jan 13, 01:15

  Originally posted by Sweetangeloves:

  not officially together, we confessed the day before he enlisted and he asks me to wait for 2 years because he won't have the time for me etc.

  it's been 2 months, we met up in groups every weekend and went out on dates twice.

  recently, he said he's confused about how he feels towards me. his mind is in a mess, worrying about his grandma's health and stressed out about his upcoming 24km route march and pop.

  we havent been in contact for 2 days already ever since I asked if he still likes me

  what should i do? guys.... if you were to be in his shoes, will you feel the same way as him too?

  recently, he said he's confused about how he feels towards me. his mind is in a mess, worrying about his grandma's health and stressed out about his upcoming 24km route march and pop.

  you should know if he got a dad or mom. they should be the ones worring about grandma's health. he should concentrate on his (tsk tsk) road march. and i think the 2 of you are still too young to undersatnd what is love and relationship. these problems are common in life and should not hurt any couples.

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• Lord dejavu

  4 Jan 13, 04:18

  There's an army song that goes booking out, saw my gf, ****ing with, another man, kill the man, kill my gf, with my rifle and my buddy and me.. I don't know how much that could influence his thinking but...
• Sandy17sandy17

  4 Jan 13, 08:53

  instead of wanting him to do something about the relationship, you should worry about hos grandma's health. With NS and his grandma's health, he might not feel confident of starting a relationship officially. Or he is just not that into you. Don't worry gal. Only time will tell..maybe you can show him more understanding and conconcern for now.
• newgal

  4 Jan 13, 09:31

  He finds you boring and wants to break off with you
• doraemon1234

  4 Jan 13, 09:49

  BMT is a very stressful experience. The recruits are being stuck on an island put through physical torment 5days in a row.. relationships outside will feel meaningless to them. I suggest you tell him you wait for him because after BMT, he will get to book out/nights out in his unit more often

• newgal

  4 Jan 13, 09:50

  

• ^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~

  4 Jan 13, 09:54

  Now let's try some scenario planning...

  Try doing this in a same time frame...

   

  1) Having need to study for exam during exam period... U are under alot of pressure from parents/friends/teachers to get good grades

  2) Need to plan 3 full birthday events (catering, location, invitation)

  3) Need to attend piano classes

  4) Need to do part time work

   

  U will simply find that u are very much drained as times goes by... Very tired...

  All this activity are what we call commitment. All commitment takes some of ur physical and mental energy... When u have too much commitment than you can handle, most ppl get stressed out...

  In times like this, you can be more understanding... being together doesn't mean that he have to call u every 2 days, IE:

  we havent been in contact for 2 days already ever since I asked if he still likes me

  Before u asked that insensitive (pardon me but maybe to him, u didn't spare a thought for his feelings) question, did he report to you everyday beforehand?

  What you can do is instead of adding further stress, as a couple, u shld be taking on part of his worry for him, let him know that u are there for him when he needs someone, so that he wont feel like he's in this alone... u shld let him know ur worries but maybe at a later better timing... Try to stuff everything into 1 single moment when he's too stressed out will end up balloon bursting...

• "newbie"

  4 Jan 13, 10:39

  2 days never call and you get all upset?

  First you must understand what is BMT.. BMT do not have much time for themselves.. they maybe outfield...etc...

  Last time, I was in NS serving BMT.. we only have pay phone.. and is common that we do not call for week or even weeks.... as majority of the pay phone will be out of order wahahaha

   

   

   

• troublemaker2005

  4 Jan 13, 11:04

  Originally posted by doraemon1234:

  BMT is a very stressful experience. The recruits are being stuck on an island put through physical torment 5days in a row.. relationships outside will feel meaningless to them. I suggest you tell him you wait for him because after BMT, he will get to book out/nights out in his unit more often

  
  who never been through BMT?

  luck that time i no gf, also blank mymind not to worry about my future and after NS. just concentrate on serving.

  know what? in no time just like a turn of a page 2 years over! i cant believe it when i ORDed! so happy then. POP? i cant hardly remember that. coz i know when i POP its a long way toORD yet.

  when ORD sian have to go incamp. but whenever i ggo incamp i blank miy mind from all other nonsense and just served. every ICT go. know what? at age 34 due to too good turn out and performance. army aend me one letter say - your done.

   

  that certificate i still keep with me in good cndition, unlike the use inkjet printer print 'certificate' from my manager and asiistant manger certifying what basic IPC PCBA inspection skill that i used it to clean up my cum after makeout with angel7030 and thrw into the bin. that piece of toilet paper only fools will show people. by what training and formal certification afer the people who signed on the crap able to certify and train? you have to be certified formally in order to 'train AND certified' other people. if youare not certified, you can most brief and train people, but cannot award certifications.

• newgal

  4 Jan 13, 11:05

  Get a part time bf. Before your army bf finish writing a goodbye note to you, you are in the arms of another bf.

• SBS2601D

  4 Jan 13, 11:09

  If the guy is truly interested, he will always try to make time for TS.

  And if he can't make time for TS, he would have told TS why he can't and ask for understanding.

  If such things aren't forthcoming, then I will interpret it as lacking interest and advise TS to well, not bother in that case.

  And if the guy is really in turmoil now, then TS should just let him be first.

• troublemaker2005

  4 Jan 13, 12:28

  nowsadays lots of ahboy ah ger gf bf bigfuck lah. kids and yougnsters. some family issue, the whole world flips. too much movies, so dramatic. i place myself higher than these avergae minds. after a movie, i wake up and welcome tomorrow.

  mayb the boy just some frind to you lah. if you like him, giv him so space and time. guys bobiah have to serve, so you giv him such shit he in army also difficult to pass. not all boys are strong in the mind.

   

  buddhsim preach - a good wife will watch his husband wealth and be beside hime through thin and tick. or did it?

   

  you can help by going over to his family and offer to watch and see hi granny if you cn make time. of course you have your own family so i guess if yours i s more fuck up than his you shuold watch your own first, then his.

   

  let him know you helping his virtual parents lookin after granny so he can serve proper.

   

  in war, you will look after families while men fight in the fireld. get it?

   

• Sweetangeloves

  4 Jan 13, 14:59

  Originally posted by "newbie":

  2 days never call and you get all upset?

  First you must understand what is BMT.. BMT do not have much time for themselves.. they maybe outfield...etc...

  Last time, I was in NS serving BMT.. we only have pay phone.. and is common that we do not call for week or even weeks.... as majority of the pay phone will be out of order wahahaha

   

  To clear things, I didn't mind that he didnt contact me at all. I was the one who decided to leave him alone and not disturb him. I'm upset that he didn't give me an answer and left me hanging to guess and worry.

   

   

• M the name

  4 Jan 13, 15:45

  I thought school reopen already and TS still got time to waste on his "BF" ? Why don't you spend time wisely by trying to do housework for your mother for a change so that you didn't have too much time to be "emotional" ?  

• troublemaker2005

  4 Jan 13, 16:46

  nowsaday very dramatic one, send boys up the lorry go army is just re-enacting a scene from their favourite korean movie.

• [imdestinyz]

  7 Jan 13, 12:21

  so how are things now TS?

• Sweetangeloves

  7 Jan 13, 16:09

  Haha thank you everyone for all the opinions and such. 

  I'm in university and school hasn't start yet, soon anyway. 

  We've ended because he's figured out it's infatuation all along. I'm letting go now because I know I have to.

  Although I won't be able to understand the real pain of NS, but I know very clearly how tough things can get when you're in army.

  Whatever it is, thanks for all the replies :)

• [imdestinyz]

  7 Jan 13, 16:11

  ohhh... at least there's proper closure.. NS surely can get tough for some :)

  all da best for u!