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I respect people with good manners. Thanks highland for your constructive reply.
Out of curiousity and what else? Let's be honest you need his help finanicially or what? If he didn't have a good career and was in a high position, do u still wish to be in touch and be friends with him?
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Originally posted by KM94:Nope, dont need his help financially... I have thought of what you mentioned too... I do get in touch with few other ex-colleagues from same batch too recently. What you think? Thanks for your feedback.
if i was you, i'll let it be. you may really have no hidden intentions, but one can't be sure if your reconnection with him will change everything or not. 16 years he probably forgot who u r already but even now you're strangers, remember one can always develop feelings for a total stranger.esp there was "gonna miss you" back then, and he will be super curious about why you want to connect with him again after 16 years. curiousity can do a person wrong, mind you.
read "why spouses stray" thread in here and you'll know what i mean.but again, it's your call.
Exactly what is it you want out of this contacting business ? Really.
Dont bother hiding behind the "friend" label. You are fooling no one but yourself.
You already know more than you need to know about him today. There is no need to seek acknowledgment from him at all.
What did not happen, happened for a reason.
I think you need to be more self honest and ask yourself if you are currently unhappy or unfulfilled in your current relationship. Apparently , your husband is not doing enough to stop you from thinking about another man.
There is more than the story and you are not telling us.
If its not this guy, you'd be thinking about another .
You cant solve any problem by seeking more trouble elsewhere.
16 years is a long time. If you had wanted to friend him you could hav done so long ago why wait till now ?
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th more i read this thread, the more i feel TS is fucking with our imnds.
Originally posted by jojobeach:Exactly what is it you want out of this contacting business ? Really.
Dont bother hiding behind the "friend" label. You are fooling no one but yourself.
You already know more than you need to know about him today. There is no need to seek acknowledgment from him at all.
What did not happen, happened for a reason.
I think you need to be more self honest and ask yourself if you are currently unhappy or unfulfilled in your current relationship. Apparently , your husband is not doing enough to stop you from thinking about another man.
There is more than the story and you are not telling us.
If its not this guy, you'd be thinking about another .
You cant solve any problem by seeking more trouble elsewhere.
16 years is a long time. If you had wanted to friend him you could hav done so long ago why wait till now ?
TS edited the threads already. to make those reply look like fools and wrote. TS is a person who like to hear good words, sweet pity words. now you should know why people like ho kong kee can be a professinal beggar. he tok cock to people who like to listen to sweet nothings, listen to crap that brings them to anotehr world without having to take drugs and medicine that may have side effects.
good medicine taste bitter, kind polite words will take TS nowhere near any solution. face the reality the pain and move on.