Ok. I just wanted to start off by saying that i DO have friends. We all do have friends but my circle of friends is not that many. Less than 10 as I can say. After my secondary school years, I went to ITE and friends over there is just hi and bye sort of thing. So i visit this forum called sgcafe (how do i know about this forum? long story lol). During that year, it was so active and lots of outing as i can remember. I'm really happy to be part of this forum and i made friends there and it became quite close to me. So close that we make outings of our own and not posted it on forum. Two years passed by and slowly the people i knew drifted away .. as in they no longer meet each other. I only left with 3-4 people that i knew of and days passed by, we no longer meet each other because of NS and/or busy with other things.
So I moved here... sgforums. And to my luck, during that time i visited this place.. it was quite popular. Outings at few parts in this forum. I remembered join in two outings of this forum, I remember one with some guy named callan and bak la va. Then after that, i got quite busy with exams, work and then went to out of country. After i returned to singapore, I found it is quite late for me. As this forum getting quieter and quieter.. it kinda kills me inside. I tried to reach bak la va but she changed her hp i think because her line is no longer available.
Times passes by to this year, I heard about sgclub. I joined in and another luck for me, they made an outing and i got invited thru some random pm from one of the moderators. Then i've been thinking, i wanted to go but.... why am i like this? am i really this desparate to find friends? I mean... i do have one of my best friend but now he's in NS. I cant just only stick to him. I wanted to open wide of my social circle but is this really the way? I miss hanging out with people at sgcafe but we no longer meet each other. So im guessing im doing all these is because i miss having fun.
socialising is part of life.
does not hurt to know more ppl
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:Ok. I just wanted to start off by saying that i DO have friends. We all do have friends but my circle of friends is not that many. Less than 10 as I can say. After my secondary school years, I went to ITE and friends over there is just hi and bye sort of thing. So i visit this forum called sgcafe (how do i know about this forum? long story lol). During that year, it was so active and lots of outing as i can remember. I'm really happy to be part of this forum and i made friends there and it became quite close to me. So close that we make outings of our own and not posted it on forum. Two years passed by and slowly the people i knew drifted away .. as in they no longer meet each other. I only left with 3-4 people that i knew of and days passed by, we no longer meet each other because of NS and/or busy with other things.
So I moved here... sgforums. And to my luck, during that time i visited this place.. it was quite popular. Outings at few parts in this forum. I remembered join in two outings of this forum, I remember one with some guy named callan and bak la va. Then after that, i got quite busy with exams, work and then went to out of country. After i returned to singapore, I found it is quite late for me. As this forum getting quieter and quieter.. it kinda kills me inside. I tried to reach bak la va but she changed her hp i think because her line is no longer available.
Times passes by to this year, I heard about sgclub. I joined in and another luck for me, they made an outing and i got invited thru some random pm from one of the moderators. Then i've been thinking, i wanted to go but.... why am i like this? am i really this desparate to find friends? I mean... i do have one of my best friend but now he's in NS. I cant just only stick to him. I wanted to open wide of my social circle but is this really the way? I miss hanging out with people at sgcafe but we no longer meet each other. So im guessing im doing all these is because i miss having fun.
You are just deperate to be "POPULAR".
Being popular is not the same as having true friends.. True friends can be counted within your 10 fingers... true friends you only need a few good ones.
Popularity is only to in-validate your inner fear.. perhaps you are worried that you are not a likeable person.... But when you are invited to big social event , you tell/ validate yourself " see... people still want me to be there and hangout with them, so surely I am a likeable person.. right ?" You have inner doubts, you are using popularity to dispel your inner doubts...
But being popular doesn't fill that void of having no true friend...popularity is the wrong yardstick to value yourself.
You can be very popular.. and at the same time.. feel very lonely inside.
True friends are the ones that fulfill part of you. The other part is yourself.
You have to like yourself first... after that.. everything is secondary.
I get invited to big parties.. but that's just part of social life... we exchange names, contact, we net work.. if we have lohbang.. we call each other.. if we got no mutually beneficial involvment..we throw their name cards away... it's all very superficial.
My "social acquaintances" don't get their nose in my personal life... if I have personal issues... I don't go to them... I go to my true friends and family... and i keep only a few close ones.
However.. if you just wanna be "popular"... all you need is a LOT of lohbang for others to take advantage of... so they see the value of inviting you to their social network... and keeping you there.....else you simply fade away..
Once you come out to work.. you will understand the value of net-working.. and why they will rarely be adding on to your small circle of close friends.
Of cors.. I'm not saying you stop going to social events... it is very fun.. , exciting and enjoyable... you should enjoy meeting new people.. but don't count on those events to fullfil that void inside yourself.
You have reached an age where your social circles are shrinking. Some of your friends move on to other circles or to NS, so they develop their own circle of friends and have no time for you. Your attempt to make new friends frustrate you. You are excited that you make new friends with Bak La Va and Callan but is disappointed that they just remain as acquaintances. Tell you one fact lah, it takes years to make close friends. People just don't simply open up to you until they know you much better. Friends are hard to come by, best friends are even harder. Some of my close friends, I know them for more than 9 years but we barely have time to see each other except during CNY and some reunions or hanging out for some drinks. I don't have close friendships with those I know less than 3 years.
Reality is this, friends come and go. But family is always there for you. So its time to settle down. Find yourself a relationship, a girlfriend (assuming you are a guy). When you are in relationship, your partner is the one who is always going out with you so you not so lonely anymore.
But if you really insist on finding friends - there's not many alternative (repeat:your social circles are shrinking). Maybe you can join social clubs but I dont know of one. I do join sammyboy forum or there is one malaysian alternative swingers forum (which I don't want to reveal here), so I make friends with sex swingers, have orgies, sneak behind our wives or girlfriends for some "snacks", meet up for drinks to boast about our sex adventures to bangkok and we go swing around. If you wanna be religious, you can think about joining church - they have youth groups who do some youth activities, gatherings and weekly meetings.
Originally posted by speakoutfor:You have reached an age where your social circles are shrinking. Some of your friends move on to other circles or to NS, so they develop their own circle of friends and have no time for you. Your attempt to make new friends frustrate you. You are excited that you make new friends with Bak La Va and Callan but is disappointed that they just remain as acquaintances. Tell you one fact lah, it takes years to make close friends. People just don't simply open up to you until they know you much better. Friends are hard to come by, best friends are even harder. Some of my close friends, I know them for more than 9 years but we barely have time to see each other except during CNY and some reunions or hanging out for some drinks. I don't have close friendships with those I know less than 3 years.
Reality is this, friends come and go. But family is always there for you. So its time to settle down. Find yourself a relationship, a girlfriend (assuming you are a guy). When you are in relationship, your partner is the one who is always going out with you so you not so lonely anymore.
But if you really insist on finding friends - there's not many alternative (repeat:your social circles are shrinking). Maybe you can join social clubs but I dont know of one. I do join sammyboy forum or there is one malaysian alternative swingers forum (which I don't want to reveal here), so I make friends with sex swingers, have orgies, sneak behind our wives or girlfriends for some "snacks", meet up for drinks to boast about our sex adventures to bangkok and we go swing around. If you wanna be religious, you can think about joining church - they have youth groups who do some youth activities, gatherings and weekly meetings.
Don't bull crap lay. You don't even have a gf or wife, how to swing ?
You are more like the town gigolo lah. Or u have to pay money to get laid.
Originally posted by speakoutfor:You have reached an age where your social circles are shrinking. Some of your friends move on to other circles or to NS, so they develop their own circle of friends and have no time for you. Your attempt to make new friends frustrate you. You are excited that you make new friends with Bak La Va and Callan but is disappointed that they just remain as acquaintances. Tell you one fact lah, it takes years to make close friends. People just don't simply open up to you until they know you much better. Friends are hard to come by, best friends are even harder. Some of my close friends, I know them for more than 9 years but we barely have time to see each other except during CNY and some reunions or hanging out for some drinks. I don't have close friendships with those I know less than 3 years.
Reality is this, friends come and go. But family is always there for you. So its time to settle down. Find yourself a relationship, a girlfriend (assuming you are a guy). When you are in relationship, your partner is the one who is always going out with you so you not so lonely anymore.
But if you really insist on finding friends - there's not many alternative (repeat:your social circles are shrinking). Maybe you can join social clubs but I dont know of one. I do join sammyboy forum or there is one malaysian alternative swingers forum (which I don't want to reveal here), so I make friends with sex swingers, have orgies, sneak behind our wives or girlfriends for some "snacks", meet up for drinks to boast about our sex adventures to bangkok and we go swing around. If you wanna be religious, you can think about joining church - they have youth groups who do some youth activities, gatherings and weekly meetings.
Don't bull crap lay. You don't even have a gf or wife, how to swing ?
You are more like the town gigolo lah. Or u have to pay money to get laid.
Originally posted by jojobeach:Don't bull crap lay. You don't even have a gf or wife, how to swing ?
You are more like the town gigolo lah. Or u have to pay money to get laid.
Wtf.
I need not prove to you that I have a girlfriend.
You are a stupid silly housewife who don't know anything about sex. You have to pimp out your son to brothels to teach him how to use his kukuciao.
There are a lot of cheongster forums in malaysia and singapore whereby other people post to invite people to social sex parties. I even joined a couple who wanted to have more variety in their sex life. No I don't have to pay to get laid. I get invited to get laid.
Originally posted by speakoutfor:Wtf.
I need not prove to you that I have a girlfriend.
You are a stupid silly housewife who don't know anything about sex. You have to pimp out your son to brothels to teach him how to use his kukuciao.
There are a lot of cheongster forums in malaysia and singapore whereby other people post to invite people to social sex parties. I even joined a couple who wanted to have more variety in their sex life. No I don't have to pay to get laid. I get invited to get laid.
Oooh.. I see.. yah.. we have those clubs here in USA too. The real ones where couples SWING... meaning they exchange partners.
You are the gigolo. That's what we call them here. The ones that are offered to couples for threesome or odd number orgies.
Originally posted by jojobeach:Oooh.. I see.. yah.. we have those clubs here in USA too. The real ones where couples SWING... meaning they exchange partners.
You are the gigolo. That's what we call them here. The ones that are offered to couples for threesome or odd number orgies.
For a housewife you are damn stupid. Where do you get your sex education from?
I bet your kid was born out of invitro fertilization because you are too afraid to see your husband's penis. Normal women use penis for fertilization, you use a stringe of sperm to ejaculate sperm into your pubes.
Gigolo are males that offer their services in exchange for money.
A swinger is one that volunteers to have sex with multiple partners for the sake of enjoyment and fulfillment. No money involve, just sex and some friendship with no strings attached.
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:Ok. I just wanted to start off by saying that i DO have friends. We all do have friends but my circle of friends is not that many. Less than 10 as I can say. After my secondary school years, I went to ITE and friends over there is just hi and bye sort of thing. So i visit this forum called sgcafe (how do i know about this forum? long story lol). During that year, it was so active and lots of outing as i can remember. I'm really happy to be part of this forum and i made friends there and it became quite close to me. So close that we make outings of our own and not posted it on forum. Two years passed by and slowly the people i knew drifted away .. as in they no longer meet each other. I only left with 3-4 people that i knew of and days passed by, we no longer meet each other because of NS and/or busy with other things.
So I moved here... sgforums. And to my luck, during that time i visited this place.. it was quite popular. Outings at few parts in this forum. I remembered join in two outings of this forum, I remember one with some guy named callan and bak la va. Then after that, i got quite busy with exams, work and then went to out of country. After i returned to singapore, I found it is quite late for me. As this forum getting quieter and quieter.. it kinda kills me inside. I tried to reach bak la va but she changed her hp i think because her line is no longer available.
Times passes by to this year, I heard about sgclub. I joined in and another luck for me, they made an outing and i got invited thru some random pm from one of the moderators. Then i've been thinking, i wanted to go but.... why am i like this? am i really this desparate to find friends? I mean... i do have one of my best friend but now he's in NS. I cant just only stick to him. I wanted to open wide of my social circle but is this really the way? I miss hanging out with people at sgcafe but we no longer meet each other. So im guessing im doing all these is because i miss having fun.
i can be your friend
Originally posted by speakoutfor:Wtf.
I need not prove to you that I have a girlfriend.
You are a stupid silly housewife who don't know anything about sex. You have to pimp out your son to brothels to teach him how to use his kukuciao.
There are a lot of cheongster forums in malaysia and singapore whereby other people post to invite people to social sex parties. I even joined a couple who wanted to have more variety in their sex life. No I don't have to pay to get laid. I get invited to get laid.
If you got a gf, I am sure to feel pitiful for her..and laid or get laid, you shall be. A..men
I totally understand how you feel.
I really miss the mIRC times when it was at its pinnacle. There are so many outings and events/BBQ every week, every month. I have made many close friends from there who I still hang out with to this day. Some of them remain to be one of my cloest friends. I even made a few ex-girlfriends from IRC back in the days.
Those times were golden and I would do anything to go back in time for it.
The world today is such a sad state where it's all about facebook, facebook and more facebook. And the occassion Twitter, Instagram and what not..
Even Friendster was more fun than this. And the beast is still mIRC.
You can do anything on there. Find your friends, get to know more friends, find a girlfriend, download moves and music, play with bots.
Really miss those times.
And do you miss your mommy, those milk bottles and your small pussy cat soft toy?
i dont think i want to do this because of popularity. I just want to widen my social circle.. i think there's a difference. I miss hanging out with the people i used to hang out back then. Now we all lost contact and i can never get this type of joyful life. I always thinking what are my friends (the ones i used to hang out) are doing nowadays while im here. I bet my last time friends were all living so happily now.
Originally posted by foreveralone:I totally understand how you feel.
I really miss the mIRC times when it was at its pinnacle. There are so many outings and events/BBQ every week, every month. I have made many close friends from there who I still hang out with to this day. Some of them remain to be one of my cloest friends. I even made a few ex-girlfriends from IRC back in the days.
Those times were golden and I would do anything to go back in time for it.
The world today is such a sad state where it's all about facebook, facebook and more facebook. And the occassion Twitter, Instagram and what not..
Even Friendster was more fun than this. And the beast is still mIRC.
You can do anything on there. Find your friends, get to know more friends, find a girlfriend, download moves and music, play with bots.
Really miss those times.
i heard abt MiRC.... this social network mIRC still alive? if so, can i join?
Originally posted by speakoutfor:You have reached an age where your social circles are shrinking. Some of your friends move on to other circles or to NS, so they develop their own circle of friends and have no time for you. Your attempt to make new friends frustrate you. You are excited that you make new friends with Bak La Va and Callan but is disappointed that they just remain as acquaintances. Tell you one fact lah, it takes years to make close friends. People just don't simply open up to you until they know you much better. Friends are hard to come by, best friends are even harder. Some of my close friends, I know them for more than 9 years but we barely have time to see each other except during CNY and some reunions or hanging out for some drinks. I don't have close friendships with those I know less than 3 years.
Reality is this, friends come and go. But family is always there for you. So its time to settle down. Find yourself a relationship, a girlfriend (assuming you are a guy). When you are in relationship, your partner is the one who is always going out with you so you not so lonely anymore.
But if you really insist on finding friends - there's not many alternative (repeat:your social circles are shrinking). Maybe you can join social clubs but I dont know of one. I do join sammyboy forum or there is one malaysian alternative swingers forum (which I don't want to reveal here), so I make friends with sex swingers, have orgies, sneak behind our wives or girlfriends for some "snacks", meet up for drinks to boast about our sex adventures to bangkok and we go swing around. If you wanna be religious, you can think about joining church - they have youth groups who do some youth activities, gatherings and weekly meetings.
but finding a girlfriend means u have to be friends first right? that is kind of a problem. Dont get me wrong i do have female friends but i dont want to cross the line.
Originally posted by angel7030:If you got a gf, I am sure to feel pitiful for her..and laid or get laid, you shall be. A..men
I got gf, but i treat her very well. I buy her prada, LV and lots of other gifts.
I don't need pity from a worthless bartender like you.
The way you write like you got no mother like that. You like raise by single father, no wonder you so bitter. Don't so busybody and go and do your bartending biz. Oh wait, there is no biz because you don't know how to be a bartender. Just look at the way you talk, like a 2 year old, no customer can respect you.
Oli toufa.
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:but finding a girlfriend means u have to be friends first right? that is kind of a problem. Dont get me wrong i do have female friends but i dont want to cross the line.
Then go out there and mix with more girl friends.
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:Ok. I just wanted to start off by saying that i DO have friends. We all do have friends but my circle of friends is not that many. Less than 10 as I can say. After my secondary school years, I went to ITE and friends over there is just hi and bye sort of thing. So i visit this forum called sgcafe (how do i know about this forum? long story lol). During that year, it was so active and lots of outing as i can remember. I'm really happy to be part of this forum and i made friends there and it became quite close to me. So close that we make outings of our own and not posted it on forum. Two years passed by and slowly the people i knew drifted away .. as in they no longer meet each other. I only left with 3-4 people that i knew of and days passed by, we no longer meet each other because of NS and/or busy with other things.
So I moved here... sgforums. And to my luck, during that time i visited this place.. it was quite popular. Outings at few parts in this forum. I remembered join in two outings of this forum, I remember one with some guy named callan and bak la va. Then after that, i got quite busy with exams, work and then went to out of country. After i returned to singapore, I found it is quite late for me. As this forum getting quieter and quieter.. it kinda kills me inside. I tried to reach bak la va but she changed her hp i think because her line is no longer available.
Times passes by to this year, I heard about sgclub. I joined in and another luck for me, they made an outing and i got invited thru some random pm from one of the moderators. Then i've been thinking, i wanted to go but.... why am i like this? am i really this desparate to find friends? I mean... i do have one of my best friend but now he's in NS. I cant just only stick to him. I wanted to open wide of my social circle but is this really the way? I miss hanging out with people at sgcafe but we no longer meet each other. So im guessing im doing all these is because i miss having fun.
I'd rather have very few close friends who I can really share things with and we are always there for each other than a broad circle of 'friends', or actually I'd call them acquaintances, but my friendships with them will soon fade away.
I don't have any other friends, except for a small circle of friends.
But frankly speaking, I feel quite deceived and manipulated by them.
I think it is not normal for grown men to trhow black face and claim that I don't give then "face"
Things really changed on the progress of growing up T_T
To be a MAN, You need to learn to able to walk alone and feel good about Yourself. And then meet up different group of people to enjoy different activities together.
Listen to this song and You will know what i mean: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ODnGz1hJJLM
Let me give You example:
I go riding mountain bike alone and feeling good. Then I meet new people at fishing jetty and become friends. And then ride bicycle alone again feeling good to other places and meet up diferent group of people, be it very young to very old and enjoy different activities at different places.
Originally posted by jojobeach:You are just deperate to be "POPULAR".
Being popular is not the same as having true friends.. True friends can be counted within your 10 fingers... true friends you only need a few good ones.
Popularity is only to in-validate your inner fear.. perhaps you are worried that you are not a likeable person.... But when you are invited to big social event , you tell/ validate yourself " see... people still want me to be there and hangout with them, so surely I am a likeable person.. right ?" You have inner doubts, you are using popularity to dispel your inner doubts...
But being popular doesn't fill that void of having no true friend...popularity is the wrong yardstick to value yourself.
You can be very popular.. and at the same time.. feel very lonely inside.
True friends are the ones that fulfill part of you. The other part is yourself.
You have to like yourself first... after that.. everything is secondary.
I get invited to big parties.. but that's just part of social life... we exchange names, contact, we net work.. if we have lohbang.. we call each other.. if we got no mutually beneficial involvment..we throw their name cards away... it's all very superficial.
My "social acquaintances" don't get their nose in my personal life... if I have personal issues... I don't go to them... I go to my true friends and family... and i keep only a few close ones.
However.. if you just wanna be "popular"... all you need is a LOT of lohbang for others to take advantage of... so they see the value of inviting you to their social network... and keeping you there.....else you simply fade away..
Once you come out to work.. you will understand the value of net-working.. and why they will rarely be adding on to your small circle of close friends.
Of cors.. I'm not saying you stop going to social events... it is very fun.. , exciting and enjoyable... you should enjoy meeting new people.. but don't count on those events to fullfil that void inside yourself.
Very judgmental point of view. Seriously, you need a reality check.