Typically, when guys are confronted or when confronting someone (others
guys usually), they wont hesitate to act like a tough guy and will
challenge the other to a fight. Especially in front of girls. Maybe most
see it as an opportunity to show the females that they are the tougher
and superior males. Matters of the ego.
Im a guy, I rarely got into any confrontation. In the past when I was
confronted, when a girl is present, this guy acted so hostile without
trying to figure things out. But I stay calm and try to talk things out.
Most may call me a coward, but for me I like to think things first and
not act irrationally, just for the sake of my ego. Especially when I do
not have much details about the situation. And I tend to give it a
thought first if the matter or the girl is worth the trouble. I dont
think I need to get physical with anyone just to be a man or the
dominant one. For me, violence is not a solution. Last resort, if I had
to, I probably just give that person a piece of my mind and dont give a
damn about what he or she thinks. I would only talk in a hostile tone if
I feel Ive been pushed too far or after I failed to try to reason.
Lastly, I dont know why but I always hesitate to act that way in front
of outsiders, especially women. Just that I like to have a confrontation
in private.
For me, a real man will know when its time to be quiet, when to walk
away, when to stand up and fight (verbal or physically) for himself or
his loved ones if necessary.
Getting into some silly fights over a trivial matter to me is simply too juvenile.
You said it, man. So why you need our opinion?
It's ok. He came here to convince himself that he's not a coward.
Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:Typically, when guys are confronted or when confronting someone (others guys usually), they wont hesitate to act like a tough guy and will challenge the other to a fight. Especially in front of girls. Maybe most see it as an opportunity to show the females that they are the tougher and superior males. Matters of the ego.
Im a guy, I rarely got into any confrontation. In the past when I was confronted, when a girl is present, this guy acted so hostile without trying to figure things out. But I stay calm and try to talk things out. Most may call me a coward, but for me I like to think things first and not act irrationally, just for the sake of my ego. Especially when I do not have much details about the situation. And I tend to give it a thought first if the matter or the girl is worth the trouble. I dont think I need to get physical with anyone just to be a man or the dominant one. For me, violence is not a solution. Last resort, if I had to, I probably just give that person a piece of my mind and dont give a damn about what he or she thinks. I would only talk in a hostile tone if I feel Ive been pushed too far or after I failed to try to reason. Lastly, I dont know why but I always hesitate to act that way in front of outsiders, especially women. Just that I like to have a confrontation in private.
For me, a real man will know when its time to be quiet, when to walk away, when to stand up and fight (verbal or physically) for himself or his loved ones if necessary.
Getting into some silly fights over a trivial matter to me is simply too juvenile.
No lah, not coward, you are very street smart.
Those who stay calm in hostile situations are not stupid.
It takes a quick mind and self confidence to access the situation within split seconds.
Stupid people are not capable of what you are able to do.
A person who lacks self confident n and has no idea what needs to be done typically behave in hostile and irrational manner when confronted with hostile situation.
Thats why you don't see trained soldiers running around in the war zone like untrained civilians.
If u think girls will be so impressed by a guy's show of "hostility" , you are mistaken.
Girls want someone who cares about their safety, well-being . it's not about who can thump their man chest loudest.
call police. police cum, game over.
FYI, police only come in after the fight or thumping is over. When both are dead tired and dreaded, they just come in with their smart uniform and take them away. During the commotion, they just wait and see.
Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:Typically, when guys are confronted or when confronting someone (others guys usually), they wont hesitate to act like a tough guy and will challenge the other to a fight. Especially in front of girls. Maybe most see it as an opportunity to show the females that they are the tougher and superior males. Matters of the ego.
Im a guy, I rarely got into any confrontation. In the past when I was confronted, when a girl is present, this guy acted so hostile without trying to figure things out. But I stay calm and try to talk things out. Most may call me a coward, but for me I like to think things first and not act irrationally, just for the sake of my ego. Especially when I do not have much details about the situation. And I tend to give it a thought first if the matter or the girl is worth the trouble. I dont think I need to get physical with anyone just to be a man or the dominant one. For me, violence is not a solution. Last resort, if I had to, I probably just give that person a piece of my mind and dont give a damn about what he or she thinks. I would only talk in a hostile tone if I feel Ive been pushed too far or after I failed to try to reason. Lastly, I dont know why but I always hesitate to act that way in front of outsiders, especially women. Just that I like to have a confrontation in private.
For me, a real man will know when its time to be quiet, when to walk away, when to stand up and fight (verbal or physically) for himself or his loved ones if necessary.
Getting into some silly fights over a trivial matter to me is simply too juvenile.
If you cannot fight, just stand one side, no need to talk so much, we gals also careless who is fighting or who is injured...count money more important.
Originally posted by jojobeach:No lah, not coward, you are very street smart.
Those who stay calm in hostile situations are not stupid.
It takes a quick mind and self confidence to access the situation within split seconds.
Stupid people are not capable of what you are able to do.
A person who lacks self confident n and has no idea what needs to be done typically behave in hostile and irrational manner when confronted with hostile situation.
Thats why you don't see trained soldiers running around in the war zone like untrained civilians.
If u think girls will be so impressed by a guy's show of "hostility" , you are mistaken.
Girls want someone who cares about their safety, well-being . it's not about who can thump their man chest loudest.
Haha, the "professor" that knows a lot.
Originally posted by angel7030:FYI, police only come in after the fight or thumping is over. When both are dead tired and dreaded, they just come in with their smart uniform and take them away. During the commotion, they just wait and see.
comon lah - its a job for police officer sin a small singapore. that's why years ago i got acceptable for interview but i didn;t go. same like army. fire one round report better be good. if your immidiate superior don;t liek you what you do out there is crap. once in a while go operation catch a few bad hats for reporting purposes.
think like US or otehr countries police meh.
Originally posted by angel7030:
If you cannot fight, just stand one side, no need to talk so much, we gals also careless who is fighting or who is injured...count money more important.
giv u money to count you must also offer service one. hmm... i begin to wonder, youwork behind counters alot issit? always counting money for your event organizaers arh?
Originally posted by speakoutfor:
Haha, the "professor" that knows a lot.
I never professed anything, so I m no professor.
I don't think TS is a coward. Just that TS is a person that lacks assurances, need confirmation from other people.
Be firm.
And a real man does not have to justify his actions to other people.
Does not see the need to put others down to glorify his own deeds.
Does not have a pigeon eye view of things and hold people into false accusation until proven guilty.
See the contradictions there??
Well jello, thats your own opinion and your own definitin of what a real man is. Everybody have their own definition what a real man should be, thus making it really vague.
What i said is just my own idea of a real man. Some would say a real man never show fear in any confrontation. Some say real man is a man one who say whatever he wants to say or do does whatever he wanna do.
Whatever you think how a real man should be, then so be it. Cuz thats your own ideal definition to it. Not because its the truth as nothing is true anyway.
So are you going to create another forum to get feedback from us,
"Am I real man?"
na u r just being mature. those ah bengs r immature basterds who just want to impress gals with without using their brains.
You're not a coward, but you must be brave and have the courage to confront. :-)
My own friends said I agreed to someting I didn't actually do.
For the record, I didn't do it.
It is 2 person's word against 1.
There is nobody to back me up.
Should I continue to justify my actions or should I just give up? They keep saying I renege on my promise but I feel that I am fully justified in making my choices
Dear Undiscovered soul,
Personally speaking, i think there will always be people out there whom think they can bully and intimidate others into accomodating them.
You probably have encountered some of them
Perhaps they are more rich or more sucessful, but to tell you the truth, such people, sometimes, I just despise them.