I have watched too many Taiwanese endless serials in Hokkien.
This story line sounds too familiar.
I pass.
Originally posted by heartlessheartbroken:I feel very bad for my wife especially. To be painfully frank, she earns much more than me and with my salary, I can’t afford to give her allowance if we ended up with a divorce. Much of the money, if she insists would be from A who happens to be very wealthy. I’m sure A will agree to it but my wife will not accept if she knows the money comes from A. If it is possible, I hope that my wife can live with my nephew while I live with A and our new baby. This will be extremely awkward and both parties will never agree to it.
only one word to describe - selfish
Decisions to make ? You must be kidding. A beggar has no right to choose, much less make any decision for anyone.
Now, you are at the absolute mercy of the people you have betrayed. In your story, pretty much everyone who trusted you.
One day A will dump you, when a new meat comes along who is better than you.
Your ex wife B will ignore you and find herself a real man. Yes she will still take A money, heck why not.
Your nephew will move on in his life and be happier without you.
Your children from A and B will look at you with much disdain. A loser father deserves no respect.
You are nothing but a loser.
Your only decision to make now.. is to find yourself a good old folks home which is not going to abuse you ( hopefully).. and die a lonely death.
Frankly your story is quite unbelievable except for the betrayal part.
Now, why should your nephew still live with you under that crowded roof ? His wife so rich surely they coulda went and bought themselves a private landed or condo elsewhere..
The house belong to your nephew or you ? If his, then you lose.. if yours, you also lose.
Why you so sure the child is not your nepehws ? Unless he went and check , there's no certainty. Are you going to help raise his kid if DNA proved the child is not yours? Or send the child and A back to your nephew after you've destroyed their marriage ?
Full of shit lah.. another novel wannabe... written by a male chauvanistic asshole putting his wet dream in ink.
Yah right, women really really want you, so badly, even tho you are already married and a father.......e so desperate to carry your child....chances are, they just wanna use you. You are assuming women are stupid enough for you to twirl them round your pinkie finger because none of em have a brain.
Hey Aneslayer, what else are you gonna come up with ? What happen to your betrayed vietnamese prostitute wife and 5 kids, that rich pretty friend of your wife who really wants to be F by you? Lets just stick to that one. OK ? Good.
Seriously...
Yah yah.. we get it.. sex sells, betrayal sells, married man with kids, stupid wife, stupid but rich, and pretty lover girl who really wants to get F and who really wants the married man to spend her life with... .. but average loser joe with low income, no.
No matter how you wanna spin it.. the story line is getting stale...really.. unless your dick is a miracle wand that can cure all disease and turn dirt into gold.. sure.. every vagina out there really wants your dick in their hole.. so dream on ...
Originally posted by heartlessheartbroken:Don't doubt this story, if it wasn't real I wouldn't have spent hundreds of dollars for counseling. I met a few of them and they all adviced me to let go of A. It seemed to me that they all went by the book and stressed on moral obligations. All said that in the eyes of law I am a married man and my relationship with A is just an affair regardless of our past. But I can't bear to leave her or to call my lover as my niece in law. I don't want to be a grand uncle at 40 years old. Damn really all that money I wasted to hear all that bullshit.
Of cors these counselors tried to drill moral obligation into your thick dense head for a lot of money.
because you had NONE to begin with, else you wouldnt be in this kinda shit. Or worst yet, dreaming about it.
Originally posted by heartlessheartbroken:Jojo, if you are such a staunch feminist everyone else would be a chauvanistic asshole in your eyes. I have seen your posts in this forum and they are all of similar bashing nature. To make things clear, my nephew owns the flat originally. But when my brother and his wife (nephew’s parents) were terminally ill, I paid for their medical fees and took care of them. When I got married to B, my nephew gave the flat to us so we now own it. So I wasn’t wrong to say that he ran away. We were close like brothers for more than 30 years so he chose to stay with us then. A is a strong businesswoman who travels frequently abroad so her house is mostly vacant. But when she is around, my nephew mostly lives at her place.
Ha ha !! Good one Aneslayer !
So your story goes.. that you took your nephew's home, cheat on your then girlfriend, made another girl pregnant and cheated on her with your ex, betrayed your nephew, sleep with his wife and made him a father of your child ? And you have the gall to claim he is close like brothers...wow..
Really...talk about self destruction...
Well.. good thing you are acting out your fantasy online , bet you have no guts to do it in real life anyway. Cuz in reality, you'd still lose your house and your wife and everything you have because you can't understand moral obligation.. which the "counselors" are trying to drill into your head..
Like I said, the loser is you. Didn't matter who owns the house you live in now.. your wife is gonna kick you to the curb. When A is done with you.. she'll do the same because you need her, more than she needs you.
Good try nevertheless, good try... not very convincing but quite entertaining.. that's all. Now please go to SGsex forum.. Aunt Agony is the wrong place to live your fantasy.
See man like you give other good guys a bad name. So please go frolick with your own kind.
A staunch feminist ? Ha ha ! Right.. any woman with half a brain is a feminist to you eh ?
Dude, get yourself a good education lah... that way you won't feel so inferior when you meet a smart lady.
Lets have some fun picking your story apart Aneslayer.
Your nephew how old ? You how old ?
When his parents died you how old ?
You paid his bills and took care of him ? that means you must be much older than him leh.
And that nephew signed over his inheritance to you ? Really ? Or did you steal it from him ?
A how old when you were going to marry her ?
Then your nephew met that old hag at work yes ? And she is a strong successful bussiness woman yes ? And she decided to marry your nephew who is much younger than you.. that means that old hag married a much younger guy yes ?
So your nephew insist on staying at "your" place leaving his marital home empty ? Is he sleeping with your wife ? How strange.
And that A who is a strong successful woman slept with you.. where ? her place or yours ?
And you are a lowly income average guy with a golden dick that even a strong successful businesswoman would marrry the nephew just to sleep with you yes ?
LOL !!!!! Oh and not forgetting your nephew is shooting blanks yes ? HAHAHHH !!
Aneslayer, you have just redefined trolling to "entertainment".
why wld eveyone say that he's aneslayer... well TS is really... CMI...
i reading TVB drama si bo?
Very simple lah.
Aneslayer ( married old fart with kids) had been fantasising cheating on his wife with a " Rich, Pretty " gal . And this rich pretty gal whom he slept with has no problem that he is just a married average joe not earning a whole lot of money. Because the rich pretty gal is so much in love with him.. that she is willing to disregard that he is just a cheating loser.
However, in real life... a smart , strong successful woman wouldn't even look his way.
I bet he been fantasising about it for so long, all the story he spun hav the same elements.
Different dressing, same old ingredients...yawnz.....
and this time.. gessh.. he had to throw in his nephew whom he described as infertile
seriously.... (roll eyes)...
want a happy ending ? Sure... married man got into an accident and died... that way, everyone else will move on with life.. and finally be happy without the douche bag to ruin their life for them... OK ? Good.
Aneslayer reminds me of that tiko ah peh behind the bushes outside our school wanking himself off at the school girls as they walk by.
我愿负天下人,�怨天下人负我。- Cao Cao
Not that easy split between the right choice and the correct choice...
eh, why invoke my name, pimp? Think I became the epitome of unfaithfulness... I'm still repenting... The protagonist is Ts... not wanting to hijack the thread ...
all I can say is this. you are accountable for your own actions, whether good or bad.
Originally posted by heartlessheartbroken:If you read up my previous post above, I am 40 years old. 13 years ago, my brothers wife passed away due to a traffic accident and 3 years later, my brother passed away too due to cancer. It was a very hard time for both of us since he was still schoolimg and I had to support him with my meagre salary when I first started working. My brother is 15 years older than me and his wife about the same.. A is now 37 and my wife B is 39. I dated A when we were in our early twenties, about that time my brother passed away. Our son is 12 years old now..
Lol..the cracks are showing through lah story teller.
"I have been living with my nephew for many years since his parents passed away. Ever since my brother and his wife passed away when their son was still schooling, my nephew 35, and me, 40 lived together with our son. We lived a very modest life and I had regretted my affair which turned out into an unwanted marriage and family. I could have lived much better if I had married A in the first place. "
Your nephew only 5 years younger than u.
When his parents died he was already more than 21 years old. Is he retarded or something ?
Do you really think we readers are as retarded as you?
And A , as wonderful as you made her out to be, seriously.. Within 12 years after she dumped you, no man ever mounted her until she married your nephew ? LoL... Lemme guess, you are gonna claim, you are her one and only love... If she can't have you, she'll have no one else? Hahaahahahh ! Right. The delusion!
Story ending to all cheaters out there...you betrayed everyone in your life, you'll die a lonely death... The end.
But ok, say, assuming you did a DNA test on A baby after birth, turns out that child is neither yours nor your nephews... Then what har? What will the story be like ?
You raised an adult nephew.. I'm sure u can cuckold yourself further and raise a stranger's child yes?
Um, actually, you could have lived much better if you had kept your little prick inside your pants.
How about you stop sleeping around like a sex maniac who is incapable of being faithful to anybody.
If A is real, chances are, she is having her revenge on you. And the child is really someone else's lil bastard which she is trying to make you the cuckold.
When you incur a woman's wrath, sooner or later, you'll pay.. Very dearly.
I tell you what lah... Stop lusting after your nephew's new and young bride lah... All these fantasy is bad for your health lah old man.
Go back to your old saggy wife and treat her well... Treat her very very well... At least in old age, she will not want to push you and your wheel chair down the stairs.
Dashing.. Lol... I think you are going through some severe mid life crisis . And you desperately need to feel good about yourself.
Originally posted by heartlessheartbroken:Please do not flame and read my whole story, I am only writing this to obtain genuine advice on my current situation. It is a long story but my life is really in a mess that is beyond imagination.
My wife ran away with my son and my only family member, my nephew left my house and severed all ties with me, now I am all alone but left with a few important decisions to make to remedy this situation.
I fell in love with a beautiful woman A some years ago, she is my ideal type and we dated for almost 2 years. She is rich, extremely pretty and had everything I wished for a wife. However, due to my unfaithfulness, I had a one-night-stand with another woman B at a bar. Unfortunately, I pregnated her and we were forced to get married by her parents. B isn't too bad and we had a healthy marriage life but I do not love her. Instead, my heart still belongs to A. Needless to say, A was infuriated because at that time we broke up, we had plans to get married.
I have been living with my nephew for many years since his parents passed away. Ever since my brother and his wife passed away when their son was still schooling, my nephew 35, and me, 40 lived together with our son. We lived a very modest life and I had regretted my affair which turned out into an unwanted marriage and family. I could have lived much better if I had married A in the first place.
However, due to very unbelievable coincidence, my nephew met A in his company and they became very close friends and dated. It was only last year during CNY that he brought her to our small reunion. My wife B recognised A and immediately disapproved of their relationship. When A met me, I was sure that she still had feelings for me like I did for her, however she married my nephew. After our meetup, we had sex on a few occasions without my wife's knowledge.
Last month, A discovered that she was pregnant despite desperately trying many times with my nephew. My nephew was so happy that his wife got pregnant but I was quite sure that the child belongs to me. I then brought A to have a medical checkup and they said there was nothing wrong with her. That means my nephew was infertile all along and the child is indeed mine.
When all of us met for a diner a few days ago, my wife B became suspicious of us because I showed too much care for her unborn baby. After the dinner, I met up privately with my nephew and told him that A was carrying my child. He told my wife about it and she ran away from home with our son. My nephew is also on the verge of divorce with A because of her affair with me. After A knew about this, she blamed herself and tried to commit suicide. I brought her to my house and she had been living here for the past 2 days.
I know I am a bad person but I want to try to save our family and thought of these options:
1. Divorce B, marry A and start a new life with her. But if I do that, I lose my wife and child, also my nephew.
2. Lie to my nephew and tell him I was drunk and blurted out nonsence that night. Hope that life will be back to normal again while still being able to see A for the rest of my life as a niece in-law. If A keeps this secret well, our family will be in peace for the time being.
3. Relocate to another country with my wife and child and forget about A completely.
I think 2 is the best option but it will be very hard for me to do. Are there any other ways I can get over this?
Two wrongs do not make one right.
You could go on making choices to fill in the void caused by some unwise decision/s made at that point of time. However, it will just snowball into a huge conflagration, in which you will find it harder and harder to extinguish. Life is full of 'what ifs' - surely things would be different if you had married A. However, the truth is that the 'what if' never actually took place. We could go on forever on how those possibilities could play out, but then again, it is not possible to go back in time to find out for sure.
It is based on what you felt was a wrong choice, while ignoring other factors that would have naturally develop along the way to neutralize the value of 'wrongness'.
When you have a sexual affair with your nephew's wife - it is a clear indication that you are willing to risk your marriage (which includes your wife and son) to pursue what you felt was a choice left behind by an unfortunate circumstances. However, I just want to highlight something: 'no choice' is still a choice. You might have been 'coerced' by her parents and/or your conscience on moral grounds to marry your wife - still, it is a choice that you have decided to commit eventually, even though there wasn't any love. I truly doubt her parents actually point the gun barrel at you to say 'I do' - I think you get my drift.
Until the point we take responsibility for all our choices made, it is hard to get out of your situation effectively because your chosen behaviour often revolves around avoiding, minor (ineffective) patching and/or delaying the consequences of an unwise decision. Notice that your preferred course of action is (2), which still another attempt to do one or more of the above.
Your options are mutually exclusive; keeping your family intact would means that A would have to go, while choosing A would means that your wife, son and nephew will need to go. Coexistent in this case is impossible and unrealistic to pursue.
P.S: You have to decide what you want
before you commit any further decision. If you are lost: stop for a
moment and glance at your map. You don't keep walking because chances
are, you will walk further away from your original destination and that
will just make you feel miserable once the truth slams you hard - on how
far away you are from where you want to want.
Cheers
Originally posted by motoway:i reading TVB drama si bo?
sorry Uncle, this is taiwan hokkien drama dubbed in English...not TVB, TVB had recently falling apart, no such blockbuster
To be more precise the title is Torn between 2 imaginery women.
yeh lor, jasmine and elaine - who to choose?
Could be Eric and Jacky
so far all te eric's i met in life got a stupid face, and are stupid also
funny leh, those jack i met all have ass face...give you a jackass feeling.