Life in a mess, torn between 2 women
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Please do not flame and read my whole story, I am only writing this to obtain genuine advice on my current situation. It is a long story but my life is really in a mess that is beyond imagination.
My wife ran away with my son and my only family member, my nephew left my house and severed all ties with me, now I am all alone but left with a few important decisions to make to remedy this situation.
I fell in love with a beautiful woman A some years ago, she is my ideal type and we dated for almost 2 years. She is rich, extremely pretty and had everything I wished for a wife. However, due to my unfaithfulness, I had a one-night-stand with another woman B at a bar. Unfortunately, I pregnated her and we were forced to get married by her parents. B isn't too bad and we had a healthy marriage life but I do not love her. Instead, my heart still belongs to A. Needless to say, A was infuriated because at that time we broke up, we had plans to get married.
I have been living with my nephew for many years since his parents passed away. Ever since my brother and his wife passed away when their son was still schooling, my nephew 35, and me, 40 lived together with our son. We lived a very modest life and I had regretted my affair which turned out into an unwanted marriage and family. I could have lived much better if I had married A in the first place.
However, due to very unbelievable coincidence, my nephew met A in his company and they became very close friends and dated. It was only last year during CNY that he brought her to our small reunion. My wife B recognised A and immediately disapproved of their relationship. When A met me, I was sure that she still had feelings for me like I did for her, however she married my nephew. After our meetup, we had sex on a few occasions without my wife's knowledge.
Last month, A discovered that she was pregnant despite desperately trying many times with my nephew. My nephew was so happy that his wife got pregnant but I was quite sure that the child belongs to me. I then brought A to have a medical checkup and they said there was nothing wrong with her. That means my nephew was infertile all along and the child is indeed mine.
When all of us met for a diner a few days ago, my wife B became suspicious of us because I showed too much care for her unborn baby. After the dinner, I met up privately with my nephew and told him that A was carrying my child. He told my wife about it and she ran away from home with our son. My nephew is also on the verge of divorce with A because of her affair with me. After A knew about this, she blamed herself and tried to commit suicide. I brought her to my house and she had been living here for the past 2 days.
I know I am a bad person but I want to try to save our family and thought of these options:
1. Divorce B, marry A and start a new life with her. But if I do that, I lose my wife and child, also my nephew.
2. Lie to my nephew and tell him I was drunk and blurted out nonsence that night. Hope that life will be back to normal again while still being able to see A for the rest of my life as a niece in-law. If A keeps this secret well, our family will be in peace for the time being.
3. Relocate to another country with my wife and child and forget about A completely.
I think 2 is the best option but it will be very hard for me to do. Are there any other ways I can get over this?
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I think you better choose
4. Either Bedok reservoir or Marina Bay.
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A has confessed to me that she married my nephew because she wanted to be close to me. I was already a married man and she had no choice. Both she and myself are the worst kind of people and we have done very bad things. Although our love is genuine, we can't show it due to our circumstances.
If I choose option 1, I may like it at first but feel guilty for the rest of my life.
If I choose option 2, I have to spin up lies after lies to cover up our dark history and my new child with A. If A doesn't cooperate, all three of them might leave me in the future and I would be in an even more difficult situation. I also have to be very careful when my wife B or my nephew is around. Both A and myself had commited unforgivable sins.
If I choose option 3, I will most likely regret for the rest of my life and maybe become even more depressed than I already am.
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Drop A and B, choose C, come Angel Pub, open daily, close on Monday.
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I don't wish to end my life and be irresponsible for my family and my unborn child.
Does C happen to be yourself? Is that an attempt to woo me? I didn't know how women can be so straightforward nowadays.
I have enough problems and I don't deserve your love because I am such a bad person. Please don't do this to me.
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Drown you sorrow and for a day, forget all your pains that the human world enslaved on you. At the breaking of dawn, the glimpse of sunlight will bring another painful day ahead, but within here, you will find peace and serene like never before, you will then, have a clear mind and brain to think, to think as a man and not a wolf
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Hey I don't know what your intentions are but if you are affliated with the named pub, don't you think this is not the appropriate place to advertise it? Also I am too old to patronise that kind of place.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Drop A and B, choose C, come Angel Pub, open daily, close on Monday.
close on monday means not open daily liao -
no one else, besides you can help yourself if this is real.
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Don't doubt this story, if it wasn't real I wouldn't have spent hundreds of dollars for counseling. I met a few of them and they all adviced me to let go of A. It seemed to me that they all went by the book and stressed on moral obligations. All said that in the eyes of law I am a married man and my relationship with A is just an affair regardless of our past. But I can't bear to leave her or to call my lover as my niece in law. I don't want to be a grand uncle at 40 years old. Damn really all that money I wasted to hear all that bullshit.
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i think you already known what u wanted to do... u probably just need ppl to agree with you. But given what you posted, its hard to get ppl to agreewith you. Basically, there's no the best of both worlds.
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Destiny, you are right that I know what I wanted. But I am seeking for a perfect solution that will not strike back on me in future. If I had to leave A and have no choice, I will be very reluctant and it will be very painful. But I want to remain with A and at the same time not feel guilty about the affair and also not let my family, especially my son grow up without a father. Will there be a way for the four of us to live together peacefully? My wife B now feels that I had cheated on her with the same woman twice. It's true I'm a bastard but I want everyone to be happy.
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You spend hundreds of dollars counselling, why not just drop by Angel Pub and you do not need more than 500 to have some good time ya, what say you?
Or allow me to check your cabinet for any of those counselling pills, could had run out of it.
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Originally posted by heartlessheartbroken:
Destiny, you are right that I know what I wanted. But I am seeking for a perfect solution that will not strike back on me in future. If I had to leave A and have no choice, I will be very reluctant and it will be very painful. But I want to remain with A and at the same time not feel guilty about the affair and also not let my family, especially my son grow up without a father. Will there be a way for the four of us to live together peacefully? My wife B now feels that I had cheated on her with the same woman twice. It’s true I’m a bastard but I want everyone to be happy.
You are already a Bastard, a dirty bastard to be more precise, How can a dirty bastard makes one happy?? External hurt can be cure by white blood cells and clotting, but inner hurt is more serious, and most will not go away just like you think, once hurt, life will not be the same again, no matter how much you want people to be happy, it just not the same anymore.Another option is to take C and forever about A or B.
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Originally posted by heartlessheartbroken:
Please do not flame and read my whole story, I am only writing this to obtain genuine advice on my current situation. It is a long story but my life is really in a mess that is beyond imagination.
My wife ran away with my son and my only family member, my nephew left my house and severed all ties with me, now I am all alone but left with a few important decisions to make to remedy this situation.
I fell in love with a beautiful woman A some years ago, she is my ideal type and we dated for almost 2 years. She is rich, extremely pretty and had everything I wished for a wife. However, due to my unfaithfulness, I had a one-night-stand with another woman B at a bar. Unfortunately, I pregnated her and we were forced to get married by her parents. B isn't too bad and we had a healthy marriage life but I do not love her. Instead, my heart still belongs to A. Needless to say, A was infuriated because at that time we broke up, we had plans to get married.
I have been living with my nephew for many years since his parents passed away. Ever since my brother and his wife passed away when their son was still schooling, my nephew 35, and me, 40 lived together with our son. We lived a very modest life and I had regretted my affair which turned out into an unwanted marriage and family. I could have lived much better if I had married A in the first place.
However, due to very unbelievable coincidence, my nephew met A in his company and they became very close friends and dated. It was only last year during CNY that he brought her to our small reunion. My wife B recognised A and immediately disapproved of their relationship. When A met me, I was sure that she still had feelings for me like I did for her, however she married my nephew. After our meetup, we had sex on a few occasions without my wife's knowledge.
Last month, A discovered that she was pregnant despite desperately trying many times with my nephew. My nephew was so happy that his wife got pregnant but I was quite sure that the child belongs to me. I then brought A to have a medical checkup and they said there was nothing wrong with her. That means my nephew was infertile all along and the child is indeed mine.
When all of us met for a diner a few days ago, my wife B became suspicious of us because I showed too much care for her unborn baby. After the dinner, I met up privately with my nephew and told him that A was carrying my child. He told my wife about it and she ran away from home with our son. My nephew is also on the verge of divorce with A because of her affair with me. After A knew about this, she blamed herself and tried to commit suicide. I brought her to my house and she had been living here for the past 2 days.
I know I am a bad person but I want to try to save our family and thought of these options:
1. Divorce B, marry A and start a new life with her. But if I do that, I lose my wife and child, also my nephew.
2. Lie to my nephew and tell him I was drunk and blurted out nonsence that night. Hope that life will be back to normal again while still being able to see A for the rest of my life as a niece in-law. If A keeps this secret well, our family will be in peace for the time being.
3. Relocate to another country with my wife and child and forget about A completely.
I think 2 is the best option but it will be very hard for me to do. Are there any other ways I can get over this?
Then next week we read in newspaper:
Uncle rape nephew wife, throw her body off the 20th floor to make it look like suicide.
Then uncle kill nephew and cut his body into pieces, his torso was found somewhere in the bedok reservoir
Uncle then escape with wife and children to indon to start new life.
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Then Uncle finally decided to jump down from Tower 3, MBS
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this is good enough for some drama on channel 8 man.. is this for real.. does this happen in real life..
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This one can win Oscar leh. So drama
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Maybe can also receive Bollywood award at indoor stadium...
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I absolutely won't commit crimes such as murder or rape. I hope people here are not taking my life as a joke by telling me to kill myself. If I were to have sex with A, she would throw herself at me and be willing. Will that be considered rape? We already did it many times this year even after she is married to my nephew. She stays in my house now and wants me to settle this problem.
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Dude
U married a woman because of a night stand. That was the first mistake. Anyways if I were you, if A is still interested be with her.
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so stupid, i rather go angel';s pub, pay pub bills
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u very ke lian, who tell you not to resist temptation??
useless
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You can be together with A.
You have to pay a price if anything happened to your wife and nephew.
Life is full of choices.
Since you already made your choice, stick with it.
You only live once and dun fool around any more.
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I feel very bad for my wife especially. To be painfully frank, she earns much more than me and with my salary, I can't afford to give her allowance if we ended up with a divorce. Much of the money, if she insists would be from A who happens to be very wealthy. I'm sure A will agree to it but my wife will not accept if she knows the money comes from A. If it is possible, I hope that my wife can live with my nephew while I live with A and our new baby. This will be extremely awkward and both parties will never agree to it.