living in regrets
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To cut it short, I had an affair and was discovered by my husband.. I regretted and feeling remorseful... told him it happened because we were lack of communication and intimacy..I told him I want to rebuild the love and trust again.. he remain quiet.. we gotten better a few days later.. gather back all the love and intimacy we lost.. n few weeks later I am pregnant... he doesn't believe the baby is his.. I am Sure it's his.. he doesn't want the child.. I don't want him to live in doubts and neither I want to bring the unborn misery... it's unfair to the baby.. I real y want to salvage this marriage and I know I am wrong..
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go test DNA lar
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your predicament is a result of your indiscretion. you have to answer for your own actions, good or bad. you are now reaping the evil fruits of your affair.
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http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/455981
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Yes I deserve all these.. Wat has been done cannot be undone.. but I need a direction now.. I don't need anyone to laugh at me or put me down..
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what you need to do is to sincere repent and make a commitment to your hubby that you will not stray again. if he believes you and willing to give you a chance, all is well, otherwise your marriage is disintegrating. no one can help you but yourself.
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the decision lies in ur hubby
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Hello? All guys who have affairs wear condoms.
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accidents do happen even wth protection la..
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refer:
1. www.marriagecentral.sg
2. http://app1.mcys.gov.sg/Policies/Marriages/MarriageCounselling.aspxMarriage Counselling at Family Service Centres
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I just need to pour out my regrets and remorse... Its only when u lost it, u learnt to treasure.. I am a good living example.. go ahead and laugh at me or make jokes out of it.. I have to admit that I lost my whole family to a moment of lust and folly!
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Thanks.. can someone give me some view on what is on my hubby mind? Can he forgive me? He never spoke to anyone about it and neither he brought up the issue anymore.. hepetend that nothing has happened before.. still talk to me..
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an ordinary man's thinking is that no man will want his woman to be shared by other men.
it's vice versa for women as well.
as a woman, you will also not want your man to be shared by other women.put yourself in his shoes.
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he is still undecided on how to take the issue... alternatively, it mayb that theres still love for you. Forgiving you might not be an easy thing... i believe the children are also reasons as to why he hasn't been "reacting" to the issue.
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you need to communicate this with him. if you failed to communicate with him or vice versa, the marriaged is doomed to fail. but first have you repented and undertake not to commit adultery again to him? if not dun bother.
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Originally posted by Rednano:
an ordinary man's thinking is that no man will want his woman to be shared by other men.
it's vice versa for women as well.
as a woman, you will also not want your man to be shared by other women.put yourself in his shoes.
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1. he has doubts on who the baby's father is...
please prove via medical means such as DNA...etc.2. renew your marriage vows.
renewing marriage vows helps couples reminiscing their days leading to ROM.
it's to remind couples - young and old - of their love of and commitment to each other for eternity.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_vows -
Do have some comments for you.. already PM-ed... Hopefully it helps.
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I do all my means and ways to salvage this marriage..
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Hey Aneslayer...I know its you.
Cut out the prank.
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Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:
Do have some comments for you.. already PM-ed... Hopefully it helps.
You've been taken for a ride...its an Aneslayer -
Wats tat?
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Either he still loves you or jus treat u like a whore... Its not easy to forget as it will alway haunt you. Take example... My friends' husband strayed n dun feel remorseful at all. Its tough on wife coz he points fingers at her stating its her fault that he strayed. Life is screwed. DNA this child. And if he doesnt want this kid, raise the child on your own. Do not abort ok? May the best happen for you ..take care.
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Had a gf cheat on me. trated her like a whore for 3 months and used her when I wanted to. Then dumped her really hard.
All the cheating b1tches.