Just the other day, I was having a coffee drink with an old friend. He is also like me, single but older, he is 40 years old. We both always share tips and notes on how to woo women.
He tells me that he saw this girl at his office, she is only 24 years old. He knows she is single because she told everybody she is single. He even showed me a picture of her in one of his company annual dinner. She is very pretty, slim and attractive, look like japanese girl. Lately, my friend has been having close chats with her at the pantry and even escorted her to her car. She is quite smart, she has a degree from NUS and her position at office is executive because she only worked like 2 years at my friend's office. My friend told me that she is not from a rich family, her father pass away some time ago so leaving only her mother, sister and her. Although pretty, she is homely and nice girl.
My friend is planning to go after her. However I advice him to be careful because of the big age gap of 16 years. She may want to look for somebody younger and may not be prepared for marriage until she's 29.
My friend is still adamant to go after her. A lot of guys at his office are interested in her, they try to woo her but she just give them a bit of attention and then after a while, they all tire off.
So what should I do? I don't want my friend to suffer humiliation of rejection. Or should he try and fail? Maybe he will learn something from this?
My friend has worked for 17 years but still executive level. He has no car, plans not to buy any car although he may be able to afford it. I don't know his salary level but he has his own HDB flat and he also own another property in Johor as investment. My friend is average looking, a bit pot belly.
Do you think he has resources to go after her?
Did you advise your 40yo friend on buying property in JB?
Did you debate with him about owning a car?
Did you tell him to get rid of the pot belly and start grooming himself?
can just thick skin head on go after her. like me, 50 yo chiko GWC guy with camella make-believe professional photographer - shoot girls in hotel - woo-ing a taiwanese born girl who father owsn a pub - maybe behind the computer a 40yo ah mah lao auntie - while me actually pretending me an office lady sweet juicy 20 yo
ai li huan lo
are u losing sleep over this?
He happy can liao, why you worry? You are the friend you mentioned? You are jealous ?
" He is also like me, single but older, he is 40 years old. We both always share tips and notes on how to woo women."
I laughed out loud when I read the above.
Now, blind leading the blind, how is it working out for both of you? Apparently, not much.
Unless your friend is George Clooney, or that lady has no better choices, he may actually stand a chance.
Given that her dad is gone. He has the advantage of not having to deal with a potential father in law same age group as him, else, it's gonna be really awkward isn't it?
Do you have a sister or a niece ? How would u feel about an old man as old as her father wooing her and possibly having sex with her ? Do u see anything wrong with the picture here?
My advise to you, stop hanging out with losers.
They can't save themselves, they certainly can't save you.
Age is but just a number. Perhaps the girl is much wiser beyond her age and prefers omeone much older??? Everyone and every relationship is different due to numerous factors.
There is no magical formula like this:
X age girl + Y age guy = happy, if X << Y, then = sad ending
No harm trying to work things out. Much better then no try at all.
PS: Somehow I think OP is the friend mentioned. Good luck!!
Originally posted by Mid9Sun:Age is but just a number. Perhaps the girl is much wiser beyond her age and prefers omeone much older??? Everyone and every relationship is different due to numerous factors.
There is no magical formula like this:
X age girl + Y age guy = happy, if X << Y, then = sad ending
No harm trying to work things out. Much better then no try at all.
PS: Somehow I think OP is the friend mentioned. Good luck!!
Age is not an issue emotionally.
Physically if the age gap is too big, it becomes an issue, later.
Just be prepared to spend money on Viagra in the future. Or perhaps be generous enough for the young bride to take a lover.
Don't assume that a woman wouldn't mind sleeping with a sag of lose skin bag and old bones.
That man has a pot belly, it's down right disgusting. I can't imagine what his body will look like 10 years down the road.
You want long term , u better be prepared for the long term.
i prefer a dungeon with 10 chiobus chained to all the walls.:)
and ceiling
Eh TS, U worried that yr friend will kena reject or u worried that he will succeed?
You should be happy for him that he has found someone he likes and is going for it. And if he is not worried, why shd u be???
age should not be a factor, if the gap is not that huge... bt 16yrs of gap... thats huge...
You just cannot picture the thought of your friend banging her.
if he wants to be her boyfriend then you can tell him that he got to analyze her thinking at her age.
i am in my 20s and i definitely would not be satisfied with dressing skimpily to just do housework for my man of 40yo
Originally posted by ditzy:You just cannot picture the thought of your friend banging her.
c'mon TS is the guy lah. no hsy to admit you chase the girl younger than you lah. no shy no shy here online no one knows if your dog ever logged in.
like me 50 yo i admiti cheeko, bring young girls go hotel loom take photos - but i sometimes also scared cos i still virgin they may do somethign to me. but offline i am a pretty sexy oOL and i fear there are lots o cheeko uncles here alsopraying on me. no shy no shy online
Originally posted by Mid9Sun:Age is but just a number. Perhaps the girl is much wiser beyond her age and prefers omeone much older??? Everyone and every relationship is different due to numerous factors.
There is no magical formula like this:
X age girl + Y age guy = happy, if X << Y, then = sad ending
No harm trying to work things out. Much better then no try at all.
PS: Somehow I think OP is the friend mentioned. Good luck!!
age is just a number??
yeah and jail is just a room
"Do you think he has resources to go after her?"
I know moolah is an advantage , but erm ..... his reasourcesfullness would be more important in how to build up that rapport between him and her rather then say... showing your "financial" resources comparing it like that. What if some guy with a beamer drives up to pick her up one day ?
Money can get her attention, but it thats all u got and all u can show... unless your friend is willing to be milked for the rest of his life, i guess its okay?
lol
this case is lao niu chi neng coa and lai ha ma chi tian er rou.
Originally posted by Oldkamhouse:So what should I do? I don't want my friend to suffer humiliation of rejection. Or should he try and fail? Maybe he will learn something from this?
So why not? No harm in making a try. 40 years old already, don't try wait until when?
Marcus Chin tells all about his split from girlfriend 32 years his junior
Posted: 16 March 2012 1430 hrs
SINGAPORE: 59-year-old Singapore radio host and actor Marcus Chin, recently confirmed that his girlfriend Eileen Cheah, who is 32 years his junior, had "temporarily separated" from him six months ago, because he could not give her a sense of security.
"I think it (their separation) is because she does not have a sense of security when she is with me, as I am still not officially divorced (from his estranged wife of 23 years Murong Ying)," said Chin, conceding that their age gap could have contributed to their split.
"While it could be part of the problem, our age difference isn't the only problem, there are a lot of other issues."
Chin went on to deny rumours that Cheah, who now lives apart from him, had decided to leave him because she was done using him for his money.
"I have nothing for her to squeeze out. I am not a wealthy man. Those rumours are exaggerated and unfair to her," said the veteran radio personality in a telephone interview with channelnewsasia.com on Friday.
Chin declared that he intends to reconcile with Cheah, with whom he has a young daughter, and try to save their relationship.
"I am currently working on it, giving her a bit of time. Her parents are caring for our daughter for now.
"In all things, my family comes first," said Chin.
No regrets
Chin has gone through some tough times to be with Cheah.
When the news broke that he was dating his then-assistant Cheah three years ago, the media hounded him for answers, while many members of the public labelled him a cad for cheating on his wife with a woman young enough to be their daughter.
He also had to fight a very painful, very public seven-month legal battle against Murong Ying over maintenance matters last year, and wound up being ordered to pay her S$4000 each month.
And now, Cheah is no longer by his side.
Did he regret his decision to be with Cheah?
"I don't regret it at all. There is nothing to regret.
"When it comes to matters of the heart, if she returns to me, it's good. But if she doesn't, it can't be helped. I'll let nature take its course. I'll have to see what happens and deal with it," said Chin with a tinge of resignation in his voice.
He said he is prepared for either outcome and has been striving to regain some semblance of normalcy in his life since their separation.
"I feel fine now, though I sometimes feel lonely at night and think about her (Cheah)," said Chin.
"Life goes on. I still have to perform."
When asked if his experiences with Cheah had tainted his views on love, Chen replied without a hint of hesitation.
"No. I will continue to seek love," said Chin confidently, his voice completely devoid of the despair that had been there moments before.
"Because every human being needs love."
-CNA/ha
http://www.channelnewsasia.com/stories/entertainment/view/1189364/1/.html
As part of this whole process, there occurred a dramatic event of great social significance.
This was the reversal in longevity expectations of men and women in adult life.
A century ago (to be sure, in a largely rural context), a twenty-year-old man could expect to live longer than a twenty-year-old wife.
In fact, such a man might well bury two or three wives, usually from the mortality associated with childbirth or other female problems.
Today, a twenty-year-old man has little expectation of living as long as a twenty-year-old woman.
To make matters worse, a twenty-year-old woman a century ago married a man considerably older than herself, at least in the middle classes, simply because future preference required that a man be established economically before he began to raise a family.
Today, from a series of causes, such as the extension of the female expectation of life faster than the male expectation, the increased practice of birth control, coeducation (which brings the sexes into contact at the same age), weakening of future preference and of the middle-class outlook generally, which leads to marriages by couples of about the same age, husbands now generally die before their wives.
Recognition of this, the increased independence of women, adaptation to taxes and other legal nuisances, has given rise to joint financial accounts, to property being put in the wife's name, and to greatly increased insurance benefits for wives.
Gradually the wealth of the country became female-owned, even if still largely male-controlled.
But this had subtle results; it made women more independent and more outspoken...
aiyah , try if can means ok cannot then swah , see whether the water got current, may be she lookng for fatherly figure as husband , try no harm, nothing ventured nothig gained
No pretty and decent girls will want to marry a guy who is more than a decade older than herself. 自讨苦�