So, i like this girl in my class. I can't really find a chance to talk to her until one day when we're in the same project group. So we talked for about... 2 weeks? Then i confessed to her out of rash while we were texting. Firstly she said she is afraid of guys making use of her again, because of her past encounters with other guys and then she said she's not rejecting me but we should take it slow since we only started talking not long ago..
But now we hardly talk in school, just one or two sentences maybe. She doesn't talk to me in school, and we just text everyday, that's all.
I really don't know what to do next, it's been 5 days since i confessed to her. Any advices? Thanks for reading :)
UPDATE:
I asked her if it was ever possible for us to be together. She said she don't know and told me that she's horrible and stuffs, and that i should stop torturing myself and look for someone better than her. It is really over? :(
UPDATE#2:
It's over. She's attached. Idk why i feel so cheated it's like all the words she said were excuses from the start. I wasn't even an option in the first place. Maybe i should just be a jerk. Peace out
Originally posted by TroubledTeen:So, i like this girl in my class. I can't really find a chance to talk to her until one day when we're in the same project group. So we talked for about... 2 weeks? Then i confessed to her out of rash while we were texting. Firstly she said she is afraid of guys making use of her again, because of her past encounters with other guys and then she said she's not rejecting me but we should take it slow since we only started talking not long ago..
But now we hardly talk in school, just one or two sentences maybe. She doesn't talk to me in school, and we just text everyday, that's all.
I really don't know what to do next, it's been 5 days since i confessed to her. Any advices? Thanks for reading :)
I suggest u give her a cooling period.
Every girl wants to enjoy the attention, tho she may not have intention to reciprocate the intention.
If she ask, simply tell her you see no progress, and it's time to move on.
most girls never like guy confess to them becos they are not pastor or god. u r prob finish yr one sided love....concentrate on yr study better.....
If she cares that much, she will approach you. Not the other way.
No....Just rejected. Dont harass her during this period. Most guys make the mistake of doing so and eventually dont even end up in friendzone but stalker zone....
She just told you the plain truth. She treat you as a friend.
She sounds like she doesn't have a lot of experience in relationships. Wonder how old she is. Maybe she just hit puberty and start to blossom with nice long hair.
All the guys stare at her with saliva coming out from their mouth and she doesn't realise it.
Why? Because I know for a fact pretty girls do notice themselves and know how to play games to divert the guys.
She on the other hand was completely caught offguard by your confessions.
Don't bother, too late. There's lots of fish out there, go fish other fishes in the sea.
Originally posted by speakoutfor:She just told you the plain truth. She treat you as a friend.
She sounds like she doesn't have a lot of experience in relationships. Wonder how old she is. Maybe she just hit puberty and start to blossom with nice long hair.
All the guys stare at her with saliva coming out from their mouth and she doesn't realise it.
Why? Because I know for a fact pretty girls do notice themselves and know how to play games to divert the guys.
She on the other hand was completely caught offguard by your confessions.
Don't bother, too late. There's lots of fish out there, go fish other fishes in the sea.
Haha we're both 17.
Originally posted by TroubledTeen:Haha we're both 17.
Sounds like she never had a boyfriend before. She's really inexperienced. Usually when guys get near the girls, the experienced ones can sense it whether the guy is interested or not. In her case, she was so caught offguard, likely that she never had a relationship or was never contemplating that you were making your move.
If she is 15 or 16 then I estimate that she must be beautiful and most guys salivate at her, like Paris Jackson. But since she's 17, you most likely fell for her because of the ease you were able to talk to her. For sure there must be some chemical attraction but don't think she's on top of the league in terms of chio bu prestige.
You are still young. Go out there and hunt more. Gain more experience. Gain prestige points. Concentrate on your studies and get good grades. Asian chicks dig on smart guys because smart guys give them security and better future.
Situation updated
Yes, it's over.
Girls don't like to be too blunt because we all know how fragile a guy ego is.
So we tell them, it's not u it's me.. But we really mean , thanks but no thanks.
Some guys do that too.
Its not a girl thing.
Its just a better way of telling the girl, that he is not interested.
Guy has ego but Girl has pride.
It is over.
Cant be clearer than that already.
If u gonna try there is only 1 way it's gonna turn out, she'll hate u.
Next time when you confess your feelings for someone, make sure there is no paper trail.
Now that she has rejected you, she has your love confession in the form of sms.
If you pursue her further, she will use the sms against you.
And if she shows your sms to everybody at your school, you be the butt of all jokes.
Originally posted by TroubledTeen:
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UPDATE:
I asked her if it was ever possible for us to be together. She said she don't know and told me that she's horrible and stuffs, and that i should stop torturing myself and look for someone better than her. It is really over? :(
On her part, she chow. Because you very silly, talk and sms only go and confess to her..
On your part, is it over? Is it really over?
Maybe show her how much you care in terms of action?
If still nothing works out Maybe you can find a better one =)
she's confused and scared! ya just need to slowly persuade her! how? By acting like you're her bf of cos!
Anyways, it's over. Look at the updated post.
Its already over when you started it.
I am not sure if her attachment is true or not. But all I know is teenage relationships never last long. They normally break up before they even reach Poly.
However, I am not telling you to keep her in mind, just move on.
There are many other fishes in the sea.
Do well in your studies, get good grades. Chicks dig smart guys.