hmm.. somehow seems like he is just using u for sex. Thats the "BENEFIT" that he is getting from u. to u it may seem like love but to him its just lust and free sex.
tell ur hubby u dont love him anymore
and tt oso does not mean boss will take u
do you have any children?
What made you married him in the first place? And why are you still holding out in married life when ties are strained?
he's just using your body for lust without any love/ attention/ relationship.
it simply means he fu-k you with no strings attached/ emotional baggage.
in short, you are his fu-k buddy (FB). you are just for fu-k, nothing else.
he sweet-talk/ flirt with you to get into your panties/ spread your legs wide and su-k his cock for free-of-charge (FOC).
at most, he will ask you out for meals. after both stomachs filled, then go hotel room fu-k in privacy or go public carparks/ parks/ beaches/ spaces to fu-k in open air public.
you are a sex object/ mistress only for sex, he expects you to just have sex without ask for maintenance money. so in a way, you are cheaper to "hire" than a prostitute because he just only need to pay for a hotel transit room. there's no need to pay you for sex. if he's to hire a prostitute, he needs to pay for her sex service.
if for the past few days, his wife no mood for sex/ cannot satisfy his sexual cravings, then he will begin to call/ sms (commands) you to free up/ make time to fu-k.
for examples, lunch time express fu-k (bluff his wife he got lunch meetings with clients) /
dinner time fu-k (bluff his wife he needs to work OT/ entertain clients at nights).
he will definitely NOT divorce his wife just for your sake.
if you pregnant with his baby, your problem.
keep/ abort this love/ illegitimate child, your problem.
Yes, we have children.. Thanks everybody.. I am so much worst than being his mistress.. I know I have done something wrong really bad.. I am just not sure how to get over it..
i know i am being stupid to believe that he will love me... now that things have happened and irreversible.. i cant be with my hubby anymore.. anyway the relationship between me and my hubby is not because of him. i dont know how to initiate a divorce. he has always been a gd father to our two kids.. me n him.practically no.communication and no physical.contact.. there is no way that our love can rekj dle n especially now that i have done something really wrong..
Life still go on....take good care of your 2 kids......
I won't probe more because it's a personal matter and it involves children. I suggest seeking a counsellor for your marital issues. As to whether to come clean with your husband about this 'dilemma', it's at your own risk and that is, if you are looking for a reason to end married life.
When I asked my questions in my first post, I was looking for a hope - the hope to rekindle the love in your marriage. Some people mentioned no more love for their halves when they were meaning different things actually.
refer:
1. www.marriagecentral.sg
2. http://app1.mcys.gov.sg/Policies/Marriages/MarriageCounselling.aspx
Many married couples grow apart when saddled with the stresses of everyday life, differing expectations and conflicts that keep mounting.
Do not wait till it is too late to go for help. Relationships do not fall apart overnight. The longer the problem stays, the more the relationship becomes strained.
If you find yourself in a marriage that is falling apart, and are unable to work out your issues alone, consider seeking professional help by seeing a Marriage Counsellor. You have nothing to lose.
A marriage counsellor can help you and your spouse:
You can seek counselling at a Family Service Centre or any other counselling centre.
Muslim couples who have domestic problems may first approach any Family Service Centres (FSCs). There are trained marriage counsellors at FSCs to help you and your spouse.
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Syariah Court (SYC)
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You have to make the decision for yourself.
The boss, as the rest of the forumers have stated, want to mantain his marriage and just want to have fun with you without any attachment.
Unless you can do the same thing without any emotional attachment, I advise you not to carry on this relationship as you will be the eventual loser with broken marriage and being ditched.
Focus on patching the relationship with your hubby or else why would you marry him in the 1st place.
Focus on his good points and encourage him if he make efforts in improving on bad habits that you dun like.
It is another level of human management for marriage.
If you dun learn this lesson, you will experience the same problem when you marry another guy.
Feeling of Love only last for 3 years and requires consistent effort to be romantic and loving.
That is what most singaporean guys are lousy in doing for their wife, except for their lovers, fling or mistress.
Relationship needs communication to sustain. Try to resolve the "cold war" wif hubby
Originally posted by Hibye:Hello ppl, I am stuck in a difficult situation.. I am 30, married for 7 years… Relationship with hubby quite bad… Ever since I started my new job 1 year ago, I am attracted to my boss.. We hang around very often.. Overseas business trip were always with him.. He is married as well.. But both of us didnt express our crush to each other until the day I decided to leave the company to join another..
He told me he likes me and want me to stay.. But I left to join another company. We still keep in contAct with those flirting msg. Last week, I had to go Malaysia for a conference.. N he was there.. We sort of planned this work trip.. We went drinking and ended having a wonderful night.. I thought it’s just a lust.. However we continued our lust for the next 2 days..
On the last day, he told me that we were friends with benefit.. N ask me to watch the movie friends of benefit.. I became so attached to him and I think I have fallen for him..
We still kept in contAct due to work relationship but he was very formal to me.. I realized I don’t love my hubby anymore.. And I am so lost.. Wat is friends with benefit? Wat should I do?
What are you not happy about your husband?
What is it you get from this ex boss , you not getting from your husband?
Your husband got a dik, your ex boss got a dik. Both are imperfect men.
Is it because your husband not a "boss" , so you don't admire him?
Yes it was fun, yes it was exciting to sneak around doing something bad behind each others spouse.... That was all... This man can cheat on his wife, he can also cheat on you. Do you really believe you are his only fling ?
Who knows, you are number 30 on his list of friends with benefits.
Originally posted by Hibye:i know i am being stupid to believe that he will love me... now that things have happened and irreversible.. i cant be with my hubby anymore.. anyway the relationship between me and my hubby is not because of him. i dont know how to initiate a divorce. he has always been a gd father to our two kids.. me n him.practically no.communication and no physical.contact.. there is no way that our love can rekj dle n especially now that i have done something really wrong..
What do you mean by cannot go back to your husband. Of cors u can.
Now that u realized your mistakes, all the more you should be nicer to your husband.
Sometimes, affairs like this may seem destructive at first, but it also allows rebirth and result in a stronger relationship with your spouse.
Let's put it this way lah, whatever u are not happy with your husband, you had your revenge, now get on with life and stop ruining your children family.
Originally posted by Rednano:
he's just using your body for lust without any love/ attention/ relationship.
it simply means he fu-k you with no strings attached/ emotional baggage.
in short, you are his fu-k buddy (FB). you are just for fu-k, nothing else.
he sweet-talk/ flirt with you to get into your panties/ spread your legs wide and su-k his cock for free-of-charge (FOC).
at most, he will ask you out for meals. after both stomachs filled, then go hotel room fu-k in privacy or go public carparks/ parks/ beaches/ spaces to fu-k in open air public.
you are a sex object/ mistress only for sex, he expects you to just have sex without ask for maintenance money. so in a way, you are cheaper to "hire" than a prostitute because he just only need to pay for a hotel transit room. there's no need to pay you for sex. if he's to hire a prostitute, he needs to pay for her sex service.
if for the past few days, his wife no mood for sex/ cannot satisfy his sexual cravings, then he will begin to call/ sms (commands) you to free up/ make time to fu-k.
for examples, lunch time express fu-k (bluff his wife he got lunch meetings with clients) /
dinner time fu-k (bluff his wife he needs to work OT/ entertain clients at nights).he will definitely NOT divorce his wife just for your sake.
if you pregnant with his baby, your problem.
keep/ abort this love/ illegitimate child, your problem.
What he said!!! You have been used. With his power and authority he can easily get another younger prettier one!! Welcome to dumpsville.
Funny how you never even bother to talk about your hubby and how he would feel..
Put it this way.
Unless your hubby have betrayed you or have been a lousy dad, I dun quite understand why you need to initiate a divorce cos you lost the loving feeling for him.
As to what you have done, you have already did it and no point feeling guilty about it.
But, it should not prevent u from pursuing a good life with your hubby and your kids.
Just speak with your hubby and work things out with him for yourself and your kids.
Never tell him what you have done.
If it dun really work out, then you may have to adopt the eventual path of divorce.
Please take into consideration on its impact of your kids.
You should be pretty confused at the moment.
Dwelling on what you have done will not help you a bit.
You have to fill your mind to solving the relationship issues.
Dun give up !
Your affair is not without consequences. Do not think just because it is not exposed it is without consequences. You know what you have done, that is enough to worsen the relationship with your husband. He may not have a clue, but your body language will exacerbate the situation.
Please know that there is another marriage involved. Do you want that to run aground as well?
Meantime realise that you are just for fun for that married man, and you are being hopeful at your own peril.
ask him divorce his wife to marry you and see what he say
Wow, Why women always fall in love with their bosses? Is it because their bosses have power and money over them?
Hey if you happen to stop by malaysia, PM me ah. I can be your friend with benefits.
This thread change place liao....suppose to be at s3xforum....
Well everyone sems to be blaming the Boss. He is her f**K buddy as well. And he never made any promises what so ever to her. She was lusty and he was, so now don't play poor girl fooled by a guy.
Originally posted by Bio-Hawk:Well everyone sems to be blaming the Boss. He is her f**K buddy as well. And he never made any promises what so ever to her. She was lusty and he was, so now don't play poor girl fooled by a guy.
Hey hey don't blame me too. I am another lusty guy. I wanna play. Wan shua lai.
hey chill... i am at fault too.. it takes two hands to clap.. thanks for the feedback.. life still goes on! cheers
when you ROM with your husband have you remember taking the vow what it means? also what you sign on that piece of certificate? forget alreayd right. your husband really becaum infantry man - haiz