I used to have a girlfriend who was with me for 4 years. we got a couple of breakups but in the end we always patched up. It always ended up as either her or me contacting the other first. Recently about 4 months ago we broke up this time both of us seems to be determined about letting this relationship ends. I faced a pretty long and tiring 2 months of trying to forget her for real. She seem to have moved on as she got herself a new boyfriend and i seems to be able to forget crucial things about her such as her handphone number and have actually put this issue aside after the 2 months but recently i start thinking about her again and was tempted onm any occasions to give her a phone call or message her or something. (i went to check her msn profile to get the number) i know the chinese saying of "好马��回头�" but i am in extreme confusion on what to do now. i'm not sure why i start thinking of her again could it because one of my friends just start talking bout her again or my other friend happens to face the same problem of breaaking up with his first love or do i really still love her? Need some advice on whati should do here.
stop posting here and get out of the house to know more girls.
Read this real-life news and you will not wasted your time:
SMASH!
Marriage broken
SMASH!
Chair thrown
SMASH!
Cars rammed
Husband goes on rampage at estranged wife's workplace
VIOLENT: CCTV footage from the workshop showing the husband throwing the chair onto the ground.
DRIVING ANGRY: The driver of the black Peugeot (in background) drove his car into three other cars outside the motor workshop.
PICTURES: SHIN MIN DAILY NEWS
Report: VALERIE KOH
AFTER eight years of marriage, she handed her husband the divorce papers last October.
The break-ups was anything but amicable, and on May 7, it took a nasty, violent turn.
The husband, Calvin, 37 drove to his wife's motor workshop in Sin Ming in a rage.
He stormed into the workshop, grabbed a chair and hurled it onto the floor.
Said his wife, Mindy, also 37: "He was shouting, 'If you want to play, I'll play with you'."
The New Paper is not using the couple's real names as they have yet to finalise their divorce.
When an employee, Mr Melvin Foo, 25 approached him, Calvin walked out of the workshop.
Once outside, he entered his black Peugeot.
But instead of driving off, he rammed his car into three second-hand cars - a BMW, a Mazda and a Volkswagen - parked outside waiting to be sold.
The incident was captured on closed-circuit TV.
Mr Foo said that after the rampage, Calvin came out of his car and confronted him.
"He challenged me to a fight and provoked me. We quarrelled for five to 10 minutes," he said.
During the commotion, Mindy remained in her office and called her father-in-law and brother-in-law.
"I wanted his family to see for themselves what he was like," she told TNP yesterday.
Mindy said Calvin remained agitated throughout the incident and hurled insults at her.
When police officers arrived and took Calvin's statement, he broke down in tears, Mr Foo recounted.
Mindy said that it has not been easy dealing with the aftermath of the incident.
"I was fine on the first two days, but on the third day, I broke down," she said.
"I don't understand how he could do such a thing to me. We've been together for so long"
She said it cost her $50,000 to repair the damaged cars.
She believes her husband's rage was sparked by her decision to stop paying for the instalments on the purchase of his car, which was bought in the company's name.
The couple used to run the company together before their break-up.
Text message
Mindy said Calvin had shown up at the workshop soon after he sent her a text message to ask why she had defaulted on the payment for his car.
She told TNP that since he had left the company, she felt there was no need to continue paying for the car on his behalf.
TNP could not get Calvin's reason for the rampage as he spoke only briefty over the phone yesterday evening before saying he had to visit his sick mother in hospital.
Mindy said she started the business in 2002, a year after she and Calvin started dating.
The company was initially registered under his cousin's name, but after the couple got married in 2004, the ownership was transferred solely to her husband while she continued working there.
After their split last year, she moved out of their maisonette in Balestier to her friend's home in Punggol. She also left the company.
"I offered to stay and help, but he told me to go," she said.
But months later, Calvin changed his mind and pleaded for her to return, she claimed.
She said she agreed to do so to protect the company's reputation.
During TNP's brief interview with Calvin, he gave a different account.
He said Mindy had asked to return and that he agreed only after she contacted frequently over the matter.
"I transferred the company to her out of goodwill in February this year," he said.
When probed further, he claimed to have done so to allow for a clean split.
Mindy also claimed thatv Calvin had cheated on her with another woman.
When asked about the matter, Calvin admitted to committing adultery, but said he had done so to facilitate their divorce.
Divorce proceedings are long drawn-out affairs, he said, so he cheated on his wife to end things cleanly and quickly.
Mindy said she hired a private investigator (PI) to keep tabs on her husband after they separated.
Her two handphones are full of photographs of the alleged mistress, whom she claims is from China, and Calvin togther.
They were taken by the PI, she said, as she showed TNP the images.
Calvin started going to China for holidays with his friends in 2009, but she never suspected anything amiss.
"I would even tell him jokingly not to have flings." she said.
Mindy also showed TNP scores of text messages from him.
In some messages, Calvin would ask for favours. Other messages were spiteful, containing insults and vulgarities.
She said he would send her multiple messages every day since their break-up.
Two days ago, her Facebook account was hacked by someone who posted a message claiming that her company was going bankrupt and cease operating next month.
She said she suspected that Calvin was behind this, claimng that he had previously sent text messages to their customers, informing them of the impending closure.
This could not be verified with Calvin, but he also made several accusations about Mindy.
Among them: She has been harassing him at their Balestier home, ringing the doorbell late at night, shouting at him and frightening him and his mother.
Mindy, in turn, alleged that when she returned home to collect her belongings, the locks had been changed, barring her from entry.
The couple will meet in court next week as their divorce proceedings continue.
News ,The New Paper, Friday, June 15 2012, Pg 2-3
Still better than the west who just go around and spray bullets at whatever he or she sees
Originally posted by Pangsehkia:I used to have a girlfriend who was with me for 4 years. we got a couple of breakups but in the end we always patched up. It always ended up as either her or me contacting the other first. Recently about 4 months ago we broke up this time both of us seems to be determined about letting this relationship ends. I faced a pretty long and tiring 2 months of trying to forget her for real. She seem to have moved on as she got herself a new boyfriend and i seems to be able to forget crucial things about her such as her handphone number and have actually put this issue aside after the 2 months but recently i start thinking about her again and was tempted onm any occasions to give her a phone call or message her or something. (i went to check her msn profile to get the number) i know the chinese saying of "好马��回头�" but i am in extreme confusion on what to do now. i'm not sure why i start thinking of her again could it because one of my friends just start talking bout her again or my other friend happens to face the same problem of breaaking up with his first love or do i really still love her? Need some advice on whati should do here.
It must been a difficult period for you, especially since this breakup appears to be quite irrevocable in comparison.
Then again - why should the notion of breaking up be something that one could easily reverse the verdict? Kinda makes the word 'breaking up' sounds totally meaningless.
Perhaps as we review our relationship, we find all motes of bitterness, anger and disappointment too much for us to manage. Even if the relationship do return, the burden of these negative feelings does not vanish into thin air; in fact, everything that were swept neatly under the carpet before the relationship was called off - will spring back magically.
Do not be mistaken over the fear of loneliness for the desire of love. Since you shared that she has already moved on with someone else - the prospect of having this relationship with you again will naturally grow to be less attractive. If you choose to stick with your past, then every minute of that choice is an opportunity cost to a better future.
Cheers
Since you had come to know love, you should be able to handle it in near future if you ever fall in love, or best, dun fall in Love.
Love is not something that you can get a grade out of it, it is not academic, physical or performance driven, it is an emotion not within your control of others, but because people (especially guys) so wanted to control others they love into their submission, any rejection shall be seen as a negative sign. Be nature with Love, be guide by the principle of giving each other freedom and time, as such, Love shall blossom.
angel cannot like that say. i 50 yo already, have to quickly grab a charbo i like 1.
50yo very old meh, peoples 60yo also can get marry, you still young lah, just siao siao abit liao
Go gyms, spa, facial, botok here and there, stretch here and there, you can be as good or even better than those skinny weeny 30 yo guy
Hi, don't be too upset. I understand and can feel how you feel because I'm feeling exactly the same way. Just that i'm only a year lesser compared to you.. Cheer up, life goes on (: