I have been together with my boyfriend for more than 3 years. He used to be very sweet and good and put me as priority. But since the commencement of his school, he seems to be drifting further from me. He even forgot our 3 years anniversary despite me reminding him since the week before. He promised to bring me to Cable car dinner/Flyer dinner to celebrate this grand day and I was looking very forward to it, but he forgot everything and broke all the promises.
Secondly, we dont text often. Everytime i Sms him, he will take 2-3 hours to reply and the content he reply is not answering to what i have smsed him. E.g. I ask " what time you going school?" 2-3 hours later He reply" Have you eaten your meal?"..
Thirdly, I feel that he is very snobbish. He seems to look down on people that comes from private school. he will always say that his who ever friend cmi so ended in SIM etc. I feel very inferior as i am also a private school student though I know that he is not referring to me.
Apart from these he is still a kinda nice guy. He will deliver supper to me if i am hungry or fetch me from school if i ended class very late.
I know i am contradicting. but what should i do?
how old are u
I am 21 and he is 23
You should break up with him and be with me
Originally posted by auditor:You should break up with him and be with me
Yep, I agree, you are such a nice dream guy.
I am very serious :(:(
probably stressed from getting used to sch
u can try to be a bit more understanding
take a back seat and let him take the initiative
if u push him too hard, it's relli gonna be the end
No expectations, no disappointment.
You should stop SMSing him. Make him worry about you. Not the other way.
Originally posted by ditzy:No expectations, no disappointment.
Originally posted by gunner77:
is this some form of hand performing some jobs?
Originally posted by troublemaker2005:is this some form of hand performing some jobs?
what kind of job sia?
Maybe you're not giving him what he wants..
The problem is that you just chose a jerk to be your bf.
To solve this problem, break up with him to be with me and you will realise that you have found your prince charming
Honestly. The messages usually start of with good morning n he replied good morning. Thus i wanted to ask question in hope to keep the conversation going.. Perhaps i have nothing else to keep us chatting...
Originally posted by auditor:The problem is that you just chose a jerk to be your bf.
To solve this problem, break up with him to be with me and you will realise that you have found your prince charming
get a life will you.
I am seriously unsure what a guy wants.
His birthday i got him a branded wallet and a painting of us. He just cant stop complaining about the wallet. So i thought guys are more concern of needs product than wants. Eventually his nxt bday, i got him a pillow as his pillow was dented. N the week later the pillow i gave was in the storeroom..
Affer this pillow stuff, i got him ipod nano for anniversary as he love jogging. But he dont seem to appreciate and left his nano at home even when he go jogging. He still continues using his ipod touch..
I am not expecting much. But i believe every girl wants their bf to remember annoversary day.. So do i..
I think the problem is, he has expectations. Like the gifts example, things like pillow, wallet, etc are just too common and while it might be something he need, it's not something he wants. Getting him something he already has an alternative, will see it wasted. People say it's the thoughts that count, but seriously, often times, we look at gifts and dismisses them in our mind.
Perhaps if he has an interest and you got something related to it, like for example, a die cast car if he's into that.
And about the SMS thing, maybe you should read back your old messages. Have you been boring/clingy? Cause as a guy, I hate chatting with some people because it's so mundane, that after a few lines, there's nothing left to say and this cycle repeats itself daily.
I think you need your own personal time for a bit right now, to think and collect yourself, while at the same time, giving your BF space, for him to decide if he still loves/need you.
Originally posted by Faded^Duck:I have been together with my boyfriend for more than 3 years. He used to be very sweet and good and put me as priority. But since the commencement of his school, he seems to be drifting further from me. He even forgot our 3 years anniversary despite me reminding him since the week before. He promised to bring me to Cable car dinner/Flyer dinner to celebrate this grand day and I was looking very forward to it, but he forgot everything and broke all the promises.
Secondly, we dont text often. Everytime i Sms him, he will take 2-3 hours to reply and the content he reply is not answering to what i have smsed him. E.g. I ask " what time you going school?" 2-3 hours later He reply" Have you eaten your meal?"..
Thirdly, I feel that he is very snobbish. He seems to look down on people that comes from private school. he will always say that his who ever friend cmi so ended in SIM etc. I feel very inferior as i am also a private school student though I know that he is not referring to me.
Apart from these he is still a kinda nice guy. He will deliver supper to me if i am hungry or fetch me from school if i ended class very late.
I know i am contradicting. but what should i do?
your boyfriend must be taught a lesson.....................you must show him what he's missing..............
this is what you should do.................
find some guys and have a gangbang.................then send your boyfriend a video of it..........
Originally posted by Faded^Duck:Honestly. The messages usually start of with good morning n he replied good morning. Thus i wanted to ask question in hope to keep the conversation going.. Perhaps i have nothing else to keep us chatting...
I guess it always happens, it's normally perceived as the fading of a relationship.. but i dont think it is..
this normally happens when couples are so used to each other's presence - sort of like a relationship between a parent and a child or sibling.. that quintessentially their significant other is sort of like a stable constant in a ever changing world..
they will definitely be affected when such a constant disappears or leaves their lives..
your bf could probably be stressed out by his school work.. or other factors in his life..
Oh and another thing, I think he's developed a superiority complex and might be re-thinking his options to match his newfound status, including you and his lifestyle. Just sayin'.
have u had "the talk" with him yet?
Originally posted by Susanteo2011:
your boyfriend must be taught a lesson.....................you must show him what he's missing..............
this is what you should do.................
find some guys and have a gangbang.................then send your boyfriend a video of it..........
why you so violent one?
your bf seems very unappreciative about whatever that you expect or are doing for him... getting used to the r/s is not an excuse for it. Have you spoken to your bf about it? when you gave him the presents, what was he complaining about?