A v.gd friend held back by her persistent ex-bf
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I agree, well said!!!Originally posted by BrUtUs:in poly? u like her jz officially date her out lo... u jz need to do ur part to let her know u better and interest... then u can make ur move...
+ if he use emo, u use wat he did to remind her wat he did... -
mai tu liao
u'll regret greatly if she becomes more soft-hearted as time pass...
worse still, if she gets hurt again after going back to her bf, it's all ur fault. -
Oh how should I get started?
The more I think, the more farked I feel about this shit hole I am in.
Now she's telling me she treat that bastard as a friend and I asked him what happened to the hatred you felt earlier on? She replied its not good to hate forever...
Moreover, the bastard is always comparing her treatment towards me( We are very close) and him. I brought up to her face on and she said that the bastard always ask her why is she so good to me if Im just only a friend. Jealousy courses through me like sour milk whenever I caught her smsing him. Yuck, I hate that feeling so much sometimes I just want to burst out and ask her to end it with that bastard once and for all. I am so very tempted to keylog her chat accounts and peeking into her handphone just to know what the flying fark is going on. Its hurting me too much, so much secrets so much lies by the one I love yet when I asked she would be very elusive and I had to pry the answer out from her mouth.
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Eh, in this case. She already rejected you liao lorrrr... You still don't get it ah ???Originally posted by DaExodus:Wow pikachu, u are spot on. Im really the shy type.
This is true, Not a single part is made up.
Yes I admit I was tempted by the notion of "Love her, let her be sumone she is happy with" . After thinking through, I felt disgusted at this bullshit notion. I might have won her earlier if I hadnt act like a MOFO weakling.
And yes, she knows I like her but she kept telling me that she doesnt deserve someone as good as me that she is just one horrible bitch.
Any suggestions? I want to make her feel beautiful.
She is being polite in telling you , that you are too good for a bitch like her.
In other words, she DON'T want a relationship with you in the romantic sense.
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wats the point?Originally posted by DaExodus:Oh how should I get started?
The more I think, the more farked I feel about this shit hole I am in.
Now she's telling me she treat that bastard as a friend and I asked him what happened to the hatred you felt earlier on? She replied its not good to hate forever...
Moreover, the bastard is always comparing her treatment towards me( We are very close) and him. I brought up to her face on and she said that the bastard always ask her why is she so good to me if Im just only a friend. Jealousy courses through me like sour milk whenever I caught her smsing him. Yuck, I hate that feeling so much sometimes I just want to burst out and ask her to end it with that bastard once and for all. I am so very tempted to keylog her chat accounts and peeking into her handphone just to know what the flying fark is going on. Its hurting me too much, so much secrets so much lies by the one I love yet when I asked she would be very elusive and I had to pry the answer out from her mouth.
BTW, any suggestions to kick start the courting process?
She loves him but do not love you.
you can kick or shout or die, she does not care.
Maybe time will teach you this.
I learnt mine the hard way too.
time for your lesson in life. -
i suggest u should read nelstar's quote.Originally posted by DaExodus:Oh how should I get started?
The more I think, the more farked I feel about this shit hole I am in.
Now she's telling me she treat that bastard as a friend and I asked him what happened to the hatred you felt earlier on? She replied its not good to hate forever...
Moreover, the bastard is always comparing her treatment towards me( We are very close) and him. I brought up to her face on and she said that the bastard always ask her why is she so good to me if Im just only a friend. Jealousy courses through me like sour milk whenever I caught her smsing him. Yuck, I hate that feeling so much sometimes I just want to burst out and ask her to end it with that bastard once and for all. I am so very tempted to keylog her chat accounts and peeking into her handphone just to know what the flying fark is going on. Its hurting me too much, so much secrets so much lies by the one I love yet when I asked she would be very elusive and I had to pry the answer out from her mouth.
BTW, any suggestions to kick start the courting process?
lemme give u a advice...
try to take things calmly, tis gal will return back to her ex. if u lose ur temper n reason out wif her, most likely she will use tis as excuse to end tie wif u.
be a gracious man n wish her ur blessings for them. if she sticks wif the wrong guy, let her be n count yourself lucky not to be wif a gal not worthly for ur sacrifice.
if u acts like a gentleman n tell her the decision for the guy she choose is up to her, maybe she might change her mind who she will want? -
No, I disagree.
This girl will definitely not return to her ex. 110% sure, circumstances involved I am sure that she will not return to him.
It just hurt so much to not get at least a chance to try.
I have been with her since the beginning, who was with her all these while when she was feeling down, angry, lost when she did badly in sch. Its ME, not that bastard who suddenly pops up.
I will not fucking give up so easily.
If she wants me out, she must be cruel to me. I won't stay under the masquerade of continue to be a v.gd friend to her any more longer.
I know her weakness, I can exploit them as well as the bastard did. -
Ok,Originally posted by DaExodus:No, I disagree.
This girl will definitely not return to her ex. 110% sure, circumstances involved I am sure that she will not return to him.
It just hurt so much to not get at least a chance to try.
I have been with her since the beginning, who was with her all these while when she was feeling down, angry, lost when she did badly in sch. Its ME, not that bastard who suddenly pops up.
I will not fucking give up so easily.
If she wants me out, she must be cruel to me. I won't stay under the masquerade of continue to be a v.gd friend to her any more longer.
I know her weakness, I can exploit them as well as the bastard did.
You can try, but don't go nuts if it didn't work out. Else you are just as bad as her ex, but worst you are also a hypocrite.
So now you finally admit lah, you actually have ulterior motives while you pretend to be her very good friend....
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i think that the quote 'asking-her-to-go-back-to-him-if-she-is-happy' still applies, but must ask whether she will be happy in the long run, if this type of situation keep popping up, does she want to break off then get back to forgive him just becos she love him or make a clean slate break n write him off for good.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Dude, if you want to make things work, you got to learn to live the REAL you. Drop diplomatic, politically-correct approaches and all the whatÂ’s not that society has somehow taught you. You should have seen my visage when I read all that you have written. Especially spare me the 'asking-her-to-go-back-to-him-if-she-is-happy' because that's totally crap in my opinion. Completely wrong context - probably taken out from a typical movie script and you don't even know what you are saying.
Let me ask you a question objectively: if this happens to your good friend you have no feelings for, would you even ask your good friend to return back to such a guy? In other words, back to hell?
Chances are, you wouldn't. So why the exception for the woman you love?
Sheesh.
Cheers
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this type of ppl, i will simply throw down a damn sharp knife n say "just slash yr throat from left to right, i will be back in 5 minutes, if u didn't do it by then, u most probably won't kill yrself, if u did it, u most probably will be deadOriginally posted by soul_rage:I once had a childhood friend whom was getting married, she called me desperately and told me a guy whom liked her said he wanted to kill himself coz of her getting married, and then switched off the phone and became uncontactable
This joker was a good friend of my friend, whom I had not been in contact for more than a decade. In the end, I managed to locate this old friend, whom I went thru many many degrees of separation to finally locate his contact. And my childhood friend managed to reach that joker.
To me, such jokers are losers, and deserve to die actually, causing trouble to so many people. They don't deserve anything for not valuing their lives, and treasuring other people.
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wah lau...Originally posted by jojobeach:Ok,
You can try, but don't go nuts if it didn't work out. Else you are just as bad as her ex, but worst you are also a hypocrite.
So now you finally admit lah, you actually have ulterior motives while you pretend to be her very good friend....
i can't believe you said this. All feelings of love start from friendship. Why do you think people say its hard to have a platonic friendship btw a guy and a gal?
if you put it this way, almost all guys have ulterior motives when they first started being friends with their wives. -
Go try then, mate. I believe you can't close this chapter unless you really tried it, and really get convinced whether it willwork or not.Originally posted by DaExodus:No, I disagree.
This girl will definitely not return to her ex. 110% sure, circumstances involved I am sure that she will not return to him.
It just hurt so much to not get at least a chance to try.
I have been with her since the beginning, who was with her all these while when she was feeling down, angry, lost when she did badly in sch. Its ME, not that bastard who suddenly pops up.
I will not fucking give up so easily.
If she wants me out, she must be cruel to me. I won't stay under the masquerade of continue to be a v.gd friend to her any more longer.
I know her weakness, I can exploit them as well as the bastard did.
Just one thing, don't ever behave like the other guy. If you do, then what's the difference btw you and him?
Also, do not make bad remarks about him. Again, that makes you no different from him.
There are 2 ways to show others you are better. 1 is to step on the other party and belittle/insult/degrade him. The other (which I subscribe to), is to elevate yourself to a higher position (proving you are better by BEING better).
I don't think you want to go down path 1. Most of the time, you won't succeed, and even if you do, you won't feel good about yourself. -
Help
I feel like the bastard now.
No doubt, that bastard is taking path 1. I know he has been calling/smsing her, brainwashing/sweet talking. As I said earlier, that bastard has already started discrediting all the time I spent with her.
To do the same to him is very tempting. At times, I just lost my grip and blurted out bad comments abt him.
I think my best chance lies in path 2 but it takes alot of self-control, the ability to suppress the impulse of wanting to badmouth him that comes so sudden when Im with her.
Im even become so insecure that I want to tag along everywhere she goes because I'm afraid she will be meeting him. She confess she went to buy a KFC meal with him a while back, only 1 meeting but deep inside, Im wondering whether isit only 1?
She said its good that I ask cos then she can control herself.
Argh another thing is that sometimes I just want to tell her straight into her face to choose me or him but I know this would do us no good..
Sorry for not making any sense, organising the points..anything that comes to her, I cant make any sense. -
Wah, so shiok , she got two puppy dogs to play around with.Originally posted by DaExodus:Help
I feel like the bastard now.
No doubt, that bastard is taking path 1. I know he has been calling/smsing her, brainwashing/sweet talking. As I said earlier, that bastard has already started discrediting all the time I spent with her.
To do the same to him is very tempting. At times, I just lost my grip and blurted out bad comments abt him.
I think my best chance lies in path 2 but it takes alot of self-control, the ability to suppress the impulse of wanting to badmouth him that comes so sudden when Im with her.
Im even become so insecure that I want to tag along everywhere she goes because I'm afraid she will be meeting him. She confess she went to buy a KFC meal with him a while back, only 1 meeting but deep inside, Im wondering whether isit only 1?
She said its good that I ask cos then she can control herself.
Argh another thing is that sometimes I just want to tell her straight into her face to choose me or him but I know this would do us no good..
Sorry for not making any sense, organising the points..anything that comes to her, I cant make any sense.
Infact, she is playing you and her ex against each other....
Having her cake and eating it too .. yeah....she da smart girl....
Please lor, is she really such a bimbo that she cannot control herself ?
She got no brain har ?
What issit you like about her ? Her stupidity ?
Actually, she's not the stupid one lah, is the ones with the di cks.
Men are soooo gulible... -
Haiz.... what's with the sweeping statements? And why all the angst? Some of the usage of your words is really uncalled for. Why are you going around making needless personal attacks like these? Not just in sgforums but on Stomp too.Originally posted by jojobeach:Wah, so shiok , she got two puppy dogs to play around with.
Infact, she is playing you and her ex against each other....
Having her cake and eating it too .. yeah....she da smart girl....
Please lor, is she really such a bimbo that she cannot control herself ?
She got no brain har ?
What issit you like about her ? Her stupidity ?
Actually, she's not the stupid one lah, is the ones with the di cks.
Men are soooo gulible...
I get the point you are trying to make, but I think there's no need for all the sarcrasm and usage of mean words. Really seems like you're here in sgforums more to put down people than to really help anyone. -
what is your status with her now? she's your gf yet?Originally posted by DaExodus:Help
I feel like the bastard now.
No doubt, that bastard is taking path 1. I know he has been calling/smsing her, brainwashing/sweet talking. As I said earlier, that bastard has already started discrediting all the time I spent with her.
To do the same to him is very tempting. At times, I just lost my grip and blurted out bad comments abt him.
I think my best chance lies in path 2 but it takes alot of self-control, the ability to suppress the impulse of wanting to badmouth him that comes so sudden when Im with her.
Im even become so insecure that I want to tag along everywhere she goes because I'm afraid she will be meeting him. She confess she went to buy a KFC meal with him a while back, only 1 meeting but deep inside, Im wondering whether isit only 1?
She said its good that I ask cos then she can control herself.
Argh another thing is that sometimes I just want to tell her straight into her face to choose me or him but I know this would do us no good..
Sorry for not making any sense, organising the points..anything that comes to her, I cant make any sense.
Have you told her you liked her yet? What is her response?
Get a hold on yourself, if you are out of control, how are you going tobe clear about what you need to do? -
actually, I feel that jojoBeach sounds negative, pessimistic type of character.Originally posted by SumOne:Haiz.... what's with the sweeping statements? And why all the angst? Some of the usage of your words is really uncalled for. Why are you going around making needless personal attacks like these? Not just in sgforums but on Stomp too.
I get the point you are trying to make, but I think there's no need for all the sarcrasm and usage of mean words. Really seems like you're here in sgforums more to put down people than to really help anyone.
Unsure why she is like that, but do hope things are fine for her... -
She's only like that towards guys. She's never like this towards another female forumite. It's like she hates guys or something.... or she has something deeply personal against guys.Originally posted by soul_rage:actually, I feel that jojoBeach sounds negative, pessimistic type of character.
Unsure why she is like that, but do hope things are fine for her...
The impression she gives me is the kind of extremist feminist who lets herself get carried away. -
Not really. I think she provides good advice sometimes. For example, this threadstarter's case is over in my opinion as she had said.Originally posted by SumOne:She's only like that towards guys. She's never like this towards another female forumite. It's like she hates guys or something.... or she has something deeply personal against guys.
The impression she gives me is the kind of extremist feminist who lets herself get carried away.
So if the TS still persists, it's going to push the girl away from him even more.. So threadstarter, if Im in your position, this is what I will do: "dear, I am going to leave you alone and make your own decision. When you are settled in your decision, you let me know then." Then you start finding other girls.
In any case, keep in mind this girl is history in my book.
doko -
so make your decision fast before her bf get the chance..
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No I think she's right. Im not her clone by the way.Originally posted by soul_rage:actually, I feel that jojoBeach sounds negative, pessimistic type of character.
Unsure why she is like that, but do hope things are fine for her...
doko -
Not that I don't like all guys.
It's those overly persistent guys I dislike.
It's like you have to throw poop in their face to get them to back off.
Some try so hard to try to impress you, it's nauseating.
Like, what's wrong with you? Can't take NO for answer ???
I appreciate guys who knows when to stop, when I politely reject them.
Feminist ? Sure I am, I'm a female.. hellloooooo.. if I don't fight for female rights, who's gonna do it ?? the MALES ???? -
Hope you don't treat all the guys in the world as if they owe you a million dollars or are your slaves...lolOriginally posted by jojobeach:Not that I don't like all guys.
It's those overly persistent guys I dislike.
It's like you have to throw poop in their face to get them to back off.
Some try so hard to try to impress you, it's nauseating.
Like, what's wrong with you? Can't take NO for answer ???
I appreciate guys who knows when to stop, when I politely reject them.
Feminist ? Sure I am, I'm a female.. hellloooooo.. if I don't fight for female rights, who's gonna do it ?? the MALES ???? 
doko -
No comment about the kind of guys stated above especially since I'm not one of them.Originally posted by jojobeach:Not that I don't like all guys.
It's those overly persistent guys I dislike.
It's like you have to throw poop in their face to get them to back off.
Some try so hard to try to impress you, it's nauseating.
Like, what's wrong with you? Can't take NO for answer ???
I think I should make a distinction here, I specifically used the term extremist feminist. Kind of how people refer to radical Islam. I'm all for women's rights and human rights, but it's a different thing to carry it too far.I appreciate guys who knows when to stop, when I politely reject them.[/quote]
In some case, the guy is sincere about the girl. Just being general here.[quote]Feminist ? Sure I am, I'm a female.. hellloooooo.. if I don't fight for female rights, who's gonna do it ?? the MALES ????
Like indiscriminate male-bashing and being hostile to a person just because he's a guy. Conveniently labelling all guys as perverts who only want to take advantage of girls. The list goes on.... Basically people who carry the feminist issue too far.
I just hope you're not that type of person, which is also the female equivalent of an MCP. Both are wrong in my opinion.
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No lah, where got enough time for all the guys in the world ?? I wish !! hhehehe..Originally posted by dokono:Hope you don't treat all the guys in the world as if they owe you a million dollars or are your slaves...lol
doko
Buuut, if the guys willingly come and be my slaves.....I won't be so heartless as to reject them lah....